QUOTE (Lara47 @ Oct 2 2009, 07:55 AM)

Hi michah,
I was happy to see a post from you. You always come from your heart and are so insightful. Your words are always beautiful and uplifting. Although I hear your pain and suffering I feel your fighting spirit hanging in there to figure it all out.
What you said about realizing there is nothing lacking really hits home for me. I know that is true somewhere inside me but I certaintly down live it. I live the opposite. For years I tried to look perfect to cover up the overwhelming sense of lacking of anything on the inside. I was obsessed with my looks. Worked out at gyms for hours a day, wore beautiful clothes. I just put everything into looking good so people didnt see the hollowness I felt on the inside.
I was always complimented and turned heads but still felt like I wasnt enough. Now that I'm in my late forties and the looks are going. I've just found another form of escape or cover up. My new obsession is my home. I'm obsessed with it looking perfect. I'm always trying to make improvements on it.
I watch every decorating show on t.v. I buy every decorating magazine that comes out so that I can try to make my home look perfect. I get a ton of compliments from everyone that comes over and I enjoy decorating and making our home nice but I also realize that I'm still trying to fill a hole. Like if I and other people see my beautiful home noboby including myself will see that I dont think I alone am enough.
I really dont understand why I dont feel enough just being and I have to show everyone including myself that I'm worthy . I do see my good qualities and I know I'm a good person but I dont know if I'll ever not feel that sense of lacking if I'm not getting attention for something I'm doing.
Thanks again for your post Michah. You reminded me of what I really know that none of us are lacking. We are enough the way we are. I just have to start living it.
Lara
Lara........thank you.......
You do not have to do anything, you do not have to be anything, you do not have to live a certain way.......
If you love your home, then so it is........as long as it is not obsession
Love your self, looks and all........as long as it does not become your identity
Be kinder to yourself, for you know that IT exists........this feeling of not being perfect enough......love it anyway
Love imperfections.......for a smooth surface only reflects, you cannot see the wonderful depth of colour, integrity and beauty of what people call "flaws".
There are no flaws......we just ARE.....
Ask yourself, whose expectations am I trying to live up to?
For me, it was my mothers'.
Once you know the TRUTH, it becomes belief, which becomes action........take your time for there is no rush......you are WONDERFUL just the way you are.
Big Hugs,
Michah