This has never happened to me. I am 51 and look about 15 years younger, am very slim and fit and have a 12 yr. old and a handsome young looking atttentive husband. We don't have sex too much - too busy, but have good sex when we do. Lately I have become obsessed with the star of the WB Tarzan show. He is a good looking young man of around 23 with a great body and beautiful face. I am sexually aroused by him and find myself looking at photos of him on websites during my breaks - I work at home. I think about his picture all the time. This does make for some exciting times in bed for my husband and me. However, I seem to be in dreamland more than reality. Life is good, but my career is stalled and I'm not sure what to do - the economy is not helping. I find myself depressed a lot. Wondering what do I do now? What do you think?

I have always had a great fantasy world, it has been a comforting companion for most of my life. Having a great imagination has helped my art career, too. But, I don't know what you should do, if it hinders your life. You're just going to have to pull the plug on it sometimes and find something in the real world to focus on. I just thought you'd like to know that you're not the only one out there. I have the blessing of being able to illustrate my fantasy worlds, which is sorta neat.

I'm experiencing a similar obsession but mine is more real. I'm 50 yrs. old, young looking (I think) and I'm becoming obsessed about a young guy (22 yr old) who is an intern in my office. I'm scared sometimes that he might know that I like him. I'm happily married and have an active sex life. Any suggestions?

I'd enjoy it. If it's disruptive this could be another story, however. I've been having lot of anxiety ridden, catastrophic fantasies. Anyone want to trade?? :D Amazingly, sex is good, when I can relax enough to enjoy it. I think I've seen Tarzan, he is a cutie.:Dlol

Fantasizing is normal as far as I am concerned. It's one of the great benefits our brain has to offer us. As long as it does not interfere with your relationships, don't agaonize over it. Heck, men do it all the time, why can't we? Tina :D

Seriously crushes are fun, but can make you feel uncomfortable around the person you have a crush on.

That is very true. Crushes can turn you into a 15 year old again !! I don't want to be 15 again. I like where I am. Tina :o

I don't know if any of you watched "The Surreal Life"when it was on during the winter months,but i watched it,and i'm ashamed to say i couldn't stop thinking and fantasizing about Ron Jeremy.LOL I don't think he's attractive at all,but i just couldn't stop thinking about him CONSTANTLY..........i was getting worried about it too,when i closed my eyes,i saw him,when i dreamed,it was about him,every waking/sleeping thought was about him.About a month later,it all went away and stopped,thank God.

Thank you all for your comforting comments. I find this forum very helpful. Orb

Well, most men do it all the time, but they fantasize about every attractive woman who walks past them. At least women are more selective. My husband, for some reason, seems to be less interested than most men (he has so many "intellectual" interests it's like he puts all of his energies into that). But his boss, whom he goes to lunch with a lot, constantly stares at every woman (generally young ones) who walks by them. He says that he (my husband) stops talking to his boss every time there is a female in the vicinity because his boss gets this dazed look on his face and he can tell he is mentally acting out a fantasy with each woman. So, just enjoy whatever fantasy you have. I haven't had any in a long time--too many peri problems to be interested in men.