I wanted to ask you ladies who have had kids leave home, how long is this going to bother me? I cried like a baby when she left then dried up and did well but yesterday and today, I have done nothing but think of her and wish she was here. I want to just cry, I want to jump on an airplane and go to her.

I know she is fine as I speak with her on the phone a couple times a week. It has not been quite a month yet but feel like it has been years since I saw her.

Just a little reassurance please. I feel silly but I just can't help it!!!!

Hugs,
Jeaninne

((((((Jeaninne)))))) I know exactly how you feel, my older son left home but moved only 3 hours away when he went off to college, so I was able to see him on weekends -- but he and his wife left the state a couple months ago, and I miss him terribly. I cried like a baby at first, but he calls me and texts me and we talk on Skype so I can see his face so it isn't as bad as I thought it would be. My younger son and I plan to fly out next March to stay with him and his wife in their new house and I have that to look forward to, it keeps me going. I find that I can't think about missing him because that depresses me and I start crying and you know the rest........he knows I love him and I know he loves me. You aren't alone, we are all here for you and I hope it gets better for you real soon.

Hugs, Barb

Stitch, you're not silly, it's an understandable feeling you are going through. Are you able to talk to her on skype or something like that - seeing her face over the computer as well as talking to her may make it feel like she is nearer to you. Are you able to make arrangements to visit in the future, so you have something to look forward to?

Mine haven't left home yet, so I can only guess what you must be going through - but I know I will be a wreck when they finally do leave home.

Hugs and hope you have a better day tomorrow.

Jackie

My Daughter got Married this past March and it was hard but we tex durrning the day and email and call each other. That seems to really help.
I think also helped that we developed a good relationship once she got over her teens and are more friends that mom and DD.
You will adjust its cause you love her and she must love her mama to, try not to worry. Find a way to keep the communication going so you dont miss her as much. That is my humble opinion.

Tinks

thank you so much ladies!!!

I knew you would understand and help me get through this.

We do talk on the phone a couple times a week and I am trying to learn the camera thingy so I can see her. Today for some reason has been hard.

I have been listening to my son's ipod and he and her love the same music so there is a lot of songs that remind me of her running around the house singing out loud and I am teary and smiling at the same time does that make sense?! What a mess I am.

I think it makes it a whole lot worse being menopausal - my son started college last year, away during the week but home on weekends, and it was fine, also both kids took long summer trips away from home, a bit hard and missed them but was fine....but THIS year since i suddenly started this whole peri thing in April, I am going thru terrible sadness and inconsolable feelings of loss (and he comes home on weekends!) My daughter is home and has stuck by me 24/7 since this all started but i even think of when she will want to go do her own thing and cant' bear it! I am a mess honestly and i totally understand your feelings, it is so so hard to let go... the advice i have been given is to go ahead and go with the feelings and allow them, I guess its a process we have to go thru

my younger son (21) has been out of state for a year and half. I cry at least once a week, usually more. My other son lives 4.1 miles away..I cry for him being out of the house as well. You spend 20 years being a mom, actively I mean, and then they are not there for your to mother...I hate it.