I moved to florida from a small town in ohio. I moved to be with my fiance. He was born and raised here. I sold my house and made the move. I am finding hard to adjust here. so much so that I wanna cry each time something doesnt go the right way. People here are not as curtious as home. There not as friendly either. And for the first time I have the language barrier.. I have nothing against other people but I can not help the way I feel. I have no idea how to adjust and I really want too. Someone please help.. Im lost.. tierd of crying and really need to know Im not alone..

Joining a church I never thought of because his father is a minister and we do the get together family worship. We dont go to church on sunday  but I used to before I moved here. Perhaps its time to start. I will admit thou I have had doubts about the move. Most of them stem because of the feeling of resentment for uprooting my life. It usually is pointed at him. I find myself getting alittle angry at him for no reason and when I step back and look its because I miss something or someone back home. I knew this was gonna be different and I made the move knowing that. It just seems that no matter how much you prepare or talk yourself into knowing it is gonna be rough. It seems to turn out just alittle tougher than you thought. Small hometown ways are hard to let go of. I find myself saying "thats not how we did it back home". Argh I did talk to my doctor today and of course it was her last day here in flordia she is returning to canada where shes from. That made uneasy but she told me I have to find something thats mine here. Which makes sense because the most overwhelming feeling I have is "I have nothing or noone here". So today I bought some crafts. Which I used to do... spent the last two days out and about. just looking and seeing whats out there. I feel alittle better but I know I have a long way to go... Spilling my guts here helps too. I actually find myself returning to this site when I get a free moment just to see who responded and what they have to say..

thank you.

Hello Rebakah,

I moved from Maine to Canada three years ago so I know where you're coming from.  I also moved here to be with my fiancee...now husband.  I have three daughters who still live in Maine, they are all grown and have very busy, productive lives.  I still have days where I miss things from home but all in all it does get easier and better.  Do you have a newcomer's club you could join?  They have one here where I live and they also have them in different states in the U.S.  Check it out on the web.  If you ever want to talk just email me.  Power-Surge is a great place to meet women from all over and they are also very helpful and wonderful!!

Maybe you could take an excercise class??  Yoga??  Pilates???  Just  something where you might meet other women .....................

Joline thank you sweetie I think having someone who shares my experience would be great to talk too. I have restarted doing my wood crafts which I used to love to do. I have devoted more of my time to the kids school endeavors and activities.. Yes school starts here this week... I also really talked with my fiance, who can not begin to possibly understand but has spent alittle more time tending to me. I feel alot better and find myself taking short drives and really learning the area. I am debating on joining a health spa called curves because its all woman and I dont have to worry, It will give me a place to meet people. or a local weight watchers group. I need to lose a few pounds anyways and its doing something for myself. Its getting alittle easier. I just know when I arrived here and the honeymoon phase was over... I was very lonely, very homesick and felt so out of place. Time changes things. I have a long way to go yet but its getting better..

hugs

Rebakah, I am so glad to hear you are doing a little better...one day at a time, breath slowly.  Stick around here to, this a friendly, safe place.

tina

Well guys I took a trip back home... It was eye opening indeed. Some things changed some stayed the same. Although my hometown is still beautiful and still has that mayberry appeal. I have changed too. I thank my husband for pushing me to go home to visit. It helped me realize what I have right here at home. Yes I cant believe I called florida home!! guess time heals everything and we all can change. Im much happier since my trip. Im so glad to be home with our children and my husband. I missed them more than I thought I would. Guess its time to step forward and embrace my new life. Guess I now have one more experience to share with others. I did alot of searching on this relocation issue before I posted here. There is not alot of support or  online help for what I was feeling. Im glad you guys listened and now Im ready to help someone else that feels so far away from there home.

So glad you are doing well, it's good to hear a happy ending.tina