He was going by my bones alone. Told me I had soft bones and they are thinning. He said I need calcium and all the other goodies. Shoot, I haven't been to an ob/gyn in years. Needless to say I will be going soon.
I looked at him like he was nuts. I said I'm only 40.
Only 40. I wasn't saying "only" on my birthday. Boy, 40 - that was a tough one! Fortunately I have a sister a year older. It doesn't sound so bad when I say that I'm 40 because immediately after that I say, but my sister is 41.
I got over that 40 thing pretty quick because women were telling me how great life was going to be in my 40's.
Now i know that was just some sick joke. I'm sure they thought they were being kind but I wish they'd given me a book on menopause instead ..
I wouldn't have believed them anyway. I thought that menopause was supposed to happen somewhere in the mid to late 50's at the earliest.
I find myself reading these posts and with some of them I think, oh she must be a lot older than me, but then I read the symptoms and find myself thinking - hey, i have that - i've had that for some time!
On the serious side, when reading the posts on this board I don't know whether to laugh or cry - most of the time. I find myself doing a lot of both..
Fortunately, I come from a family of females with a warped sense of humor and was just thinking that menopause must have been made with my family in mind.
We're just sick enough to find humor in something as low down and rotten as menopause.
Yep, joke's on me - may as well make the best of it, but sometimes there just isn't any making the best of it. Sometimes it's grin and bear it or just bear it for that matter.
Like many others here, I'm so very grateful that i found this place because i really thought i was dying. I thought surely nobody can feel like this and have much time left here on this earth. All the gloom and doom.. aches and pains, poppin and crackin..
I use to worry about my mind falling apart - and at various times i think it was, but this is a whole new ball game. Now my body is literally falling apart.
All I can say is it's good to see that there are a lot of other females with a warped sense of humor out there. My grandma used say "you may as well laugh, it's better than crying.
This is a great place to talk. And about the only place to talk to other women about meno symptoms. In the rest of the world it is so hard to find someone who understands. I know how you and your friends feel. Before I came here I thought I was going crazy too, and could only hope that it must be meno because I was also missing periods and having hot flashes. Then I came here and found out that it was meno and things got a lot easier! Again, welcome and we are glad you are here! 
And I thought my plate was full ! You have had some major adjustments to deal with. Sounds as though you are doing really well though. Those are some major life changes.God must know that you are one strong lady.A baby daughter ,that is so awesome.Unexpected but a blessing.My two girls are 34 and 30.When we lived in the same city (they both live in Ohio) we were so close.I have been home (Texas) for almost eleven years now and we are growing more distant in spite of phone calls , pictures.It's so difficult to keep that closeness.My sons are 36 and 32.I wish we were close.We're not.They live in SC. near my ex-husband. Their growing up years were hectic at times ,but the best years of my life.Hard times ,good times ,but I wouldn't trade those memories for a ton of gold.And you are near your grandbabies.Doubly blessed.I know moving is difficult.As I stated in a previous post ,I miss my house.But then I look across at my dear husband and realise that without him the house ,beautiful lawns and the rest wouldn't mean a thing.So this little apartment isn't so bad.Have a super day and it's good visiting with you. :biggrin: