Hi, this is my first post here.  Forgive me if it's long.  I found out that my husband had cyber affairs for 3 years.  That was last march.  He has truly changed and has more than made it up to me.  I had been faithful for 25 years.  Now, I want one more 'fling'.  Sort of to hang on to my youth.  I look good and feel good and have chatted with a man 15 years younger than me.  Actually I have flirted.  I enjoy this but know that it's wrong.  This one man is 'different'.  I told him no more chats and that was just lately.  However, I am looking for something and know that it is an illusion.  Slap me and tell me I'm crazy.  My husband and I are closer and more intimate than ever before; wonderful sex....help me

Hi annie,Sounds like you aren't as close as you say you are. Might be hanging on to resentment which is very understandable. I'd consider some counseling so you can get the anger out. Talk it over with your husband , seems to me he owes you a little understanding about what you feel like doing. After 25 years , having a last fling, might end up being just that and you might not have a marriage left. See about counseling. Sex isn't everything , you need communication too. Take care, hope it all turns out ok. hugs jeanne

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