Im starting to think there is something wrong with me. You see my problem isnt lack of libido... its an overactive one.. I think..  I actually crave sex.. If I could I would have it all the time. Granted I know I need to work but I find myself wanting to sneak it in between kids, homework, work and life...  My husband is the one that isnt really into sex. He really hasnt been from the start.. I went thru all the emotions thinking he isnt attracted to me... That Im ugly.. and now maybe theres something wrong with me.  I am very responsible. Work hard and it doesnt effect that part of my life at all. I just want sex. Not random.. Sex with my husband. I love him with all my heart and the rest of our relationship is good.  I never thought of my self as a nympho but maybe I am. I just know I love sex with him and want it alot more often then him. Perhaps I need to pray for menopause to give him some peace.. btw Im 34 and he is 38..  Maybe you can all help me explain my desire.. hugs

There is nothing wrong with you Rebakah!!  Be glad!!  You ARE blessed!!!!

I too am feeling very sexual.  I LOVE sex!  As far as sex is concerned- this is the best time of my life!!

Unlike wildflower, my sexual urges really took off at 40!  I'm 44 now, and for 3 weeks out of the month, I could do it 3 times a day (she says blushing!)

Explaining your desires shouldn't be too hard....  One night, in bed, in the dark, curl up next to hubby and whisper in his ear how you feel.   And (I'll say this as delicately as I can......) there are things he can do to please you that doesn't require a lot of effort on his part.

Try to enjoy this time,  you don't know how long it will last!

Amen, L!

If I was gonna lose a lot of my tresses, ya think at least I could have kept my libido???

well sorry it took so long was away on vacation.. I have explained to him my desires. He just thinks its abnormal to want it like I do.. Hes one of those people that think sex is not that important.. He had two failed marriages before me and those woman were very sexual. One so much so thats all she wanted.. He was late for work and went thru a long time when his ex's desire effected his life. They ended up divorced. After we started dating and became sexually active it was not as much as I liked but often. Weve been together for a while now and as normal its died down a bit. We've talked and I guess I have to face the fact that he just isnt into sex as much as I am.  I think his ex wifes' effected him more than he realizes. His first left him for her boss and the second because all she wanted to do is go to bed. It was how she solved her problems... or should I say ran from them. Im not sure if I can overcome those issues he doesnt even realize he has. Either way I love him more than I have ever loved anyone. My life now.. is more than I ever hoped for. We are successful have great kids and a great home. Which in turn adds to my desire. Im happy and so is my sex drive. I treasure my fantansies and well I guess I should count my blessings.  thank you guys for listening.

So does anyone have any libido dampeners? I keep remembering those old stories about saltpeter and cold showers, but I think those were only for men . . . My hormones seem to be making me WAY too friendly - I'm not in a relationship, just dating, and I keep wanting to get carried away, but know it would be wrong. I need to disengage my libido and re-engage my common sense. Any ideas? Desperately seeking serenity, Otter

Actually,i have had quite the appetite when it comes to sex since the beginning of the year,but i was too ~shy~ to post about it...i was beginning to think there was something wrong with me too.I feel so aggravated and irritated alot because i feel like i NEED sex,and with a house full of teenagers,a hubby that's a work-a-holic and 2 dogs,i don't get it much.....

Oh! Stop bragging you two and take some bromide! .....The military solution to those raging sex hormones. I was just wondering - are you both in peri? and how old are the two of you....just wanna see if I'm normal....cause I am more than 2 years post and it appears that I am over it! :cool: :mad: .....as you can see I have mixed feelings about that. but there was a time........I feel like the old cat from the musical singing "memories"

Midnight - not a sound from the pavement. Has the moon lost her memory, She is smiling alone. In the lamplight, the withered leaves collect at my feet, And the wind begins to moan. Memory - all alone in the moonlight. I can dream of the old days, Life was beautiful then. I remember the time I knew what happiness was. Let the memory live again. Every street lamp seems to beat a fatalistic warning. Someone mutters and the streetlamp sputters, and soon it will be morning. Daylight, I must wait for the sunrise. I must think of a new life, And I mustn't give in. When the dawn comes tonight will be a memory too, And a new day will begin. Burnt out ends of smokey days, the stale cold smell of morning. A streetlamp dies, another night is over, another day is dawning. Touch me, it's so easy to leave me All alone with the memory Of my days in the sun. If you touch me, you'll understand what happiness is. Look, a new day has begun.

jimi,I am in peri...i will be 40 in a couple of weeks.....this sexual appetite will go away???You mean i (and hubby) better get it while the gettins' good?

40!!!! - Ok! get all you can get baby cakes LMAO When I was 40 I was a raging nympho too! I'll talk to you in about 10 years - k? Man, I am feeling better already ~ still don't want any tom cats prowlin around though lol BUT - remember that everyone is different and your "appetite" may never go away. I am just curios......didn't curiosity KILL the cat - oh dear why did I take this line of thought......

I've heard of libido soaring in peri. Between the anxiety and antidepressants, I don't think of it much. But, start me up, so to speak, and my orgasmic experience is quite satisfactory. I'm 47. My sister is 54, post and her experience mimics mine. She's wondered if another man would make her melt more. My 59 year old sister said, "What a lot of work sex is, peeing first to prevent UTI, the lubricant, I remember when ........." Still, they enjoy their sexual encounters. So...........................Get it while you can.

Hey guys - you are no help at all. My problem is there isn't anyone suitable to HAVE SEX WITH. And I'm 55, just starting peri. I'm really worried I'm going to jump one of my unsuitable dates and start something I shouldn't. Sat in a 4 hour meeting yesterday fantasizing the whole time. I feel like a 13 year old boy. ARGHH. Otter

I hear ya Otter. My hormones were raging from 36 to 41. Wanted it all the time. Now I'm satisfied with 3-4 times a month. Peace AA

hahahahahahaha! Otter you cracked me up LMAO - TA!

Otter, Increased desire is common early in peri - estrogen is decreasing and testosterone is about the same - wala - increased desire! It happen to me - I was in peri for about 8 years before my hysterectomy. Now the hysterectomy stopped that! I'm on a testosterone supplement as well as Estrace now - libido is back; but not over whelming like early peri. This too will pass! (Which the extreme, if you're not married, is probably not such a bad thing!) Zelma

Hey Zelma - thank you for that sensible explanation. I'm glad it's not a side effect of the jackrabbit I'm dating - figured he was putting out extraordinary pheromones or something And Jimi - I LOVE to make you laugh, you little cutie! Otterly Overwhelmed by Desire P.S. I have a date with yet another new guy tonight (the internet is a strange place). Will I want to jump him, too? PLEASE let that not happen.

Hi Otter get yourself somethiing to play with Stop ya jumping some poor guy. My sex drive comes and goes demending on the time of the month. Thanks goodness for that as now i am single to otter. So this not getting it is going to be a new one for me. wonder how i will cope. Take care Pauline:

Yeah Otter. Seeing that you are into pets why not get yourself a rabbit like them gals on Sex and the City!

Pauline and Alice: once again, you are no help at all!!!:D Unless, of course, hysterical laughter is the cure for what ails me. NOT. (Funny, I've only ever seen one episode of Sex and the City and it was the rabbit one!) It's just not the same - no cuddling afterward! Luckily, I did NOT want to jump last night's date. Plus, it turns out he knows my best friend from high school - it would be like kissing my brother. EEEYUUUU! Keep those ideas coming, even though I complain! Hungry Otter P.S. Pauline - maybe we could start a club! (Jimi thinks I'm starting too many, though)

Reading a good book gets me in the mood, a hot bath gets me in the mood. Go to bed? nothing!!!!! A sign?

So Leslie - are you thinking you should do it in the bathtub? :o While reading??:o Don't let your book get wet! Otter

You definitely don't want to be in the club Otter!

otter Yes lets start a club me you and jimi and any other singles that would like to join. Just thought though and as my son says don't do that mum you might hurt yourself:o Jimi has no sex drive well its up to us otter to help her get it back. Now jimi i know you used to have a rabbit;) Still got it? Leslie what's with that hubby of yours show him what he is missing. Take care Pauline

Soooo - if the other club is the "PLUCKERS" club......what shall we call this one??? ~ and what on earth were you thinking of doing Pauline that your son thought you might hurt yourself doing it ??? ~In THIS club, you would'nt have to OWN a rabbit, you would have to BE the rabbit ! ~Pauline - I have no idea how you intend to "revive my libido" - but it could be VEEEERY INTERESTING! ~ 2young - yes - sounds like you definately should make the tub a bit more comfy

Thats just it Jimi son thinks by me having a THOUGHT that i might just hurt myself. Now what to call ourselves i can think of some but well i might get booted of the boards if i print them so guess? Jimi No job is to large for otter and me its in your interest to get your sex drive back keeps ya young you know:D Take care Pauline

You don't need a rabbit otter, a shower messager will work I too have a very active libido, but am lucky enough to be in a relationship. I'm not married, so that makes him even more attractive:D And Leslie.... if reading puts you in the mood, and a bath puts you in the mood, what's up with the MAN?? Could HE be taking you OUT of the mood??? When I was married, I thought I had lost interest in sex, as it turns out, I lost interest in HIM. I'm not feeling creative enough to come up with a name for this club, so jimi and otter GET THINKING!!! You girls are hysterical!!!

The S.O.B. Club????? SEX ON BRAIN???? Okay, so it's not a great name. I'm trying! LOL Anyone else got anything?????

I like jimi's idea for a club name. Pluckers Club for whiskers, F***** Club for the testosterone-driven menosisters Of course, that means we can NEVER reveal the name of the club, right? Or, we could use a variation of Leanne's SOB theme - the Sisters Overwhelmed (by) Desire. S.O.D. Ooops - sorry, is there a British profanity-checker on this site? Or Testosterone Anonymous? (TA) I definitely need a meeting today to keep me from doing something insane. Otter Be Committed

Mid-Life Lust Club Lust for Life Or for some: Lack Of Lust

not sure how I would fit in, or maybe i'm in denial:D try working with the"BOMBS". Babes Of Meno Blast.....

Just got a joke from a friend. A wife was in the kitchen this morning. Her husband came up behind her and gave her butt a pinch, saying "you know, if you firmed this up we could get rid of those control top pantyhose". She kept her cool, not dignifying him with a response. The next morning her husband awoke her by giving both of her breasts a pinch while saying" you know, if you firmed these up we could get rid of your bras". This being too much to keep quiet about, she reached over, grabbed his privates with a firm grip and replied" you know, if you firmed this up we could get rid of the gardener, the mail man, and the cable guy" not enough energy or interest for for one...how come this was sent to me? lol

I don't know why they sent it to you either 2young, but I'm glad you shared LMAO - what a p*r*i*c*k!