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carole
Well I' almost embarrassed to bring this up and it probably belongs on the libido board, but not many visit that one.  I have spent several years with low libido, but now that I am on birth control ( for peri) symptoms I suddenly within the last several weeks find myself dare I say (horny ! ).  Where is this coming from ?  Has anyone else experienced a change like this ? Is this normal ?  Its been so long since I 've really desired sex I'm surprised at this.  By the way my husband is impotent and has been for nearly 5 years, prostrate troubles, he's 17 years older then I.  Comments...
Liz51
When I first started perimenopause a few years ago, I seemed to be easily aroused, and I wasn't on birth control pills.  Unfortunately, my husband also has problems caused mostly from a sleep disorder (we're working on that) and stress.  He isn't totally impotent, our love-life is just spread out a little - like once a month or so.  Now, I could care less.  I really do not get "horny" at all, or if I do I have to really work at it.  I'd read about vaginal dryness, but had never experienced it, but the last couple of times we've been intimate I've been very dry and one time it even hurt.  That is not fun.  I'm not on HRT and I can't because of family cancer, so I guess I'll rely on over-the-counter remedies for the dryness and hope my libido perks up.  

jeanne
It is most likely hormonal and not at all unusual. Impotent or not there are of course ways to resolve this feeling , if you get my drift. So talk hubby into some experimenting. It's never too late :)Hugs, jeanne
Jools
I went though a phase of being very 'fruity'!! It was also early on in peri, but it soon settled down to normal....unfortunately......
carole
Thanks gals....I must admit watching the Bee Gees concert on TV does not help !!!!    That Barry Gibb makes me want to swoon... !!!  Sorry ....I'm being silly.
Dicewoman
Hi All,

Carole,

I envy your "hornyness".

This is a little embarrassing but I need to ask a question.  I noticed a couple of weeks ago when I was showering that my (blushing) Clitoris has changed.  I used to notice it had some firmness to it.  Now it feels flimsy.  My husband said he noticed that it doesn't swell when we are "fooling around".  I don't know if this is caused by menopause or the anti-depressant I'm taking.  It has kind of scared me a little.  

I know this is an embarrassing question, but have any of you noticed this change?

I am going to check with my Doc about this also.

I hope you all don't think I'm some kind of pervert.

Embarrassed,

Dicey

Babylon
Haven't noticed any changes in my nether regions, but it would make sense that as general skin elasticity and lubrication changes overall, that it would affect your clitoris/vaginal tissue?

Interesting question, let us know what your doc says! My SO (he's a doctor, but a radiologist...doesn't do any primary care stuff) and I were talking about any changes I may be going through in that area. He says so far he has not noticed anything different. If I start needing lubricant, it's off to the big city adult shops for some lotions & potions...wheeeee.

Kalanie
Hi Dicey... I haven't noticed any changes like that in myself, but I would be interested to know what your doctor says about it.  It would be a good thing to know if it is another symptom of meno.  
EileenG
Dicey, I've been on an antidepressant for several years and I know it takes a lot longer to get the blood flow down there.  Work Work Work!!! lolThanks for bringing up this question.  I'll really be interested to hear what your doctor says.  
Suzie
Hi Dicey,I too had a problem with that while on antidepressants. It was almost impossible for me to get aroused.

Suzie

Dicewoman
Hey Gals,

Thanks for the feedback.  Haven't seen the Doc yet.  I think my "you know what" feels a little firmer again.  We have found some neat stuff to help.  You put a drip of this "stuff" on your "you know what".  It's like it kind of wakes it up a little.  I'm still having trouble due to the antidepressant, but feel better about it now.  Too bad antidepressants can make you feel so much better in some areas and  mess up other areas.  It's kind of like you can't have you cake and eat it too.  No what I mean?

I'll let you know when I talk to the doc.  Thanks to you all again and take care.

Yours,

Dicey  

Babylon
Dicey, we call mine the little sailor (Mick says it looks like a little man in a boat. I say its a little woman sailor. :biggrin: ) Haha, that is probably way too much information!

So, what are you using, coffee grounds? smile.gif

Anyhow let us know what the doc says. I'm not having any problems in this area of my life, but knowlege is always a good thing.

CindyC
Carole, Just wondering which type of birth control pill is giving you this delightful outcome. That may provide some hint at which hormone is responsible. Some are higher in estrogen, others, progesterone.

Thanks, Cincy

NancyV
Babylon,

You are too funny!

I just bought a book out of curiosity called Satisfaction: The Art of the Female Orgasm by Kim Cattrall who is on Sex in the City.   Apparently, from skimming the book there is a lot to learn that I didn't know!    This book is a bestseller...guess there is some interesting things going on in America...smile.gif

Has anyone else read this?

Katlouschaefer
I don't know if anyone is still reading this post, but my doctor said it is low testosterone that causes low sex drive.  I started taking DHEA  with my estrogen, and it did bring my desire back, somewhat.   Now if I could just get my mind in gear...  I am curious to know how many of us are divorced and menopausal.  By the way, I have not read Kim Cattrall's book but I love the show.  Maybe because I'm divorced and I totally identify with being single.  
Dearest
There's a great deal of information in an article I spent quite a bit of time compiling --  Midlife Sexuality, Relationships, Vaginal Dryness

Dearest

Katlouschaefer
Dearest,  thank you for the info. I read the article.  It was very informative.  I had to experiment a lot with HRT to find what was best for me.  It was discouraging at first.  I read about plant derived hormones and tried them but they gave me terrific headaches.  I didn't want to use synthetic hormones, so I ended up with Prempro.  I know it's made from mare's urine, but what the heck?   I always loved horses as a girl.  I don't know if the progesterone in it is synthetic but this combination gives me the least in the way of side effects. I don't take the full dose either.  I cut the pill in half and take the biggest half.  (Control freak?)  I started taking approx  5mg of DHEA  (I cut up 25mg tablet) each day too because I had totally lost my sex drive after starting estrogen and progesterone.  Again, I had to experiment with the amounts and listen to my body.  My doctor said many women go through the same process because we are all different.

Thank you again for the info.  I just love these boards now that I know how to navigate them.

Dearest
Thanks, Kat. I'm glad the article helped. As for the Prempro, well, I guess everyone knows by now that I'm no fan of the "Premarin" family of drugs, but knowing what discomfort so many menopausal women go through, the bottom line is that you're feeling better (even though I'd recommend other options). Just be advised that if you find yourself running around behind your house looking for hay, you may want to consider those options :biggrin:

Dearest

Katlouschaefer
Dear Dearest,

Ok, you caught my curious bone.  Why are you not a fan of  the Premarin family?  I have a vested interest in this.  I read Christiane Northrup's book "Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom"  which is where I began my quest for the perfect hormone, and I started at the top of her list.  I wonder if it says something about me that I ended up at the bottom of the list--ha ha.  No, seriously,  I love legumes.

Peace and love.

MaryO
I'm pretty sure that it's because of the way that Premarin is made - from horse urine - and how those horses are treated.  

Personally, I don't think I could take anything that was made out of any kind of urine.

BTW, if you don't know already, Dr Northrup has been Dearest's guest in Power Surge.  Just look at those Power Surge Quick Links at the top right of every page here on the boards and choose "Transcripts"  You'll see what Dr Northrup...and many hundreds of others have had to say over the years smile.gif

Blueschick
As a horse owner (and horse lover), I just had to give my two cents worth about Premarin. Ladies, please, if you haven't started any HRT and are looking at the options, do not consider supporting the inhumane Premarin industry. Not only are the mares kept continually pregnant and forced to live in unnatural, inhumane conditions (locked in a tiny stall and tethered for several months to a urinary catheter), their foals are considered waste products. Yes, many of the foals are slaughtered.

For those on Premarin who have found relief for troubling menopausal symptoms, it obviously makes no sense to change if you feel well. But for those who are searching for symptom relief, there are so many better alternatives to choose from.

Please do the horses a favor, and don't support an industry that makes hundreds of millions of dollars from the suffering of these wonderful creatures.

Dearest
Well said, Linda. I, too, am a horse lover.

Mainstream medical doctor and Power Surge guest, Alan Altman, M.D. has said, Premarin, while it's been well studied, and it's been a good drug over the years, comes from horses' urine -- and because it is animal based, we don't know exactly what's in it other than the main ingredient, and you can't tell the horses what to pee, says Dr. Alan Altman, assistant clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology and reproductive biology at Harvard Medical School.  

Dr. Altman was Power Surge's Ask The Doctor, but due to a very tight schedule, Power Surge is transitioning to a new  Ask The Doctor -- Dr. Phillip Warner, an Ob-GYN for 35+ years who has followed both conventional and alternative methods of treating menopause.

In a very candid statement, Dr. Warner  said, I’m not an animal-rights person. If I felt Premarin was the best product, I’d say take it and to hell with the horses. But it isn’t, so I don’t prescribe it. – Dr. Phillip Warner, director of the Menopause Institute of Northern California.

Dr. Warner also reported as a result of a study among physicians that 66 percent of  physicians have patients who complain of side effects from taking Premarin.

As for me, Premarin, made by Wyeth-Ayerst Laboratories, is the only estrogen replacement drug  made from animal waste. Other drug companies produce ERT drugs from plant sources, which more closely mimic the estrogens in the human ovary.

Women aren't horses. The idea of hormone replacement therapy is to replace a woman's female human hormones as closely as possible to those her body naturally produces. Equine estrogens made from horse urine, aren't equivalent to human female estrogen. Coupled with that, there are numerous other equine hormones and chemicals with which the female body isn't familiar.  

In addition to the usual risks associated with HRT - liver problems, gall bladder problems, elevated blood pressure, stroke, blood clots, breast and uterine cancer --  conjugated estrogens, in particular, have been known to cause elevated triglycerides, one of the most significant contributing factors to heart disease

In addition to increasing the risk of disease in older women, Premarin is taking its toll in another population, young female horses. The Premarin industry spells misery and death to hundreds of thousands of horses and foals. There are approximately over 450  producing PMU farms. Each year, more than 100,000 mares are impregnated each year and tied in stalls six out of the eleven months of their pregnancy - for the duration of their pregnancy and re-impregnated as soon as possible after the birth. Stalls so small, these innocent mares cannot turn around, nor even take a few steps, nor comfortably lie down, nor can the horses lie on their side, their natural sleep position and can't groom themselves.. They get relatively no exercise - allegedly they are exercised outside their stalls no more than once a week. Many are not let out from mid-September until late March. Horses are accustomed to trotting and running. How much can you deprive a living thing?

They are then fitted with a rubber collection cup attached to a hose, irritating rubber sacks strapped around the mares' groins so their urine (known as PMU, or pregnant mares' urine) can be collected to make Premarin, Prempro and Prempac.

The mares are kept thirsty, denied free access to water, so their urine will yield a more concentrated estrogen. The foals resulting from these pregnancies are usually slaughtered and considered unwanted byproducts of the industry.

For those who believe the allegations of animal abuse are the result of only radical animal rights organizations, be advised that many mainstream animal's rights associations have been very vocal in speaking out against Wyeth-Ayerst's inhumane treatment of animals in the production of these drugs. Power Surge has never been silent on this issue. In fact, back in '96 or '97, I invited Wyeth-Ayerst to participate in a forum on Power Surge to answer the animal abuse  allegations and many questions by women who were taking or considering taking Premarin. I brought together representatives from Wyeth-Ayerst and PETA, People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals, for an open discussion. You can read the transcripts in the Web site's Library.

Bottom line - it's not just a question of animal abuse, but that with so many options available, I can't imagine why any woman would knowingly swallow anything with horse pee in it.  And, as I've said before, if you don't believe it, take one of your Premarin pills and pulverize it. Drop a little water on it and see how your room begins to smell like a stable.

Dearest

Katlouschaefer
Dearest and Linda

Well I asked the question, and you have totally grossed me out.  But thank you for the info.  I had no idea they were treating horses the same way they treat veal calves.  Don't ask me why I thought there was some little man out in the pasture with a bucket, trying to catch horse pee, but that's basically what I thought.

Dearest
Addendum: I was just reading an article on Medscape to further confirm a point I've made many times about triglycerides and conjugated estrogens (Premarin, Prempro, Premphase):

"Triglycerides fell by 8.5% in women on Activella and increased by 11.7% in those on Prempro (P<.001), and total cholesterol declined by 9.1% and 6.9%, respectively."

Dearest

Dearest
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Quote: from Katlouschaefer on 12:17 pm on Mar. 12, 2002[br]Dearest and Linda

Well I asked the question, and you have totally grossed me out.  But thank you for the info.  I had no idea they were treating horses the same way they treat veal calves.  Don't ask me why I thought there was some little man out in the pasture with a bucket, trying to catch horse pee, but that's basically what I thought.

Kat, if you're grossed out, (geeze, I haven't heard that expression in years), imagine how the horses feel sad.gif border=0 alt=sad.gif />

So many women have such blind faith in what their doctors say -- not that women shouldn't have confidence in their healthcare providers --in what prescriptions they give them. Here, dear, take this and you'll feel better. What Power Surge has been attempting to do all these years is to empower women to take charge of their own health, not be afraid to ask questions, to ask their doctors what options are available for treating their menopausal issues. I've seen many changes since starting this community. Many more doctors aren't holding a deaf ear to their menopausal patients (maybe because there are so many of us). Many doctors are practicing integrated medicine whereby they openly recommend HRT and/or natural, alternative options. Who knows, maybe it's because alternative remedies have regained popularity. Maybe because baby boomers talk about their issues,  ask lots of questions and aren't usually satisfied until they get answers. We're a terrific generation. We've laid the groundwork for so many changes in our society.

All that matters is that the tide is turning. It warms my heart to know that in the past eight years, millions of women have passed through Power Surge and learned that taking charge of their own health isn't simply a matter of  Take two aspirin and call me in the morning.

Dearest

debrikkia
Although I knew that Premarin was made from mare urine, I was totally ignorant about how it is obtained, and how the horses are treated!  This brought tears to my eyes, and made me sick to my stomach.  I don't take Premarin myself, and you can bet that everyone that I know that DOES, will be hearing from me in the very near future!  Thanks for the education.  I just simply had never thought about it.Debbi
sports
I have heard a lot about "natural" estrogen.   How is this different from the premarin made from horse urine?   I do not like to hear that animals are mistreated.  
zjsurfer
Tina,

It is made from plants and is bio-identical to the estrogen women produce.

Zelma

sports
Zelma:

Thanks for the information.  This will be very helpful when I see my GYN doctor in a few weeks.   The hot flashes are an inconvenience at best, especially at night!    

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