I am devasted. I have had 2 miscarriages since 12/05. I am 35 and being seen by a reproductive endocronologist. I had a FSH test my levl is 17.6. My doctor said I am peimenapausal which is causing my miscarriages. He said that i have a 50/50 chance of having a baby whcih may have chromosonal abnormalities. I don't know anyone who is going through this. I have no children. We just got married in 9/05 and wanted to start a family asap. I can't wrap my brain around this. I am hoping to find some success stories of childbirth from women in my situation. Please help me.

Dear KMG, I feel your pain, I miscarried at about 36yrs old. I had 2 lil ones at that time 5 and 8yr olds. Now I will tell you I didnt plan to get pregnant again because I didnt wamt to go thru that again. Well 2 years later at 38 I did and had my last baby boy. Now it sounds like a happy ending but it wasnt.
When I got pregnant I was soooo worried, then to add insult to injury my Gyn. who up to that point I liked told me to get a spinal fida test because of my age, and she also wanted the other test where they stick the needle to check for abmoralities, cant remember name of test. I did go with spina fida test, and mind you my first 4 months of pregancy I get deadly sick, cant eat , stomach ect. The test showed a problem and she said to do it again and maybe cause of my age he might have down syndrome, ect ect. Well to make a long story short, I changed doct. because I wanted a 2nd opinion and she was full of doom and gloom.
I know think if I would have gone with the 2nd test there is a small percentages of loosing the baby, I wasnt going to take that chance, If God decided to give me a child in my older years than I was going to protect him. I did get a new doc. who was alarmed at my Bp was high due to stress, then he said, Do you want to now relax and our goal is to deliver a healthy baby to you. The statistics are just that, and I was in good health and maybe me not eating had shown a problem with the test. My second opinion now in life has saved my sanity. I went on to have a normal pregancy and a beautiful healthy baby boy. I also mind you before the delivery had gone to a bday party and a group of ladies there had prayed over me, and I felt a since of peace that whatever God would send me now I would accept. So the moral of the story is how happy are you with your Doc. and would you maybe like to get a 2nd op. and see what they could do for you, women seem to be having their familys later now so there new technology. Good luck, sorry for the long post, Take care, Tinkybug

Hi FMG

I am so sorry you are going through this - I do hope we can help you here at PS. I cannot imagine how you feel about the miscarriages as I have never had children - I can only offer you a virtual hug and support.

My FSH is way higher than yours and I am in peri-menopause and I am 44. Lab levels for peri are classically 40 - 200 mIU/ml? (but levels fluctuate wildly in peri) I am also period free (for 5 months) and have classic peri symptoms. But your levels are being used I guess as a predictor of whether you can produce enough good quality eggs for fertilisation and also as a measure of the fact that you are approaching perimenopause (ie not in it but on the way)?

I do hope your Drs can help you through this and I also hope they are explaining what is going on to you - there may some fertility bulletin boards (Resolve?) that may have women on them who may be able to help you too?

I hope you are OK

Mele

why does your dr. say that you have a 50/50 chance of chromosonal abnormalities???? What does menopause have to do with that??????