I have been having problems with no libido.  The heart is willing but the flesh took a vacation.

I have been reading about ZESTRA.  Has anyone tried it?  It's not cheap and I don't want to waste my money, even on a trial size.

I know the feeling. I have no libido and am willing to try products but I suffer from anxiety and am scared that it will enrage the anxiety. I would personally go to your doctor and ask.

I need to get some feedback here!!!!!! I got married 2 years ago - 5 years ago was when my libido increased dramatically. This was after I left my first controlling over-sexed husband. With my new hubby I found that I actually liked sex and it was such a relief to me!!! Anyway after wearing him out and demanding a lot of physical intimacy for 2 years I suddenly seem to have lost the craving........... Also I THINK I may have missed my first period - it was due 2 weeks ago and I've never been THAT late. Could that have something to do with it??????????? Tel me it DOES!! I know that other women have said that they got an increased sex drive for a while, then lost it again and I HOPE this isn't going to be the same for me. We HAVE had a lot of worry lately with money issues and that has stressed me out.........Please don't tell me this is the end of my sexual desire - I waited until I was 45 to enjoy it and I don't want to lose it again!!!!!!!! Rita:(

FEEDBACK Please??? Rita

Hi Rita,

Your hormones are probably flucuating (and this may be the first of your skipped periods in perimenopause).

I am 49 (began skipping periods 6 years ago, and began noticing more peri symptoms in last year or so). I also have always had a high libido and notice now that there are days that I want nothing to do with sex and other days when it is all I can think about. I blame it on my hormone levels.

I am also very stressed lately (financial issues, children issues, yadda yadda....) and have had bouts of depression, which I know affect my sex drive too. Sometimes, I just need a little push in the right direction. We all have our sexual triggers (emotional, physical) and I would suggest focusing on them. That usually gets me going, even though I may think I am not in the mood.


I really think that what you are experiencing is transitory...(think positive girlfriend!!!)

beth

Beth. Thank you for your answer, I was really getting worried that it was all over for me on the intimacy side. I will definately think positive about this and try to "get myself in the mood" sometimes. Now that I know it isn't going to be that way from now on until forever, I have more hope and feel much better!! THANKS it's appreciated!! Rita