Barbie...you are so special... all of the major problems for you and you stay concerned about me.  Now, about being red-faced... I don't think so... I will be very, very grateful!  Thank you so much again!  :)

Sylvry... you are very special also... I mean, you HAVE to be to be such a kind mother to the little destructo cat!  :wink:  What I think is that you are teaching her to be a lady, and one of these days, before your eyes, you will see a mature and loving true friend for yourself.   :biggrin:   I tell you, I'd sure love to be amused by all you ladies giggling and little Olivia's antics!  I also thank you for your support and putting a good word in for me upstairs.  :biggrin:   And, also thank you for understanding my fears... I know I have a good doctor, and trust her, but, still, it's as you say... giving someone else control is difficult.  But, as I said, I am working on adjusting my attitude, and I still have some time, lol.  

Aunt B...  I also thank you fo your support and prayers... what a supportive and caring thing for you to do for me!  :)

Sunlynn...  I can also use the karma, so special thanks to you also!  Yes, now I will have some dreams to share on the dreams board... probably very weird ones under the anesthetic!   :biggrin:

Dearest...  I also thank you so much for your kinda nd caring thoughts... I am working very hard on my attitude, because I know you are right about that.  :)  

I am having a procedure done (operational hysteroscopy) on Jan 22, because I have a couple of problems the doctor wants to see and try to fix up for me.  I have a fibroid outside of my uterus and one in the uterine cavity, as well as my endo lining being about twice as thick as it should be.  She thinks she can take out the fibroid in my uterus that is causing my problems (severe cramping and clotting, long periods), and will get rid of some of the lining, as well as get tissue samples.  The two fears I have are the general anesthetic and, of course, the tissue sample being malignant or something like that.  I think this procedure is not a real heavy-duty one, but I am still apprehensive, nonetheless.  I have had very few medical problems in my life.

Thank you so much again for the support... no problem that you didn't see it before... I know how busy you must be with this site, and I am just grateful that it is here...where else can I go and whine like a 2 year old over this??   :biggrin:

I love you all, and am so grateful for all of you here!!

I'm sure that all will be fine, but I know how scary surgery can be.  We'll all be sending prayers and best wishes, though and you'll come out of it with flying colors

Kisses, Barbie xxxxxx

         Best wishes and I'll be praying.

The surgery will be over before you know and you will be fine.  All of us here at Power Surge are pulling for you.  You are in my prayers and thoughts.

HUGGGGGGGGSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!  :smile:  :biggrin:

And, thank you again, Aunt B!  :)

Saturday was the perfect example -- my niece had a birthday party for her 1-year old son.  The guests were mostly her husband's family - who all sat around and watched the football draft -- the tv was on very LOUD, and the men were shouting and cheering, and even the women were rah-rahing as someone got drafted.  (Not being a football fan, I couldn't have cared less, plus, is watching a football draft appropriate at a child's first birthday party????  I think not.)

They did not say one word to me, even though I am an integral part of my niece's life and am her daughter's god mother.  And what REALLY ticked me off was when my elderly parents arrived - after driving 50 miles to attend the party, these slugs did not even get off the sofa to let my parents sit down -- my parents had to sit in folding chairs -- and no one even said hello to my parents!!  

I am horrified, appalled, and angry beyond words.  My niece will hear about it -- after I've had a chance to calm down a bit because if I tell her now, I'll explode!

My anger was never this intense years ago -- or maybe it was, but I never allowed myself to feel it.  I'm finding all emotions much more intense the older I get.  And my willingness to express the anger is stronger too, I just have to wait longer to get it out of my system.

My son-in-law's family is very much like what you describe your niece's husband's family to be like.  They are the rudest, most obnoxious people I have ever met in my life, and I would be overjoyed if I never had to see them again.  I have had to put up with their rudeness at every major ritual I have had to attend, including my daughter's wedding, the birth of my first grandson, and of course, we have another birth coming up this summer.  I moved to the Seattle area explicitly for the purpose of establishing a solid bond with my grandson, whom I do not wish to see exposed to their particular brand of abuse, and so he would be able to have grandparents who value him instead of own him.

In fact, my son-in-law left home at the age of 15 to escape them.  Right now, they are not speaking to him for the past several months because he and my daughter wouldn't come to where they live for Christmas, and they won't move to Colorado to live near them.  My son-in-law is extremely conflicted about his relationship with them, which mostly centers around getting his compliance with guilt trips.

After initial attempts to form some kind of relationship with these people, I decided that I really don't wish to have one with them at all.  Now I pretty much just ignore them, and watch the circus they create at any get-togethers from the sidelines.  I concluded that this was their problem and not mine, and I was not going to make myself miserable because of them.  I find that I am much better off by doing this, and it is just one of those things that we cannot change.  :wink:

I loved your comment about you wanting to be a grandparent who valued the grandchildren, rather than owned them.  That describes the differences between the two families perfectly -- I adore the children, and want to see them grow up happy and healthy, and want to be an important part in their lives.  The other side merely wants to own them -- and buys their affection at any price (with toys, clothes, etc - not to mention monopolizing their time).

Just reading your post made me feel better, and made me realize I'm not alone in this horrible situation.Thank you, Vickie.

Love, Scarlett  

You could be talking about me.  This is new to me  i'm like a ticking bomb waiting to explode.  Feel all this rage inside me but then the next minute my head is in my hands and i'm crying.  Used to get a little anger just before period now i could glably kill all the time.  If something does not go right i'm yelling and shouting.I don't like it.

Take carePauline