Sigh...I'm 50.  Breast cancer treatment last year kicked me into full menopause, whereas before I barely noticed perimenopausal symptoms.  I am out of treatment now, and my libido is at an all-time high.  The problem is the DH...he has never been a sexy guy, and NOT proactive in the least.  He has gotten fat, out of shape, and I am not even physically attracted to him anymore.  We've been married 12 years, and he is a good guy and seems to love me...but he does NOT make me feel like a natural woman, if you know what I mean!  I hate myself for this, but I am also angry at him...angry that he likes cookies more than sex!  I feel like I want to leave the marriage, but am afraid of all-out lonliness.  I tried to have an affair, but that guy pulled the double-standard on me...I wanted sex; therefore, I ruined the relationship.  What's a girl to do? I'm half-way attractive for 50...but wonder how many unattached, good men are out there in my age group.  Any single menos out there, looking?  I hate to leave the DH, but I don't think my interest in him can be revived.  I'd particularly appreciate hearing from any MEN out there in Cyberland who have any suggestions. (No kidding, I just want your suggestions.) Thanks!