I feel as if I'm all alone in the world. I don't feel like I really have a life anymore. The full life I had two years ago is gone. My daughters are pretty much grown and out on their own. My sisters have their own lives and problems to deal with. We used to do so much together. Now we don't. I have absolutely no sex drive anymore. I used to be so active. I would go to the gym about 4 times a week. Now I have no desire to go. I used to feel sexy and pretty. Now I just feel like I'm getting old. I'm 48 years old and about to turn 49. I used to desire my husband. There are no urges anymore. I am so sensitive. It seems like the people that I love the most hurt my feelings often. I feel as if I would be better off cutting myself off from everyone I love so I won't hurt emotionally anymore. I feel so useless and I really don't know how to get out of this slump. I've been taking bioidentical progesterone for about 4 months now. It hasn't helped much...maybe slowed down the hot flashes some, but has done nothing for my libido. My husband is so frustrated with me because of my lack of sex drive and my lack of desire to do all of the things we used to do together. Can anyone offer any advice to me? I feel I need to join a club or something to get me out of the house and start really living again. Where do I start? Someone please help...................

Anxious, I know it seems bad right now, but it will get better. I am very sensitive as well. If anyone looks at me cross-ways I start to cry. I had to start on ADs to get out of my depression. I was so dead-set against them, but when I finally gave in and took them, it made a world of difference. Have you talked to a doctor? Perhaps they will have some suggestions for you. Until then, continue to come to PS for encourgement. We will make it through this!!!

Anxious ESA-

I agree with Happ1. If you need to try ADs to get thru this, do so with the help a good Phys. Also in the hormone department, in order to be balanced, you need the three types of estrogen, progesterone and testosterone to feel your best.

Progesterone alone won't do it. I can vouch for that as this is all that has been given to me for the last three years. It worked for the most part until 3 weeks ago when my symptoms came back and my anxiety, depression and obsessive thoughts came back big time.

I have always been against ADs until now. If I can't get my hormones straight and am going to try ADs because I really can't function well feeling so badly.

Sandy

ANXIOUS ESA~~~~I can`t give you any better advice that you have received from Happ1 and Sandy....


I just wanted to add that you are not alone.....I felt the same way you did before I came to Power Surge once I found this site,it changed my world....And for the better....


Hang in there ...

Luv and {{{hugs}}} to you
Christina

I have to add that exercise works about as well as many antidepressant medications, according to many studies. It doesn't have to be anything elaborate either. Just walking helps. When I can't take it anymore I just walk out the door and start walking fast around the block. Then I don't have to deal with my problems for a while because I'm not in the house. Just walk the heck out the door and don't come back for half an hour. You'll feel a whole lot better. Trust me. : )

Isadora

ANXIOUS ESA,
I felt pretty much like you do when I first found Power Surge, all alone. No one I knew could relate or even care how I felt.
Everything you have written sounds normal (for a peri-menopaual) women to me. This is how we feel and this is what we must deal with. Yes It s*cks and can down right unbearable at times...
Isolation sometime is just what we need, you may want to read Susan Weed book, she really explain it all!
Try everything and anything that brings YOU comfort, you must be very selfish right now. Take care of yourself!