Anyone who followed my post regarding the job from hell I got...the gal who is training me worked both days over the week end and she worked 17 hours yesterday from 5 am to 10 pm. Sounds great huh ? I'm getting desperate in more ways then one to get out of there. I was called for 3 interviews for other jobs I had previously applied for and I could not go to the interviews cause I'm stuck in this hell. I can't talk to my husband about it, he ALWAYS takes the opposing side on everything, so I am building up more anger and resentment towards him. He never supports me. All he does is tear me down and its been that way for almost 30 years. He's been in the same job for 35 years and he does not ahve a clue about what can go on outside. I came home tonight and yelled at him and went straight to the bedroom for several hours. The heart palps are here. God I hate my life right now. I really would rather just not get up.

I really think that you should go ahead and call in sick and go to the other interviews. You should not stay in that job if you are unhappy. Just take charge of the situation and get a better job. It is obvious from the interview requests that other people want you. Go for it. Make  yourself happy! Sheila

Carole!

I agree with  Sheila. Get out to the other interviews...and get out of there..quick!!!

As for that husband of yours. Rethink things.

Have you ever read the book " Men are just desserts." ???

Here's the deal:

Keep men   (your husband)   in the background in  your life. Make your own decisions about work, about play -----about everything.

Keep him only for dessert. Period. In other words, when you make him a small part of your life, he cant bother you  so much.

You can still love him and live with him, but in this new head scene, his actions or non actions just dont matter that much anymore.

SandyXXXXX

Thanks Shelia that makes a lot of sense..the "just dessert" part.  Its hard to do when he is so critical of everything I say or do, but i am going to try the dessert frame of mind.

I'm with the other ladies, Carole. I'd be out of there so fast , their head would swim. There always are other jobs.But you only have one life,so make it as good as you can. As for hubby, GRRRR. I have a great one, but I think the dessert approach might be just the solution. In other words take charge of your own happiness. I had to with my first husband. Hope things settle down for you and get better :)Hugs , jeanne

Thanks Jeanne, you are always such a sweet encourager.  

Carole said, "The heart palps are here. God I hate my life right now. I really would rather just not get up."

Carole, setting aside everything else in your message for a moment, that quote above isn't as unusual as you may think when you're going through menopause. I was never a depressed personality, but, boy, when I started going through peri, I had depression I couldn't liken to any other feeling. It sometimes felt as though the walls were closing in on me. I had days (and sometimes still do) when I thought I'd never make it through the night. The feeling that there's no end to this passage and thinking I wasn't sure I could make it through another day of suffering with the depression coupled with severe anxiety, the hot flashes, the overwhelming work I had to do besides just trying to survive left me thinking as I lay my head on the pillow at night, "God, if I have to feel this way again tomorrow, please let me not wake up in the morning."

That kind of statement is the antithesis of everything I've always believed in. I'm the one who was always telling everyone else, "Pick yourself up. Dust yourself off and start all over again." I knew every cliche -- always offering support and courage, strength and inspiration to others, while I was sinking myself. Those thoughts scared me, but I think that's what happens to many people who are suffering day in and day out and this damned process takes SO LONG.

In any event, those horrible feelings eventually pass or they ease up. There may be days of depression, but not so all-consuming that you can't cope with them.

The palps? I could give you all sorts of remedies, but the bottom line is that most women who suffer from palpitations a great deal during perimenopause will usually suffer from them until their hormones level out -- and until they're without a period for one year. Believe me, I tried everything and until my period was gone, they literally took over my life.

What you have to learn is to become your own best friend. Make the best decisions for yourself, Carole. Don't stay in a job you hate. Try something new if you have the energy to do so. What good is any job if it's making you miserable? I fail to understand why people stay in any situation that makes them unhappy. Life is too short and this particular time of life is so fraught with discomfort, it seems unfair to burden ourselves with more than we already have.

You'll know in your heart which decision is the best for you -- follow your heart.

I was offered another job and have accepted it ...:biggrin:

Hi Dearest,I love what you have to say. I myself suffered with memopause symptoms especially palps. I was the one who helped all my friends lift themselves up, encourage them support them and now I need my own advice. It is hard to cope sometimes. I pray that my hormones will even out . This is much longer then I expected to last. We need to be our own best friend. I only do what I love now. My family, jobs, courses that I take. I exercise not because I like it, because it helps my symptoms better. I hope all to be feeling better soon.This weekend my son fell from his bike and had a head injury. He was confused for a while.  We were at the hospital for hours. I woke him up every 2 hours and the next day he had a cat-scan. Thank God he is now fine today. Normal c-scan. He is a twin and his twin brother was also sick with a cold and cough. Well I am fine in an emergency, but after I had palitations and stress like months ago. The stress does not roll off like before memopause. This is a funny thing for me. I always bounced back. Not now. I guess we will be different when we reach the other side. I pray  the other side will come quickly. God Bless, Sheree