Can someone please help me find some information on the web related to sexuality during menopause. My female boss, who is in her early fifties is in a terrible state and is loathe to approach her GP. She confided in me recently that she has been having feelings towards other women (she has always been in heterosexual relationships) for about 6 months. I have tried to reassure her by insisting that women feel confused about their own sexuality during menopause due to the fluctuating hormone levels but she remains unconvinced. She really thinks that there is something wrong with her and feels she cannot see her GP about this. I have found many websites with informaion about lack of sexual desire but none relating to feelings of attraction to other women. I feel sure she would consult her GP if I could convince her these feelings were related to the menopause. Please please can anyone help me out?

Hi Gaynor, can't really advise you on this one, but menopause is a time of confusion and change generally.It might be an idea to post the same question on the sexuality/libido (not sure exactly what it is called, but something like that!!) board as well, as it may be missed here.Good luck.

Gaynor.... I have a couple of questions... are you male or female?  Sorry, but you didn't specify, and I see you are from the UK, where many names are a little different than here in the U.S.   Anyway, I am wondering why your boss has confided this to you?  It seems like an odd topic for the workplace to me, unless she might be interested in you?

Secondly, does your boss have a computer?  In my experience, I have found it difficult to "convince" anyone to do anything they don't want to.  Seems like if she has the ability to search herself, taking ownership of her own issue might be more helpful to her in examining it with a professional than for you to try to "convince" her to.    

As Gemini says, there is a libido thread here at PS, but I can't recall ever reading anything here about that specific topic.  Have your boss type in "sexuality" at a search engine and see what pops up.  :)

" Have your boss type in "sexuality" at a search engine and see what pops up

Probably thousands of porno sites.

I might suggest typing in "menopause and homosexuality" for something more specific. In all honesty, I've never heard of this being a particular issue during menopause. Maybe she's feeling a bond with other women that doesn't seem natural to her. Women do bond rather intensely at this juncture of their lives, and I suppose, for some who haven't had such close relationships with other women, it might be confusing. Simultaneously, many women become annoyed with their husbands/significant others who may not understand what they're going through, so that can add to the confusion the woman is feeling.

I know I find myself saying to dear friends, Love you" when we've discussed how we're feeling, when we're depressed or feeling awful, or exchanged personal thoughts. I really can't recall using that type of language among female friends when I was younger. So, I can see how it could be confusing to those who are already confused by the many symptoms of menopause.

I hope that makes sense. I must look through the relationship board topics, but I do think I remember reading something about this before.

Dearest