I am 44 (time is flying these days!) and have several peri symptoms, one of which is dryness as evidenced by the increasing need for lubricant during sex.

Now...I am finding that many days I feel like I have cotton between my vulvar lips and it has a slight burning feeling. Is that what other people are feeling? I feel like my underware have been wedged up in there all day.

I know they call it vaginal dryness but it's my vulva that is dry. I feel like I need to smear SOMETHING on it for relief! What that is, I have no idea.

Just want to compare notes and see if this in fact part of the dryness of peri!!!

Well, here's what it feels like for me....

When my hub and I are trying to be intimate, it feels like his penis is made of SANDPAPER.

Sooooooo ouchie!!!!!

Oh, and I hobble around for 2 days afterward.

Hey Toobusy I hear you!!!! You described it to a tee. Have you tried Vitamin E, you buy the capsules and cut them and put some right on the vulva part. Its a lil sticky after but it works. I suffered terribly from this for a long time and found the Vitamin E to be soothing, I tried all kinds of lubs. and really didnt relieve my problem cause I think its hormonel dryness. I did come across a salve made up of calendula,vit. e, essential oils and another thats great that has a whole bunch of great natural ingredients. I just after 6months of pain free started up again after my period and put one of these salves for 2 days and its gone, what a relief. Anyway do try the Vitamin E and see if that helps. I read that the vulva are starts to become thin and we need to nourish it, oh the joys, Take care, Tinkybug

Thanks! I'll try the E. Sounds good.

I tried lubes too but they tend to dry up quickly so something a little sticky may be the key! Mine is worse the closer I get to my period and then for a day after it starts. Then I am ok again for a while.

Tinky,

Can you pm me the name of that salve? I have tried everything over the counter for irritation and nothing seems to be just right.

Oh I love your name Just Ducky, I love ducks, ladybugs and butterflys. What I dont like is a dry GENIE (vagina) I will pm you the info right now, help is on the way, Tinks

I was wondering exactly the same thing, I get it too! I've been noticing it the last few months and think it might be worse just after my period.

I ended up not yet ordering the salve tinky mentioned..although, I still might, just to keep it on hand.

I was going from feeling bone dry, to feeling irritated and sometimes itchy (on the outside, not inside). I didnt order the salve, because I had already ordered some other creme and thought I would try that first.

It seems to be doing the trick for this dry and/or itchy feeling. And lately, I dont feel the irritation. I dont need it daily..since I dont have that feeling all of the time, but it works very well, so far, when I do. Its very light, and natural feeling, and doesnt seem to stain.

I dont think I can post the name, but if anyone wants to try it pm me or even tinky..since I mentioned to her, that I was waiting for it to come in the mail.