just wondering. I cry at least 3 times a week on average. I think it's way too much, I am curious to see if I am right that most women don't cry so often...(I am not talking tears of joy either )

I hardly cry at all. Earlier in the year when I was in major anxiety/panic mode, I did. Sometimes a tear will squeeze out at a movie I'm watching once in a while. Over all I don't. I have a girlfriend though who does burst into tears. It is quite common I think during this time. I will say when I have had a good cry it was a wonderful release and I would sleep like a baby afterwards. It released pent up tension.

I dont cry as much as you but I guess I cry unexpectedly about 4 times a month. I can always tell when it is coming too. Usually if it is a really good cry, I sleep well too.

I agree with mich, it is not uncommon to cry at everything and anything during this time in our lives. I am so tired of the "change".

Hugs,
Jeaninne

Hello,
I cry so much now for the past few months, days and nights. I even woke up last night crying! Sometimes it is in my dreams and sometimes it is waking up abruptly and feeling so anxious that i need to cry to relieve the anxiety. I am a little better lately but still cry at least once every other day. I have always been emotional but lately it is for everything and nothing.
I just have more kleenex in my purse now.
take care
Mrs Buff

Now that I'm on the AD I don't hardly cry at all. And boy are there times when I could really use a GOOD relieving cry!! ...if I do get a cry going, it doesn't last long enough to do any good.

A few times a week as I drive home for that 45 minute drive. I have a stressful job, combine that with family responsibilities and aging sick parents and a lifetime of chronic migraines and you have a recipe for someone who needs a release.

I used to think it was 'bad' to cry, now it is just a part of my 'make-up' and is needed for me to move forward. It is a noble release and beats the heck out of getting depressed. Getting mad sometimes helps too.

What is it that you cry about?

Angela

what are you all so sad about that you're crying so much?

I so cry but when I have a fight with my boyfriend and I cry instead of setting him on fire ;-)

wow, so many replies! thank you all.
I guess my situation is similar to Angela...very stressful job that I don't like, and I don't see that changing anytime soon, I miss my kids not living home and being little kids..I just am not real happy with things right now, I already am on anti depressants and lately xanax as well. I am overweight and feel yuck most of the time..(funny but if you knew me in real life, you'd never know it) Maybe it's time to go back into counseling..or just run away...
good night all, going back to sleep now/
tina

Tina,

From what I've observed on here, there are quite a few ladies who find the stress from working while going through peri to be a heavy load to carry and at times we just feel like we can't take it anymore. My job is very stressful, and to me, going through peri itself is stressful...so combine the two and you have a situation that is hard to deal with more so then normal.

I like my job, but the bullsh*t you have to put up with is what makes it stressful. I went through a pretty severe round of depression a few yrs back and I still deal with the ups and downs quite a bit. I take an AD and don't like the fact that it seems to numb the emotional part of me and now when I feel I need to cry, that deep down let it go cry, well it's just not there. So I don't get that relief when I REALLY need it.


"(funny but if you knew me in real life, you'd never know it)"

I know this all to well, I have learn to hide my inner self very well from others...I'm not comfortable wearing my emotions on my sleeve and even have a hard time sharing with hubby at times. But I will give him credit, he is learning to read me all to well.

I get that run away feeling a lot and sooooo wish it was that easy to just leave it all behind.

Hugs, you're not alone in this part of the journey either....
jes

thanks jes,
i feel like just got a hug.
tina

It all depends on how you deal with stress.Some women get angry some cry.I cry as a way to relieve tension.But since I was on this hormonacoaster I can cry at the strangest times and be laughing the next.I read that tears actually lower cortisol[stress hormone]so it is actually good for you as long as it's not all the time.

For me it depends on the day, the time of the month. Some days my emotions feel even and I don't feel like crying at all. Other days I feel like crying all day long! I cry very easily, too, so 3 times a week on average is not unusual for me. Compared to other women, that much crying may be excessive, but given how bad peri has been for me, it's not surprising. Everyone is different. Sometimes if my anxiety or depression is really bad I find myself crying to release the tension. I think it helps.

I seldom cry unless I see someone else cry then it's more a response to their pain (or joy) and I'll cry. There was a time during all this peri-stuff that I would cry at commercials an occasionally movies. It was very strange, I would feel wonderful but a stupid commercial could bring me to tears.

I think some of us are naturally criers and some of us aren't, the same way some of us are huggers and others aren't. A combination of our hormonal make-up and the enviroment we were raised in. Embrace the way you are, we are all unique yet common all at the same time. A good mix, I believe.

I cry because I am so tired of feeling like crap and don't get any answers. So all my tears are out of frustration!

I think that is what has tried up my tear ducts for the most part, the AD's I'm on. Frankly, i would like a good cry once in a while, especially as someone said it lowers cortisol levels. Oh, well at least the majority of my anxiety and panic and obsessive thinking feels much better. I'm now buying into the "I'm healthy and fine and I'm going to stay healthy and fine" mantra I say to myself.

Lately, it's like I cry for the sake of crying. How lame. And since I live alone-I sob. I am a mess these days. I have the lexapro and I have cried over having to take them because I know these tears will go away. I am tired of all the crying, too slo66.
I want to live a joyous life. I know I have alot of familial issues (most of us do) but I have so much to be thankful for. I just have gone into some kind of miserable hole and don't have the energy to pull out. I cry out of frustration at losing weight, I should be glad about that. D--- it all.
I took one ,5mg lexapro yesterday. I believe I let it wear off because I have been boohooey today. And you know, I am having a pity party. I told a couple of 'key' people in my life and haven't heard a peep out of them today.
People just do not tolerate people with depression or anxiety. They stay away.
well. that's my little story.
Senecaguns hear me boom!

I cry over my weight loss too! And most women would be happy about it! I'm just worried cuz I don't know what the weight loss is from, and of course I think in my mind it's from something terrible or deadly. I am just so sick of feeling like crud. i want to feel good again and enjoy the holidays, etc. and Im in a funk

Mich,
I am relieved to hear someone else has problems with tears and taking the AD. I thought maybe it was just me. I used to be one who could cry at most anything sad. While the AD helps me with depression, I so wish I could have a good cry when the stress gets to me!! The 'no tear' thing causes a big internal struggle about taking the AD, but for now I will continue with it since I know what happens when off of it.

What to do? Wish you lived closer, you live on the west coast and I am over here on the east. Maybe it's not as bad as we think. Maybe I have too much time to think. I really appreciated my dr's care yesterday but today I'm 2nd guessing and wondering if he thought for real it would be that easy for me to take these meds and be well withing a little while.
To be honest, perfectly honest-I MISS MY DAD! I think my grief is killing me.
OK I said it. For some reason it has settled on me earlier that usual. Which means I am going to have to deal with my emotions even more this year.
They literally tear me up physically. Throwing everything out of whack hormonally. It has been therapuetic to get this out.
If it helps someone else identify -then I hope you will take care of yourself and not keep it bottled either.
Senecaguns

since on Ad i don't cry enough.

I can relate..I lost my mom suddenly and it has really done a number on me. I miss her everyday, terribly. I know a lot of my problem is escalated by grief and probably depression over losing her. No chance to say goodbye to her, etc. It all takes it's toll. Now with my health issues and questioning my own mortality, it makes things bigger than life. Plus it's very scary not to have a parent (who has always looked after YOU) be there when you are going through hard times and health issues. I used to talk to her about everything and just get a hug when I'm down, now I can't.

I cried today for the very first time in a VERY long time. I just don't need to cry since starting the AD 1 1/2 years ago, but today when my sister's and I were talking about my dad and the thought of putting him in a nursing home, it was more than I could take.

If I can help it, he won't go into one!

hi,
For me it is a rare day that I don't cry....I am really sick of it...I cry about everything...sad memories...happy memories....in the car...feel like it
when I am shopping but I control it.....family members who are dead...the past, the present, the future.......I also have the added bonus
of spontaneously bursting into tears during a hot flash,(not every time) this one is a physical reaction rather than emotional.... I have a hot
flash about every 30min....I live alone and don't work so I spend a lot of time on the pity pot playing my violin lol.....I just have this terrible sadness for the whole world ...the struggles and terrible things that many people must bear here are just too much......this too shall pass...

Dear 'JESO80
Isn't amazing how we all act differently whilst on an AD.I have been on one for many years but it has not deadened my feelings and I can have a good cry when needed
The News is so depressing.I just follow the Headlines and then watch something more light hearted
Also I notice I am far more sensitive to other's pain rather than my own and cannot tolerate abuse to children or animals at all.
It is possible that the AD you are on maybe a slightly higher dose than you need.I am not a Doctor but sometimes a lower dosage can be well tolerated and then your emotions will be more open.Of course this is something you need to discuss with your Prescribing Physician but perhaps something to think about
All the Best
Elizabeth

((((((((hugs 2 you))))))))))
heres a big cyper hug hope you feel well today

Hi Elizabeth
It seems the prozac is the one that helps me the most.
I have tried several times to ween off of it and only take the Wellbutrin. I've discussed this with my doctor several times but it seems each time I try coming off the prozac I tend to fall back down the hole. So right now I'm only taking 10mg of prozac along with 150 mg of the Wellbutrin and it seems to be a working combination. I'm pretty med sensitive. The 2 together seem to keep me feeling more like the old me, other then not being able to cry as easily as I used to.
Thanks for your reply and the suggestion though, I do appreciate it!
hugs,
jes

Seems lately all I do is cry.........................for many different reasons. Yep, I feel UP TO HERE with anxiety!

I see my doc again tomorrow ( 2 X in a mth)..........Just so tired of feeling this way!
I'm over trying the natural route!


~Helen~

I never ever used to cry. Since my anxiety got really bad in Oct I cried almost every day. That is really new for me. Sometimes it felt good, sometimes not. It is just weird for me to cry, but I could not help it. I was having a giant pity party becasue I am so tired of all of these bad feelings and feeling like absolute c@ap, not working, trying to sort out thyroid c@ap that they won't medicate me for, and it all is just getting to be to much. I think the Lexapro is kicking in as I am not crying as much, although now I feel MORE depressed. Does that make any sense? Feeling more depressed but not being able to cry. Mostly I am frustrated and scared of all these weird feelings!

I kind of felt like that on Lexapro too. I didn't cry either, it did well for the anxiety/panic/obsessive thinking however I still felt depressed and unmotivated on it. I've since switched to Pristiq (almost 5 weeks on and am seeing light at the end of the tunnel).