Hi everone !

This may be too personal a question, but here goes. I've noticed that my orgasms feel different that they used to. The build-up and release just doesn't feel like "old times". Specifically, sometimes it takes too long and other times the orgasm comes too fast. But mainly, the sensation is different, like the nerves down there aren't functioning right. Sometimes, I'm not even sure that I climaxed.
It ends up feeling overstimulated so I quit.

Is anyone else having problems with this?!!

suzy

Somewhere in past threads a few years ago this was discussed. My gyno said, "well, it's never going to be the way it was" and she was right. I hated this part of meno.

You might need to give things a rest longer than you used to, like having sex every two weeks instead of once a week. All the books say to give more time to foreplay, and I think that's to get the blood flowing to the vagina. (The blood flow is lessened with less estrogen and/or testosterone.) Or, work on things to get the blood flow going. Why do you think statistics show about half of American women own vibrators?

I've found the compounded estriol/testosterone cream helps, too.

I will tell you something though -- don't feel like a freak asking about this. A lot of my meno friends seem to think sex wasn't that big a deal anyway, so what's my problem? And two (female, younger) doctors acted like I should just get over it.

I was pretty devastated at first as it keyed into a lot of my self-image, but don't despair. You need to work a little harder and maybe be more creative, but you can keep it going. Really, it's a case of use it or lose it.

We'll just be two hot babes!

kimber

Anybody have advice on how to make them happen in the first place????

Mine actually increased in intensity. Also, mine happen within seconds! Now I know how the men with premature ejaculation feels

That comes back to what Kimber said about why so many women own vibrators. Check out a Jessica Rabbit - it works for me every time

Talitha

The Orgasm Thing: Could be - at least it is for me - that I don't feel as artractive as before - you know, wrinkly skin etc. (turn the light off)!! - but with the right mood and lots of foreplay, I enjoy!! A vibrator is the very BEST if you don't have orgasms - at least try it!!
Rita

RSGreen: Ditto to the vibrator suggestion. Also you might want to check out the books of Betty Dodson and Lonnie Barbach. You can easily find them and their websites by googling their names. Lonnie Barbach also has transcripts on this site that you might want to read. Don't give up--continuing education on this subject is actually a lot of fun

Skunky
I feel the same way as I have put on a lot of weight. I know it is all me. When I let go I have never enjoyed making love as much as I do now.

I am not sure but it could have something to do with the fact that my Testosterone level didn't drop just Estrogen and Progesterone.

I was having a few problems with dryness before I started on the progesterone.

But I do agree things feel different. And a vibrator is a great idea!

Barb