sure im taking sometimes extra xanax ,,only as needed .. he had a ex wife that was a booozer & she died. but he thinks im harming myself by taking xanax ..my doctor ordred it for me ..he still thinks i should slow down on them ..i only take them when high anixiety & real shaky ..he thinks i should take natural stuff more & try to get out of it ..now he buys my xanax for me ..which only 20 $ a month ..sometimes the health clinic will give free to me ..only when a doctor avialiable.. He gets real mad at me & calls me a Druggie ..thats not right ..i dont care if he does pay for them .. what do all think? and would say ? & feel if it was you in my shoes? i take the pink ones ..which is 1/2 mg ..low doasge ..twice a day ..with out them im not safe to be around ..im lable to hurt myself ...xanax keeps me calm & not loosing my mind ..sorrry for venting here But i need woman answers here .. thanks everyone ...

Peggy, you are not a druggie! And if you BF calls you that, or any other names, that sounds abusive to me. It certainly isn't supportive or loving.

Keep taking your pills as directed by your doc!

thanks hon ..& i feel that way to .we dont deserve the punnishment of going threw menopause ..right?

hey peggy sue
if your boy friend really knew for one min what you are through..he would never have any thing negative to say about it...he is not being very supportive to you....i had a really bad attack yesterday..and had to take 2 ativan...now i know they do not work for sleep any more...it is 1 am and i'm up...but for an anxiety attack the are a must..{{{HUGS}}} from sumee...

peggysue: I agree with the others, hon. I don't think you are addicted to Xanax, but that isn't the point. Even if you WERE, calling you a 'druggie' is hardly helpful, and is, in fact, downright abusive. Are you sure you want to stay with this guy?

i have no choice right now he takes care of me really good. & bought this computer for me & pukes in my face about me taking xanax ..maybe deep down he cares & worries ,,but hes going about it the wrong way ..id love to give up the xanax for petes sake ..im not happy being as he says a DRUGGIE ,,, but by god , the xanax helps me from going to a mental ward & i deserve better encouraging words & support. only support i get is from here ..your wonderfull ...i just dont know what to say or feel any more .i try to be happy as i can ...but darn ...these MEN ..if only they go threw it for just ONE day .....& i care about this man ..what eles should i do?

PeggySue Men can be just so clueless!!!...I know mine is anyway....You need to do what is right for you and what makes you feel better and makes getting through this time in your life easier...If this was happening for men...they would be on every drug in the book..lol...

Hey!...just email me anytime if you need to vent about him or anything for that matter....

(((Hugs)))
Christina

peggysue: i"m not sure what to say to you...to me, I wouldn't care how much a man bought things for me..if he called me names and "puked in my face" as you say, it wouldn't be worth it. He's even got you calling yourself names! Many, many, many women here take Xanax to cope with the debilitating symptoms of menopause. We are not "druggies" (that terms is very high-school, anyways.)....years ago, I developed a dependence on Xanax that my doctor fully expected and dealth with...it was a part of the course of my treatment. He weaned me off and I went on with my life.

It's not like you're popping them in your mouth and downing a couple of beers in order to party the day away----you are attempting to manage medical symptoms---this is prescribed medication.

Again...I don't know the details of your specific situation so it's hard for me to give you advice....maybe he's just shooting off his mouth and doesn't realize how hurtful his words are. Have you tried discussing it calmly with him? Maybe you could print off the article about Xanax on this website and let him read it...

Hi Peggy Sue,

Would it help if your boyfriend talked to your doctor? Hearing from a medical professional that you are not addicted to Xanax might help him see the truth. I'm soooo sorry you have to deal with this on top of all the meno stuff too. He's not being fair to you at all.

Hang in there, Peggy Sue...

RedFox

I posted this under sumee topic, but will add it again here>>>


I cut out a newspaper article from our local paper written by a Dr. Matthew Wagner awhile back, he a staff psychiatrist at the Washington CT health system in Hagerstown Md.

Here is what he wrote about ativan etc;
>>Fast acting drugs such as valium, xanax, klonopin and ativan work quickly to turn the volume down on anxiety symptoms. However they wear off quickly and may need to be taken several times a day. Some people my develop tolerance to the good effects leading them to a need to increase the dose. Addiction to these medications might results, but it is quite uncommon in persons with anxiety disorders who have no other history of addictions.<<

Please tell your bf that the dose you are taking is very small, my brother takes 2mg a day. My brother is a retired state trooper and after two traumatic events in his life he now suffers from a bad anxiety disorder, xanax is the only thing that's gets him through most days. Not sure what I would do without my ativan!

i do take a xanax before i go some place. so i dont have a embarrsing pannick atack & he thinks im using them up to fast. i know how my body works when im out. he wont try to understand that. im trying just to ignore him & let it go threw one ear & out the other. its hard enough have to take it ..im not selling them nor abusing them . I hardlet drink ...geeee i just dont know any more ladies. i try to be happy tho, summer is coming up to.