My husbands elderly uncle has died.His wife died in July.My husband has been calling him every night to check in-when he did not pick up last night or this morning my husband got worried.He drove over and could not get an answer at the door.He called the police.The police came and went in,he was in his bed.He had been dead for 12 hours.We do not know what to do.He had no kids.My husband talked to him daily,but the man was a bit odd,he was a hoarder.So he did not want my husband coming over-he was ashamed of his house.What do we do?Do we just call the funeral home?Who will pay for the funeral?Do we go tot probate and ask to be administrator?I am so confused and sad.My mother in law just passed in August,my brother is dying of Lou gherigs and now this!!!I am so tired.My husband is so upset-he kept saying on the phone"what do I do?"and I didn't know what to tell him.I called our pastor and he is supposed to drive over there and see if he can help.I can't go because my 8 year old is sick,running a low fever.Please ladies we really need prayers,advice,and good thoughts.GOD-bless

Not sure, but I think he needs to be officially pronounced by a doctor. When the police came, did paramedics come with them? Did they take the body to the hospital? I'm sure a local funeral director can advise you best.

The police called an ambulance,they pronounced him dead.He was sick,he was in dialysis for a long time.I just wish he made his wishes about a funeral home known.I am so sad and just sick.

I am so sorry LadyE. I can not offer any advice to you but will keep you and your hubby in my prayers.

Hugs,
Jeaninne

I am so sorry for your loss. I would call your local funeral home. They should be able to tell you what avenues you can take and what the costs would be and who's responsible for paying for them. As far as his belongings...you need to talk to an attorney.

I am so sorry.

My prayers are with you and your husband. I'm so sorry.

So sorry LadyE. I guess you will have to look for a will. If there is none, then try and find out if their is an insurance policy that can pay funeral expenses. If you wind up paying for his burial and can only afford the minimal, don't have a viewing or a death notice in the paper. Cremation is less expensive than burial and you don't have to buy an expensive casket for cremation.

Why not contact an attorney for some advice.

Take care and God bless,
Donna

I would think his estate could pay for his funeral?? His house? any savings? Boy, you never think of these things until it happens! Sooo sorry!!!

Well I started the phone calls today.I called the probate office and they said that my husband should apply to be his uncles administrator,they are sending me some papers.Then I called the funeral home that just did my MILs funeral in August.The man there said that they would be able to wait to be paid until my husband could legally access his uncles funds.We are going to go back to his house this afternoon and see if we can find any type of will,pre planned funeral arrangements,etc.The problem-his uncle was a bit of a hoarder.The house is crammed full of junk,clothing,papers,un opened packages.I am not looking forward to this.I am sad,and tired.We are already dealing with probate for my MIL-and she had a will,her plans are being taken care of fairly quickly Thank GOD,I do not even know what happens when someone does not have a will.I guess we will just go one step at a time and do our best.He had no kids,no living brothers or sisters.He has three nephews-my husband being the only one he spoke with.I hope this does not turn into a legal nightmare.I am so glad I have GOD,or else I would lose my mind.Thanks to all who posted-I appreciate you all and we need all of your prayers.GOD-bless

my prayers are with you lady E! i found out it takes alot of patience in such a sad situation, your husband may get overwhelmed by paperwork, if you can, get an estate attorney.

much love,
boo

Sadly we cannot afford an attorney.My husband is the only one of us that works full time,I am a substitute teacher,and we have three kids.Thankfully GOD has helped us so much with all of this.I am so sad and tired,but I know we will get through.GOD-bless

Just wanted to give an update.We went to the funeral home and planned his cremation and service today.It is all going to cost around 3600 dollars.The funeral home is going to wait on payment until we can go to the probate office and my husband can try to be named administrator.I know he has money in the bank,but until we get a letter from the court the money cannot be touched.I am so tired.We are still dealing with my MILs probate,cleaning out her house,filing paperwork etc.It has been going well,and GOD is helping us so much.I feel as if I have not had time to grieve for her and now this.My husband is doing well,but I know he is mourning his family.He has one aunt and uncle left and they are not close.Please keep praying for us ladies.My mind is so full of stuff that I am having a hard time resting.Thanks again and GOD-bless

Lady E - I am so very sorry about your loss/es. My advice is to take one day at a time...don't let all this stuff overwhelm you by thinking too far in advance you know?? Bless you for being such a good wife to your husband. And the peace of God which passes all understanding will keep your hearts and mind in Christ Jesus.

(((Lady E)))

(((((((((((((Lady)))))))))))))) I can only offer hugs and prayers for all of you. My deepest condolences.

Thank you all so much.I am trying really hard to not become stressed beyond my limit.I just feel overwhelmed.We were able to get an early probate appointment,so GOD willing we will soon be able to pay for the uncles funeral.I appreciate all of the prayers,I can feel them!GOD-bless

((((hugs)))) Lady E

Thanks!

Well we go to the funeral in a few hours.I started my period today(of course)and I feel a headache coming on.I hope I can stand through this and support my hubby.I have no idea how many people will come,the uncle was a retired fire man.I hope it is a lovely service.Keep the prayers coming my friends-I am so tired.GOD-bless