I feel for you too, you sound a lot like me. You know I remember my mom having crying spells but that was about it. If she felt anything else she never said. She would say I never had all the problems you girl have had. In the beginning I summed up my monthly episodes to too much stress from all of the changes I have made in the last year and a half. I moved away from where I had lived all of my life. I left my kids who are grown but still young and my two grandchildren of my daughters who are almost 4 months and 17 months about 2 ½ hours away. I moved in with my boyfriend into his home. Last year I got along great with his daughter even though to her I was new. Her mother had to move after her boyfriend of 6 yrs booted her out and she practically left her on our doorstep for all summer. Only called no visits until school started. Now she is living with her ex-boyfriends cousin and boy has everything changed. Supposedly she is getting married (mind you to a man that is still married). My BH cannot step inside their apartment to pick up his daughter, which I am not complaining for it was pretty much the same set up I had with my ex. He does not understand though. This woman makes me so mad; she does not realize how good she has it compared to some. Her support comes out of my BH check because he set it up that way. She sends her child in a pair of sweats and a t-shirt and never anything else. She is suppose to pay back ½ the support during the summer while he has his daughter but because he sat up a wage attachment he does not get anything back. We have bought her clothes but they never return. So we have decided to buy some more and keep them here. It is hard getting use to an 11 year old when mine were finally grown and if I am having a bad day I just tell her upfront that it is not she that is causing it. Even though she has always been use to having her way and controlling everything here at home. Little by little my BH is seeing that it is not making her a better person. We could not even have a birthday party for her without her getting mad at all of her girlfriends because they did not want to be controlled by her. My boyfriend is another story because he can be such or it seemed such a caring person. Although I will admit he is changing from the way he was when I first met him. But then again as my son says they all send their representative in the beginning until they got u. He says that all women are mental. That’s when I say hey except for your daughters’ mother all of the women you have been involved with were either pre or menopausal women. What can you expect? He is 38 and as of yet has never been married and I am a woman that is ready to settle down completely. At first I blamed everything on all of the change but know now by reading some of the posts that a lot of my symptoms are probably from going through the change. Have any of you noticed having discharge? I also have a burning sensation but no other problems. Also anyone have any tips on what to do when you get angry. Last night I thought I was going to loose it because what I call my stepdaughter had the TV really loud and was constantly yelling at her dad or the dog. I think she is hard of hearing. Sometimes I just go outside and work in the yard just to get away. I feel bad though because one thing he has always said is that I get along so well with her. Mostly I think because I put up with way more than I would of my own kids. My daughter is constantly reminding me of that! Do any of you take anything to help and is there some way of me testing my own hormones at home like you do with diabetes. It is pretty scary when you feel that you are alone with all of these problems but I am thankful I found this site!