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bizzyb
If you've had anxiety disorders for a long time (most of my life for me) has your anxiety increased or decrease since your periods stopped? I am perimenopausal now and just want to know what I could be heading into. Thanks smile.gif
Janel
Hi bizzyb, Well same here, anxiety started when I was about 6 years old, well panic attacts, they didnt know what they were back then so my mom called them my spells smile.gif Anyhow I have worked on them all my life, My anxiety got worse with post, but I believe that had allot to do with life changes for me and not really hormones.Some was probably hormones but I lost family members and just the thought of getting older caused me anxiety. I had to do alot of thought changing and my anxiety is better. I have been post for 3 years (so the doctors say) Never really stopped bleeding because of hormones. I am going off of hrt and as of now the bleeding has stopped. Not sure if this answered your question or not but remember everyone is different and so is their anxiety. I am sure you will be fine, You may even just breeze through it, Peri or Post Meno is Meno :biggrin: Janel
Liz51
bizzyb, I'm kind of like Janel, I've had anxiety and panic attacks all my life.  My mother was a nervous and anxious person too, so I either inherited it or learned it by watching her, but whatever, I've had "spells" of it for as long as I can remember.  It wasn't until I was in my early 20's that they diagnosed what it was, so I actually had something I could treat and not just live with.  To make a long-story short, after several years of only mild anxiety off and on (period time), it came back like a freight train about 5 years ago.  I can describe the exact moment and time almost, it was that difinitive.  At the time I took Xanax when I absolutely had to (I'm a control freak who likes to tough it out on my own), but now after going to a naturopath I use KavaKava when I need it.  The anxiety/panic is much, much better now (knock on wood), but I've worked on it with anxiety reducing  exercises, some therapy, vitamins and minerals and the KavaKava.  I'm 11 months now without a period, so hopefully I'm all most done with perimenopause, and I hope I'm also done with the worst of the anxiety.  I've heard some ladies say it came back strong during post meno, but maybe they didn't have it as bad in peri.  Who knows??  I think everyone is unique and I try not to get discourage when I hear them say things like that.  I think once you're predisposed to anxiety, you have it off and on all your life anyway.

I don't know if that helps or not.

bizzyb
Thankyou ladies.I guess, with anxiety, it has a life of it's own anyway so I shouldn't do the anticipatory thing and just see what happens. Heck, I've lived with this monster for this long, it won't come as a surprise to me should things go out of whack then.

thanks for the replies.smile.gif

Irene Crites
bizzyb.....I too have been diagnosed with Anxiety Disorder (30 years ago) and occassionally I still have panic attacks.  Actually my anxiety returned with a vengeance when I was 2 years post meno.  Go figure.  Peri was no big deal really but here comes post and ugh!!!!  I do believe that there is always a predisposition for Anxiety /disorder but I know absolutely with the correct therapies one can live free and calm. Everyone experiences anxiety its what we allow ourselves to conjure up when feeling anxious that increases the anxiety and panic.  We need to be conscious of our stress level, practice not taking on too much, eat correctly, involve ourselves in anxiety reducing relaxation techniques, etc.  No one needs to live with anxiety/panic everyday of their lives.  GAD can be controlled very effectivelly once we find the right personal approach to the condition.  Anticipatory anxiety is always worse than the actual event so yes bizzy work on eliminating  the "what if", "oh no" thinking.  Good luck smile.gif

Blessings and be well.

wildflowers
isn't the "what if" thoughts the same as what cognitive therapy calls "fortune telling"?  My neighbor a very wise man in his 70's always says when you start "what iffin", you better have some sort of answer... thought up first..or you will drive yourself into anxiety etc....at least thats HIS plan...i used to "fortune tell" lots before yrs. ago taking cogn. therapy sessions..regarding in law stuff..boy i could fortune tell you millions of things she was going to say..hehe..and you know 90% of the time she never said it..i anticipated her speech..she probably thought them tho lol....
IreneCrites
Hi Wildflowers....yes "what if thinking" does sound like "fortune telling".  Cognitive behavioral therapy is very effective in reducing/eliminating "what if thinking".  I know it has helped me immensely.  Your 70 year old neighbor sounds quite astute. So strange what we can manufacture in our minds. LOL

Blessings and be well.

wildflowers
Irene..i remember too..one of the things recom. in the cong. therapy sessions for "what iffin" is to place a thick rubber band around a wrist..when one starts fortune telling..you can snap the rubber band to remind yourself to stop..or you can just say STOP...i went more for the verbal reminder....
Pudge
Does anyone feel more anxious right after their period. I was feeling great for the last 3 1/2 weeks. My period just ended a couple of days ago and here comes the anixety..I am always looking for a pattern but I guess there really isn't one.. It jus pops up whenever it feels like it..I have tried meditation and it really seemed to help. So I have to "make time" for it..It is very calming...Pudge.
Irene Crites
Wildflowers...I agree the verbal reminder would be my choice as well. LOL

Pudge....You are exactly correct..you must make time for meditation and anything else that eases the anxiety.  We are worth the effort.  Stay focused and be well.

Liz51
Pudge,  I always had one really, really bad day after my period was over.  Once I figured out the sequence of when it was happening, I came to expect it each month.  It was usually only one day, but what a day....   I've never had much luck meditating.  If I can be in a room that's real quiet, and the cats and dog leave me alone, I can relax  my muscles enough to where I'm almost asleep, but that doesn't happen very often in this house.  
Kari
Peri wasn't bad for me, with the exception of hot flashes. Post, on the other hand, was a real nightmare with panic/anxiety, palps, dizziness, etc.  After 4 years of this i'm starting to feel somewhat better though.  I sincerely thought there would be no end to it, that maybe I really did have some horrid desease causing all of this.  Maybe i've finally arrived!!  :biggrin:

Irene, I just want to say thank you for being here. Every time I read one of your posts, it brings my anxiety level down a notch or two.  {{{{{Hugs}}}}}

sweetface
Kari, I was reading your post and couldn't believe the resemblance of your symptoms and mine. I was the same way in peri. And you are right on when you say post is a nightmare! Palps, flashes anxiety! The depression went away finally. I was depressed for no reason. I also thought that I would die. I'm still having the palps and anxiety and flashes, and probably will for a while, but finding these boards and knowing others  are going through it too helps.....Glad it is easing up for you. I hope it starts easing up for me and others soon.Hugs to you Kari!Sweetface
Pudge
Ladies, I really don't want to hear that it gets worse during Post..LOL.. I thought peri was the worst and then it would finally taper off. You mean the worst is yet to come.. ??????????? OH NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!   LOLPudge
Liz51
Pudge,  I think (I hope and pray) that if you've had a rough time in peri that it isn't going to be as bad in post.  Looking at the messages, it looks like those having a hard time in post, breezed  through peri.  You and I, on the other hand, have been struggling through the early stages.  I can't believe we'd be cursed enough to have it hit again later.
cookie
Amen to that, here's to a breezy post for everyone.  Once cursed is enough.   So.......enough already.
sweetface
Hi Ladies......Just wanted to say that no two people are alike. Just because I haven't been having a great time dosen't mean that you won't. I'm getting better though because I found these boards. Just reading everyone'sposts makes life a little easier. Hope post is a breeze for everyone else. Hugs, Sweetface
bizzyb
wow...different responses to post menopausal anxiety.

I have had a hard time pretty much throughout my life since I had my first pa at 13 yrs. old.  I hope (and pray) that post-menopause will bring me peace,finally.

Maybe not, but I am hoping.smile.gif

sweetface
I had my first panick attack at 18. I had just gotten married and my husband at the time got a draft notice ( only 3 months into the marriage) He was sent to Viet Nam, and I thought my world had ended. Anyway I was back living with my folks while he was over seas. I started having panick attacks terribly and anxiety! I even got agoraphobic. I was so depressed!!!!! Everyone was worried about me. I went through that for about a year and a half. When my husband came home I was happy but still agoraphobic. Finally my husband had had it with me. One day he just drug me out of my parents house and took me up north to his folks house. You know that was the best thing he could of done for me. Of course I didn't think that at the time. I just hated him for doing that. Well after about 15 min. I was back to normal........How strange!!!!!!! Normal again after a year and a half. Wow the things that your mind can do to ya is horrifing!!!!!Anyway just thought I'd share this with all of you, in hopes that it might help someone else.Take Care,Sweetface
Kari
Sweetface,

Thank you for sharing your story with us. I didn't have much anxiety until I turned 45 and had a whopper of a panic attack in my car. I went down hill from there with so many symptoms that I didn't even want to get up off the sofa for fear of having a heart attack.  It's been a 4 year climb back up since.  I remember the horrid feeling of waiting in a checkout line, or being in a restaurant, or just being in a store.......I thought i'd die.  I forced myself to keep going even though I felt terrible, and i've moved past most of my agoraphobia problems except for the driving.  Being in control of that much steel scares the h*ll out of me, when I feel so lightheaded, like I could pass out any time.  If I can jump this hurdle, I think i'll be home free.  :)

sweetface
Kari, your very welcome. I know exactly what you are going through. I too felt like I was going to have a heart attack. Isn't it strange what your mind tries to make you feel. It is really mind boggling to me. When I started going through peri the anxiety as well as the panick kicked into high gear. I was also depressed for who knows what reason. I couldn't figure out why I was having all these weird symptoms. One thing I did do though is to keep my mind busy doing something, anything to try and not feed on the feelings at hand. There was no way that I was going to put myself into deep depression, because I knew from an experience I had along time ago that it would only lead to  panick attacks, anxiety, and agoraphobia. No way!!!! That was just too weird!!! You feel as if you're half alive. Walking around spacey all the time, and not because of drugs. Anyway Kari, I know in time that you will be able to overcome the driving thing too, just like you did the agoraphobia. Hugs to ya,Sweetface
bizzyb
Kari and Sweetface~~

I admire the fact that both of you drive or have driven.  This hurdle I've never been able to overcome.  I do have my learner's (renewed for the past 25 yrs. hehe) but I find it so difficult to practise.  I just clam right up and feel overwhelmed with information when I'm behind the wheel.  As a passenger, I'm much better.If the panic hadn't hit me in my early teens, I'm sure I would have had my license by now.I hate not being able to do this.Any suggestions? What works for you?

sweetface
bizzyb....I remember how panicky I would get behind the wheel when I was 18 and going through panick attacks. Oh man, I'll never forget it! I was agoraphobic too so that just magnified it all. I swore I was either going to stop breathing, pass out, or have a heart attack.......When I finally came back to my normal self, I could drive all over the place. But if I allowed myself to think one moment about any kind of fear I would start to panick  until I caught myself, then I'd be ok.....I don't know if this helps you at all, but I hope so......bizzyb....you need to be driving!!!!!!!! And hopefully you can one day.Take Care, and hugs too!Sweetface
wildflowers
bizzb..i never had a problem with driving until i got sick a few months ago..the breathing stuff and dizziness etc.etc..basically all that is gone now..but i can tell you the EXACT location this stuff started...at what intersection etc...it took me almost 2 wks. before i could drive 2 blocks..the minute i got in the car behind the wheel..i thought i'd loose it..well i made my first drive to a little convience store at about day 12...2 blocks away..i made it and felt so proud. and a little .disgusted with myself because i've drive since a teen with no problem..well i worked up to driving to work a few miles away...and back..then up to getting daughter from school..it was almost a month before i could take her to school..as i had to go thru that intersection..i drive now all over...i don't always like it every day but i make myself do it..and on those days i have to make myself..i concentrate on the NOW..no anticipating..and then the next light and the next..pretty soon i've forgotten all about it..sounds strange i know..take one light at a time..or go out on country roads..or an empty parking lot...YOU CAN DO IT!!! and now i even find myself loving to drive again on some days..i was in a car accident 5 yrs. ago..rearended..and i too  have to go thru THAT intersection every day....so i do know..try and let us know.okay?
Carol S from PA
Dear Kari:  Your story mirrors mine.  I had the worst panic attack of my life while I was driving.  I truly thought I was going to die.  All of this happened in peri.  Post has been 99% better, although I do have occaqsional panic/palpitations.  I'm convinced that the adreneline rushes are caused by the fluctuating hormones.  I was desperate, because I had to drive to work and take the kids places.  I did find, after much searching, that exercise, deep breathing, relaxation, and Revival got me through it.  Read the Anxiety and Phobia Handbook by Edmund Bourne and Hope and Help for your Nerves by Clair Weeks.  They are both excellent.  I referred to them a lot, especially when my mind would go out of control from worry.  Also, just knowing that others on this board experienced the same thing was the best medicine for me, because it made me feel like I wasn't doomed.  There were others who experienced the same thing, and they lived through it.  The mind over matter thing gave me the confidence and will to get through it.  Best to you.
MaryO
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I'm convinced that the adreneline rushes are caused by the fluctuating hormones.
I wonder about this...I think that panic attacks are awful and I have them fairly often...but my body doesn't make any extra adreneline at all, just barely enough to keep me going.  

So, maybe the panic attacks are our bodies trying to get adreneline?

This is a curious question, one that I'll write down to ask my doctor.

Kari
Carol, thank you.........and ladies, thanks for the testimonials. I too, can pinpoint the exact time, place, and horrid symptoms that washed over me when I had my first panic attack. My God.....I was in the left hand turning lane and thought I was having a stroke or heart attack. I don't even know how I made it home but the anxiety never let up. By nightfall I was so bad off that I remember hanging my head out the car window while my husband drove my to the hospital. I thought I was dying!  Carol.....how did you ever force yourself to get behind the wheel again? I've never read the "Anxiety and Phobia Handbook", but, I do have "Hope and Help for your Nerves".  It doesn't help much though when I actually try to drive. It's like this invisible veil comes down between me and the world, and no matter how I try to claw my way through it......it just will not lift.  I get so light headed that I feel like i'm having an out of body experience. I think this is called depersonalization or derealisation.  Whatever, it's wicked!    I do ok on backroads etc., it's city driving that scares the **** out of me.......so many cars.......no breathing room, etc.  

I know I have to fight this agoraphobia, and want to thank all of you for helping me. Your experiences are much appreciated.  :)

Liz51
I have driving problems too, but they've gotten better the last couple of years.  I'll share some of the little tricks I've learned to help me be able to drive without crippling panic.  

* A cell phone makes me feel that I can reach help if I need to;

*always allow enough time to get where you're going so you don't feel rushed;

*if you start to feel the panic build up - find the first available (safe) spot to pull off the road. Do some deep breathing and let the panic die down, then get back on the road.  

*I always make sure my family knows I'm going somewhere in case I need to call for assistance,

*as soon as you feel any panic, try to divert your thoughts to something else...the scenery, what to have for supper, what you need at the store...anything to keep your mind off the "what if's" that start flooding our minds at the first sign of panic.

These are a few ideas that have worked for me.  I'm not saying I can drive hundreds of miles by myself, but I have managed to drive at least 35 miles to the next big city by myself, and I've been able to go more places on my own, which is very liberating.  That may not sound like much to some, but after feeling trapped in my home town for years, I feel pretty good about it.  I didn't learn this on my own, I went to an anxiety/panic workshop at the local counseling service, which was a 6 week course on how to overcome anxiety and panic attacks - and by the way, they used the workbook by Dr. Edmond Bourne.

Pudge
Liz that book is very good.. I just bought Power over Panic by Bronwyn Fox, excellent book. Talks alot about meditating. If you can find the time to do it and without any interruptions it is wonderfulPudge
Dearest
I am reposting this from another of the panic-attack topics.

Bronwyn Fox has been a guest in Power Surge a few times. You will find her transcripts in the Library. They're well worth the time to read because her suggestions are excellent. There's also a link to her book, which I highly recommend, lower down in this message.

Browyn Fox suffered with panic disorder/Agoraphobia for four years. Through her own research, she developed techniques that led to her own cure 11 years ago and went on to become a major force in educating the Australian mental health system to better recognize and treat anxiety disorders. She co-founded and became CEO of the Panic Anxiety Disorder Association in Australia and conducts workshops for those suffering from anxiety disorders.

Bronwyn is the author of the book, Power Over Panic: Freedom From Panic / Anxiety Related Disorders.

Dissociation

1. Everything is unreal

Q. I do have panic attacks, but before they start I get a feeling that nothing is real, including myself. I sometimes feel as if I am standing behind myself and it is really frightening. I can also feel really dizzy which only makes everything worse. I do panic, but I panic as a result of these feelings. No one seems to understand what I am saying. They think that it is all part of the attack, but it isn't. Stop these unreal feelings and I won't panic.

2. Triggering panic attacks

Q. I am someone who suffers from panic disorder and generalised anxiety. Your theories on dissociation and how these detached/spacey feelings trigger panic attacks really struck a chord with me. Dissociation is one of my biggest symptoms. I am currently taking a drug to control my panic attacks. In general I am more relaxed, however, it does nothing to help the dissociation. In fact, I would say the drug makes me feel more spacey/bewildered and detached. Now that I realize this is a major panic trigger, is there anything I can do or tell myself while in this state to halt my panic attacks?

A. These are the Derealisation and depersonalisation symptoms. Derealisation is the experience of 'that nothing seems real' and depersonalisation is the experience of feeling 'detached from the body'. They are common panic attacks symptoms and are part of the range of sensations relating to the ability to dissociate.

We have found over the years, dissociation is playing a major role in spontaneous panic attacks. Those of us who do dissociate have had this ability since we were children, although many of us have forgotten we did it as children. It seems some of us 'grow' out of it but when as adults we experience major stress and/or are not eating or sleeping properly, this ability is activated once again.

The research on dissociation is now speculating that some people with panic disorder, dissociate first and then panic or become anxious. A theory we are in complete agreement with.

The ability to dissociate is on a scale 0- 10.

0 = people who have no dissociative experiences to 10 which maybe indicative of Dissociative Identity Disorder. People with Panic Disorder don't have DID and measure about 4 -5 on the scale. Other words for Dissociation, include depersonalisation, Derealisation, self hypnotic trance, altered states of consciousness. When people dissociate they get a variety of symptoms, including 'feeling detached from the body - out of body' experiences', not feeling real, seeing their environment through a white or a grey mist, stationary objects may appear to move, tunnel vision, sometimes they may feel an electric shock move through the body, or a 'whoosh' of intense burning heat, a burning tingling heat or a feeling of intense energy moving through the body. It is quite easy to induce this state in people who are vulnerable to them.

The major way we do this during the day is by staring. Either out of a window, at the wall, TV, computer, book etc. Staring can induce a trance state and most of the dissociative 'symptoms' show the trance states we can reach are quite deep. Fluorescent lighting also appears to be a cause for the trance states. The research on nocturnal panic attacks shows they happen on the change of consciousness from dreaming sleep to deep sleep or deep sleep back to dreaming. This is similar to the change in consciousness when we induce the trance states during the day.

The essence of all of this is to be (a) aware of how we can induce these states during our normal daily activity and why they happen at night, and (cool.gif border=0 alt=cool.gif /> lose our fear of them so we don't panic.

We teach people why there is nothing to be frightened of by this ability and that they are not going insane. After all, we as individuals are proof we don't go insane. If that was going to happen it would have happened to us a along time ago!

We also teach people to become aware on a moment to moment basis if they need to, of how it happens and how it can happen so easily. When people can see this, we teach them to work with their thinking and not buy into the panic/anxiety thoughts, 'What's happening to me'...'I'm going insane' etc. We all put ourselves under more stress by the way we think about our symptoms. This only makes us more vulnerable to it happening. The harder we resist it, the worse it becomes.

Meditation is also a great way to desensitise ourselves to the various trance states plus a great way to practice non resistance and working with thoughts.

Bronwyn's last transcript can be found by clicking here.

You can also ask her questions directly by visiting her Ask The Panic-Anxiety Expert area and posting a question to her to which you will receive a response via E.mail and will be posted on her area as well. You can also look through her archived answers to read other questions and answers from people suffering from panic attacks/disorder and anxiety.

Dearest

Carol S from PA
Dear Kari:  Sorry it took so long to get back to you.  To answer your question, I did everything Liz did to enable me to drive.  A cell phone was a must for me.  I needed to know that there would be someone I could call if I needed help--even if it was 911.  If the panic would get bad, I would pull off to the side and practice deep breathing--that would calm the panic the best.  The best thing you could do for yourself is read about panic attacks and test out different methods to control them.  I did not want to rely on Xanax.  I was committed to beat this without meds.  Xanax is great for making you feel better on a day-to-day basis, but it does not solve the problem.  You need to find ways to control the panic.  I know it's not easy, but it can be done.  I credit Revival with helping me also.  I truly believe that my panic attacks were a result of adrenline rushes due to the fluctuating hormones.  After taking Revival for 3-4 weeks, I no longer had night sweats, hot flashes, and the panic subsided big time.  I also exercised and took vitamins during this time (and still do in post-meno).  I believe it was a combination of all of these things that helped, along with my determination to claim my life back.  I do get occasional anxiety with chest pain even now, but thank God the panic attacks have not reared their ugly heads.  I have not read the book by Fox (which I intend to get), but I do highly suggest the Panic and Phobia Handbook by Edmund Bourne.  E-mail me any time (but let me know you're from Power Surge so I don't delete you); I know how much support from others help.  Hang in there; I promise you that you'll get through it.  I have a husband, 3 children, and a responsible job; I was not going to give up all of that to panic.  Cry it out when you're down; get mad; and strongly commit to beating it.  My thoughts and prayers are with you.

missycat
HI ITS MISSYCAT HAVE TERRIBLE PANIC ATTACKS, I THINK IF A LION CAME AT ME I COULD FIGHT BETTER THAN THESE ATTACKS. I WOKE UP THE MORNING WITH A BIG ONE. MAYBE IT IS BECAUSE SOMEONE IS COMING TO SEE ME THIS MORNING, AND THEY ARE ON TOP OF THE WORLD, IN EVERYWAY, SHE IS THE ONE THAT TOLD ME I HAVE THEM BECAUSE I DON'T WORK HARD ENOUGH. SHE DOESN'T KNOW WHAT WORK IS , SHE NEVER WORKED A DAY IN HER LIFE. SHE IS ON A SILVER OR GOLD PLATTER. ANYWAY I AM TRYING SO HARD TO SETTLE DOWN, LIGHTHEADED , ANXIETY, PANIC, WHAT A TERRIBLE EXISTANCE. PRAY FOR ME. LOVE THESE BOARDS, KNOW ONE EVER JUDGES, THEY JUST TRY TO HELP. LOVE YOU ALL MISSYCAT
Kari
Hi Missycat-------I'm sending positve thoughts your way. I know what you're going through, i've dealt with people like that......full of insights and suggestions as to why we panic (it's all in your head....or maybe if you kept busy and got a job you wouldn't have time to dwell on yourself, blah, blah, blah.)  I've heard it all and it ticks me off! I finally told this someone......when you have a panic attack, come and talk to me because you haven't a clue as to what one feels like!

Hang in there Missycat, we'll make it.   smile.gif

sweetface
Hi Kari and Missycat....I too know what you mean about friends that don't know what the h....they're talking about..I've had friends also try and tell me what would help me, when they don't have the first clue about a panick attack....I try and stay away from them if I can...but sometimes it's hard to do that...They're in your face before you know it....ugh...Take Care,Sweetface
bingo1
I hvave talked to all the older women in my family and everyone of them plus the ones in my husbandss family , have had these panic attacks . They don't call them that, and just suffer till they are over. They said they shake and shake for hours and then it will go away for while.  Only to come back hours, days, or weeks later. I am the same way all of a sudden. I naever had such bad shaking and feelings of losing it till now.  They all say it will get better. But surely there has to be a way to feel better. I am allergic to soy products or would try Revival. I am tired ofthese shaking episodes. They are very scary.Does anyone else get these?  I feel so abnormal.
sweetface
Hi bingo...Yes, there are alot of us who get the shaking  syndrome..No, it's not alot of fun...It is caused from meno and the anxiety of it all...It will pass as it did for me...I had it alot last summer epecially...I still will get it, but only occassionally....Try to stay calm when they come on...The more you panick the worse they are..I know it's not easy to stay calm, but just remember that you are not abnormal at all, and it will get better...Take Care,Sweetface
missycat
HI ITS MISSYCAT JUST TO SAY , IT IS GREAT WHEN WE TRY TO HELP EACH OTHER. MY PANIC AND ANXIETY IS REAL GREAT WHEN I GET OUT OF BED. I JUST FEEL SO STRESSED, AND OUT OF WACK. WAS WRITING AND ALL OF A SUDDEN , SOMETHING WEIRD POPPED UP ON THE SCREEN. IT SAID CLICK AND EXPERIENCE A GREAT NEW CAR. REALLY STRANGE, BECAUSE I DO. MY OLD BOMB IS 11 YEARS OLD. MAYBE IT WAS TRYING TO TELL ME SOMETHING. OH WELL BACK TO REALITY. WELL HAD MY COFFE AND WHEN I WRITE ON THESE BOARDS I DO HAVE A CALMING FEELING, YOU ALL SURE HELP ME. LOVE YOU MISSYCAT
kristee
Does anyone take meds for panic attacks other than Xanax? I'm on high dose Klonopin up to 4 mg per day. I am zoned out most of the day if I have to take that much. I have all the horrid symptoms of the raging bull that others describe. Could others share how long the meno panic lasts on average? I would hope it tames down within a couple years at the most. This is new, scarey, seeking the best books. Can't afford counseling right now. I deal w/ the intense anxiety too. I get these 'huge' power surges feeling as though I could skyrocket to the moon too. Anyone else? My dr. is trying Effexor but it doesn't seem to be the answer, at least for me. I am so afraid to be alone with these. Mine occur during the day. They tire me out then I try to nap and as soon as I try to nap, they're back with a vengenace. I tried meditation. I bought one of those vibrating seat cushions which helps a little. It overrides some of the power surge. It is sooo intense. Anyone get the intense power surge too? I feel as though I could lift my car up. Thanks. Oddly, I used to have a lot of headaches but not I have the panic attacks. Hard when I don't have neighbor support and family is all out of town. Husband works over an hour away. Is there a panic hotline no?
GG
Kristee I know the pain you are suffering with your anxiety. When you are in the middle of an anxiety attack it feels so scarey and lonely. I have had generalized anxiety for many years. Sometimes a long time goes by before it rears it's ugly head but when it does ohhhh! I am down for the count. Where are you at in your menopause? I am three years post and feel that post was the worst for me . I got the most help when I did Lucinda Bassett's program. She does have a website ***  It explains alot about anxiety and panic attacks. The other thing I do is go to the library and get audio tapes on anxiety, positive thinking,self esteem etc. Sometimes I walk and listen to them other times I listen to them when I wake up in the middle of the night and need something to think about besides what if , they help to relax me. I have never taken medication ,I'm too afraid of it. But I know some people have to in order to relax enough to learn what to do to help themselves. There are so many people that have generalized anxiety, be kind to yourself  try to get as much info as you can to understand it. Breathing correctly is so important ,exercise and diet play a major role. It is all explained on the stress center web site. Remember it always passes. Let me know how you're doing.                             GG

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Irene Crites
Hi Kristee and GG......I too struggle with anxiety/panic and it is scarey and isolating.  I have had GAD for many years also GG and although I have long periods of anxiety free times as with you when it returns it is with a vengeance.  I am almost 4 years post meno and over the last 2 years anxiety has really been the worst.  I use relaxation techniques (meditation, deep breathing, cognitive therapy, etc) and find that they help alot.  I also take Tranxene (minor tranquilizer) as needed. I worked with Lucinda Bassett's program also and it was somewhat helpful for me.  I find the books written by Dr. Claire Weekes the most helpful even though they have been around since the late sixties.  The most important thing is our attitude...try not to get discouraged, melancholy or angry with yourself.  Just take oneday at a time and do the best you can with that day.  We need to listen to our inner voice and accept that menopause is a difficult period in a women's life, while taking heart that this too shall pass.

Blessings and be well.

GG
Irene and Kristee            Why do I feel that at this stage of the game menopause should not be entering into the picture as much as we all seem to be claiming it does. At what point is it no longer menopause? I am beginning to wonder if it's anxiety and menopause is the excuse I use. I too have Claire Weekes books and listened to her tapes from the library . Boy anxiety was enough but to add raging hormones to the picture is just too much. I keep working at it. I have come to realize that I cut everybody else all kinds of slack and just tear myself down to shreds if i blink wrong. Always seeking perfection and approval.Guess I'll just head back to the books and tapes and keep on trying. Sure would like to know what others in postmenopause are doing to survive.                           GG

kristee
I'm confused because I am told by my drs. that the hormones settle down post meno (not in perimeno). I was told that they 'level' out. My dr. is scrambling to find relief for me. I can't take full dose antidepressants. He's trying antiseizure med too and small dose ssri, as well as Klonopin. I can't take hormones but I am looking for hope and happy endings. My panic attacks are super intense and needed to be medicated. Otherwise, I was likely considered in the 'hysteria' category of yester year.
MrsUnderstood
Hi Kristee,   Sorry I have been busy recently sending my youngest back to college for her sophomore year and haven't responded to your post.  My panic disorder was inherited and I consider myself in recovery.  You can and will recover with the proper treatment(s).  Sounds like you may be overwhelmed with the panic attacks/anxiety and the trial & error approach you are receiving right now.  If you would like to email me, please feel free and I will attempt to share any specifics I can to help you through this trying time. ~Helen
Seti
Dear Mrs. Understood,

If you don't mind my asking, I'd like to know if your definition of recovery includes ups and downs in the amount of discomfort you experience from this disorder--or have you come to a fairly steady state with respect to this?  The reason I ask is, that while I do not really consider myself "in recovery," I had made a good deal of what I regarded as permanent progress in my 20 years of struggles with panic, but the perimenopausal period has shaken my belief in the one-way (positive) direction of this challenging process. (I do know enough not to expect a 100% banishment of uncomfortable feelings!)

And many thanks for your willingness to share your experience.

MrsUnderstood
Hi Seti,   It is totally fine to ask me.  I no longer am at all embarrassed to discuss my panic disorder.  My personal definition of recovery is being able to live my life the way I chose.  My panic disorder is inherited through my father's family line.  I and most people I am aware of who consider themself in recovery still get the feelings which originally brought on the panic attacks.  If we continue to use the techniques and listen to our bodies, we are able to let those feelings pass without grabbing onto them and turning them into fullblown panic attacks.  I use both progressive muscle and visual imagery relaxation along with many different cognitive / thought changing techniques.  Although lots of people do not need to, I am on maintenance medication which means I take it regularly every day not when I have anxiety.  I learned years ago that if I had to take medication I would do it according to dr recommendations and make no changes without first consulting my dr. Since you state you have had panic for 20 years, we both appear to have begun the process of figuring out what was going on in the 1980s.  From the very beginning I kept telling the drs I could literally feel a chemical rushing through my entire body.  I eventually came to realize that my panic attacks were caused by adrenaline.  We had to find all the answers ourselves during those years.  Now all of the literature speaks of how adrenaline is what causes the flight or fight feeling of panic.  It wasn't until the mid 1990s the medical community really began to diagnose people with panic/anxiety disorders quickly and offer proper treatments. I try really hard when I feel my anxiety and stress, which everyone has, building to listen very carefully to what my body needs.  Usually my body needs rest or better nutrition habits and I look to see what I have been doing recently.   Stress is our body's reaction to any change so that may explain why many women seem to have more problems when their hormones are fluctuating.  Personally, I don't have an increase in my anxiety related to peri, but I also never have had depression.  Every single person I have met with panic or anxiety disorder is unique, sensitive, and intelligent, but everyone has different degrees and symptoms to deal with.  If you learned CBTechniques that were working well for you prior to peri, I really do think if you were to back up and do some more practice you would prob find yourself feeling back on track. I haven't had a fullblown panic attack in so long I cannot remember when it was.  That's pretty amazing considering we have at least as much stress in our lives as any other family and I used to have panic attacks constantly , high anxiety and even was completely agoraphobic (housebound) for 7 months in my mid 30s.  If you haven't done cognitive behavioral therapy, you would really find it very helpful if you put in the effort to do the practicing. You can live your life to the fullest!  Hope this answers your questions.     ~Helen
Seti
Mrs. Understood--

Thank you so much for the generous response! I recently bought Bronwyn Fox's second edition of her "Power Over Panic," and feel a renewed interest in working more on my anxiety. (I have begun the daily meditation program she recommends and vow to continue regularly). So, in a sense I feel energized by my "peri" difficulties to work additionally on this "thing" which has been such a dominant factor in my adult life.

And yes, like you, I remember the early 1980s view of "agoraphobia" only too well. I abruptly entered the panic zone when I was 29. I was suddenly panicking non-stop--and, when I went to the library the only reference I could then find to my panic was that it was (and I remember this definition quite clearly) "a very serious mental disorder with a poor prognosis."  No wonder people didn't expect recovery then!  Too bad no one could say, "You know what? It does feel terrible, but it's only adrenaline." Well, I did find Claire Weekes' books finally, even in 1980, and that made a big difference. However, I can in no way yet say that anxiety disorder does not influence what I do, when I do it, or with whom I do it. I'm certainly not there yet.

But, as menopause is a time for new challenges, I will adopt this as mine. Thank you for your example and for your encouragement.

MrsUnderstood
Good luck Seti!    Can't believe how similar our timelines are.  I had my first panic attack at 31.  And the non-stop panic, I was right there with you.  Now people know they are not alone which is good news.  My first dr told me he did not believe panic attacks were real, but would write me a prescription. I did find Claire Weekes books within the first couple of years, but I must have been slow to catch on cause the descriptions fit but I needed specific exercises to learn to let go of the anticipatory anxiety she talked about.  Bronwyn has an excellent program.  I intend to read her books and am looking forward to her visit to PS chat in September.  Her web site has the best description of the terms associated with panic/anxiety.  Since I use relaxation techniques, I have yet to take the time to learn her meditation technique. Good for you for working on it!  You will reach the challenge you have set for yourself!         ~Helen
ratsmom
I just recently had an anxiety attack (diagnosed by an ER Dr.) and now realize that I have been having these attacks for about a year now.  Nausea, chest and back pain, dizziness, the feeling I can't breath, weakness and shakiness; I haven't had all the symptoms ever time, so I really didn't associate the previous attacks as anxiety.  I have had all kinds of tests, and the Drs. all wrote it off to Fibromyalgia, which I have had for numerous years.  I turned 47 about a month ago and haven't noticed a lot of difference in my periods, but I am thinking it may be peri-menopause.  It is the second worse feeling I've ever had ( the worst being positional vertigo).

The attacks seem to come on "out of the blue"; I don't seem to have any symptoms or stress or anything and then WHAM! - it hits me.  The first attack  was about a year ago, driving down the Interstate at 70 miles an hour!  I just knew I was having a heart attack and was going to pass out!  I forced myself to get to my exit and to my work place - I was afraid I was going to die if I didn't get to where there was someone who to call the rescue squad or do CPR on me!  Of course, all the test checked out okay and I was sent on my way with a "We don't know what's wrong".  I can't believe that all the ER Drs., Rheumatologist, Neurologist, etc, couldn't figure it out.  They gave me Lorazepam at the ER and I am going to my Family Dr. tomorrow.  Are there any questions I should ask the Dr. or anything I should tell him?  Any help would be appreciated.

Sorry this was so long!  I made me feel better to "talk" to people who understands.

Christine

Kalanie
Hi Christine, and welcome.  :)  I don't know anything about this topic, as I have been lucky enough to not have suffered with that particular symptom, but I just wanted to say that I LOVE your message about $39.95!  

I know you will get some good advice from others here, even though I couldn't be much help to you.  :)

Souix
I just want to say WOW!  I had no idea and neither did my doctor when I went in to find out what in the heck was wrong with me.  I had just gone off HRT for about a month or 3 weeks and out of the blue - like sitting down to have breakfast at 9:30am as I do every morning, I started feeling really really dizzy, sweaty palms, shortness of breath, tried to walk and felt like I was onboard a boat, could not move or get around.  I was so scared. I grabbed for the walls and made my way into the bedroom to get my blood pressure cuff.  I don't have high blood pressure but it was elevated and it scared me even more. I felt like I was going to pass out or throw up.  I called the doctor to find out if maybe I was having a stroke or something...or was this from going off HRT? They told me to come in.  My husband had to drive me, there was no way I could drive. I had a blood test and urinalysis but by this time the feeling had passed and I felt fine.  All test came out normal.

The doctor had no idea what was wrong with me.  I guessed maybe a strong panic attack??? My mother suggested that I could be hypoglycemic? No one had a clue.  Now after reading all the posts I realize thats exactly what it was, a panic attack.  I am post about 2 years and am 49 years old.

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