is what im getting surges or is anxiety like this. I have these surges of something moving up my body from middle to chest area and they come in succession and im all het up them and cant calm myself down or they are just a one off but when they come all together i get so exhausted by them and find it hard to talk and am sure people can tell im having them.The adrenaline makes me cry which is so hard in social settings .Howdo i decrease the adrenaline in my body i cant seem to stop them coming and just lately they are almost every day i prob have about 6 good days a month and i cant see a plan. i think i have it sorted then bam im bad on a day i think i should be good.Took propanolol today which didnt even touch it....The surges exhaust me which them makes me tired out to handle work kids etc which upsets me as i think im crazy.My emotions are so exaggerated and how to i stop the cycle of surges causing exhaustion exhaustion causing anxiety....Do i just need to put up with them and will they end.Im only 41 but the last 6 months these surges are so strong and out of nowhere.I hD A WEEKS HOLIDAY LAST WEEK TO SEE IF THEY STOPPED but they still came on so it wasnt what im doing that is stressing me.I went grocery shopping today and after feeling anxiety so strongly i wanted to and almost did burst into tears at counter i had to try so hard not o make a fool of myself......what do i do.I know this is somethig more than anxiety as nothing i can pinpoint externally is ausing me to be so tense stressed out nervous jittery emotonal i could go on but i wont....i dont know whether to ask for a hysterectomy as i know they wont give me hrt as my gran had breast cancer and my mum was told she couldt have hrt.My gran and mum started peri at 37 and gran had two breakdowns due to hormones but docs wont do anything to help me just label me nxious..... sorry to ramble but when and if i do have a crisis i have handled them well and calmly at times with no anxiety.just cant pinpont it

Hi LG,
I can't tell you how to stop the surges. They are part and parcel of the shutdown process and some women have them a lot worse than others. Yours sound pretty powerful just as mine were. I can reassure you that you are not dreaming these symptoms up and you are certainly not going mad. Mine were very obvious to those around me and my husband became very adept at identifying them as soon as they kicked off. Mine were all tied in with hot flashes and were so severe that I came close to collapse on several occasions. At one stage I became afraid to go out alone. I once had sixty surges between going to bed at 11pm and 3am in the morning. The worst stage lasted about a year but they have now dwindled to almost nothing. I still have them and feel those little rushes of anxiety flow over me but they are very mild and almost insignificant now. I took no HRT and allowed my body to work through its own difficulties.

Hysterectomy would make your position ten times worse. Do not even think about such a thing.

You appear to have a family history of psychological difficulties at menopause so you need to be looked after very carefully in that department. I am confident that these awful symptoms will subside but you will need to cut yourself plenty of slack, until all the adjustments are made. Try to stop beating yourself up about these nasty symptoms and look forward to the time when they become insignificant to your life, as mine have. If you need help along the way with the odd Xanax then so be it. This is all about survival!

Take care,

XIII

thansks you know exactly what i m having.I will count them next time they are coming wildly...It is about survival exactly right.Cheers

I know exactly how you feel!When I started peri I was about 45.Thats exactly how mine started it was so frusterating because there was nowhere to go to get relief[usual relaxing places].I remember telling my husband about it and he said"cool go for a run".I wish I could but it wore me out.All I can say is I believe it will settle down.One of my books says to drink nettle tea which I did and it helped but there are "adrenal support" vitamins that could help.I know last week when my car and my cell phone broke down on a busy street that set off my adrenals again,but not like in the beggining that was crazy.They say that when your overies start to shut down the adrenals take over.Since your mother had an early meno it sounds like you will too.Hang in there,it will settle down and you will learn some coping skills.

Thanks ill get some nettle tea and look into adrenal supports.

Hi all:

I am new to the boards and to this process. Am 48 and in the last month have had wicked heart palpitations and a late period. But my other weird symptom is pain in my lower back. The pain, which comes and goes, is on each side, like where my adrenal glands are. Sometimes it is even severe so I can hardly sit. I have searched these boards and didn't find that listed. Do any of you ever have this? Sometimes I also feel a twitching in my adrenal glands, and a few times I even felt (or maybe hallucinated) hormones surging out my adrenals.

I know the adrenals are closely tied to perimenopause, but I'm wondering what is going on over there?

Thanks!

I have this, too! I'm 45. I told my husband that it feels like my kidneys hurt, and he explained that it's probably my adrenals; I tend to have this pain when I'm very shaky and have heart racing. I also get that weird twitching sensation! So glad to know I'm not the only one with this weird symptom. It is painful.

Thanks, XIII, for sharing your experiences and letting us know that things DO get better! I was especially encouraged by your mentioning that you took no HRT and allowed your body "to work through its own difficulties." HOORAY! I'm doing the same.
The anxiety, etc. is awful, but I keep remembering that it has to come to an end one of these years.
You have given my hope.

Thanks again!

DizzyD