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Michah Hadley
Hi my dear peri sisters,

I have not been contributing much lately.....

It is a combination of suffering, coping, introspection and deep thought.....

In my peri journey, I have been referring a lot to my philosophy of choice.....

And I found a quote that I want to share with you......for it deeply resounded in me

And brought much stillness.......despite the chaos

"Is and Isn't produce each other

Hard depends on easy
Long is tested by short
High is determined by low
Sound is harmonised by voice
After is followed by before

Therefore the Sage is devoted to non-action
Moves without teaching
Lives but does not own
Acts but does not presume
Accomplishes without taking credit

Be Content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you."

(This a is a combination of proverbs from the Tao Te Ching written about 4000 years ago by Lau Tzu......)


Love despite pain
Live despite hardship
Accept all the things the way they are........for they cannot be any other way
Accept that all things change and are in flux

Rejoice that we have understanding and acceptance here and can share our pain with others.........for I do.

Thanks for being there for me, all you warriors of the spirit.......

Much love,

Michah

Lara47
QUOTE (Michah Hadley @ Oct 1 2009, 03:27 PM) *
Hi my dear peri sisters,

I have not been contributing much lately.....

It is a combination of suffering, coping, introspection and deep thought.....

In my peri journey, I have been referring a lot to my philosophy of choice.....

And I found a quote that I want to share with you......for it deeply resounded in me

And brought much stillness.......despite the chaos

"Is and Isn't produce each other

Hard depends on easy
Long is tested by short
High is determined by low
Sound is harmonised by voice
After is followed by before

Therefore the Sage is devoted to non-action
Moves without teaching
Lives but does not own
Acts but does not presume
Accomplishes without taking credit

Be Content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you."

(This a is a combination of proverbs from the Tao Te Ching written about 4000 years ago by Lau Tzu......)


Love despite pain
Live despite hardship
Accept all the things the way they are........for they cannot be any other way
Accept that all things change and are in flux

Rejoice that we have understanding and acceptance here and can share our pain with others.........for I do.

Thanks for being there for me, all you warriors of the spirit.......

Much love,

Michah



Hi michah,
I was happy to see a post from you. You always come from your heart and are so insightful. Your words are always beautiful and uplifting. Although I hear your pain and suffering I feel your fighting spirit hanging in there to figure it all out.

What you said about realizing there is nothing lacking really hits home for me. I know that is true somewhere inside me but I certaintly down live it. I live the opposite. For years I tried to look perfect to cover up the overwhelming sense of lacking of anything on the inside. I was obsessed with my looks. Worked out at gyms for hours a day, wore beautiful clothes. I just put everything into looking good so people didnt see the hollowness I felt on the inside.
I was always complimented and turned heads but still felt like I wasnt enough. Now that I'm in my late forties and the looks are going. I've just found another form of escape or cover up. My new obsession is my home. I'm obsessed with it looking perfect. I'm always trying to make improvements on it.
I watch every decorating show on t.v. I buy every decorating magazine that comes out so that I can try to make my home look perfect. I get a ton of compliments from everyone that comes over and I enjoy decorating and making our home nice but I also realize that I'm still trying to fill a hole. Like if I and other people see my beautiful home noboby including myself will see that I dont think I alone am enough.

I really dont understand why I dont feel enough just being and I have to show everyone including myself that I'm worthy . I do see my good qualities and I know I'm a good person but I dont know if I'll ever not feel that sense of lacking if I'm not getting attention for something I'm doing.

Thanks again for your post Michah. You reminded me of what I really know that none of us are lacking. We are enough the way we are. I just have to start living it.
Lara
Michah Hadley
QUOTE (Lara47 @ Oct 2 2009, 07:55 AM) *
Hi michah,
I was happy to see a post from you. You always come from your heart and are so insightful. Your words are always beautiful and uplifting. Although I hear your pain and suffering I feel your fighting spirit hanging in there to figure it all out.

What you said about realizing there is nothing lacking really hits home for me. I know that is true somewhere inside me but I certaintly down live it. I live the opposite. For years I tried to look perfect to cover up the overwhelming sense of lacking of anything on the inside. I was obsessed with my looks. Worked out at gyms for hours a day, wore beautiful clothes. I just put everything into looking good so people didnt see the hollowness I felt on the inside.
I was always complimented and turned heads but still felt like I wasnt enough. Now that I'm in my late forties and the looks are going. I've just found another form of escape or cover up. My new obsession is my home. I'm obsessed with it looking perfect. I'm always trying to make improvements on it.
I watch every decorating show on t.v. I buy every decorating magazine that comes out so that I can try to make my home look perfect. I get a ton of compliments from everyone that comes over and I enjoy decorating and making our home nice but I also realize that I'm still trying to fill a hole. Like if I and other people see my beautiful home noboby including myself will see that I dont think I alone am enough.

I really dont understand why I dont feel enough just being and I have to show everyone including myself that I'm worthy . I do see my good qualities and I know I'm a good person but I dont know if I'll ever not feel that sense of lacking if I'm not getting attention for something I'm doing.

Thanks again for your post Michah. You reminded me of what I really know that none of us are lacking. We are enough the way we are. I just have to start living it.
Lara


Lara........thank you.......

You do not have to do anything, you do not have to be anything, you do not have to live a certain way.......

If you love your home, then so it is........as long as it is not obsession

Love your self, looks and all........as long as it does not become your identity

Be kinder to yourself, for you know that IT exists........this feeling of not being perfect enough......love it anyway

Love imperfections.......for a smooth surface only reflects, you cannot see the wonderful depth of colour, integrity and beauty of what people call "flaws".

There are no flaws......we just ARE.....

Ask yourself, whose expectations am I trying to live up to?

For me, it was my mothers'.

Once you know the TRUTH, it becomes belief, which becomes action........take your time for there is no rush......you are WONDERFUL just the way you are.

Big Hugs,

Michah
stitchnanny
Micah:

It is so good to see you! I worry about all of you and when I dont see you, it makes me sad and worry more.

Big hugs,
Jeaninne
Michah Hadley
QUOTE (stitchnanny @ Oct 2 2009, 11:19 AM) *
Micah:

It is so good to see you! I worry about all of you and when I dont see you, it makes me sad and worry more.

Big hugs,
Jeaninne


Ahhhhh Jeanine,

Thank you for thinking of me, sweet......It is good to see you....

Everything is the same......and different

Much time for reflection.......and solitude

It is in the quiet......that I hear myself......some days are easier than others.... wink.gif

Thanks for caring, babe.......hopefully your day moves with stillness.

Big hugs back,

Michah
ladybugsforu
Very true and it calmed me! How nice that was for that brief moment in time. You really do the soul searching stuff and I feel comfort when you share with us!
Michah Hadley
Thanks all for replies.......it is always good to see you guys......

Here is one of my favourite chinese paintings which helps with reflection....



May your days move with stillness.....

Big hugs,

Michah
Webalina
Thanks so much for posting this. I've been studying the Tao lately and I recognized it right away. There's a lot in there that makes sense.
Michah Hadley
QUOTE (Webalina @ Oct 7 2009, 01:03 PM) *
Thanks so much for posting this. I've been studying the Tao lately and I recognized it right away. There's a lot in there that makes sense.


Hello fellow Tao reader.......thanks for replying......yes, takes a bit of reading......and breathing......but what a WONDERFUL philosophy.......removes the "pressure" instantly in some cases.....love it!! And Taoism is also the fundamentals of quantum theory in some cases......quantum theory is one of my passions so I get the best of both worlds.......Taoism is so "logical"......

"To make sense of a muddy world, let it be still, until it becomes clear" Taoist proverb........one of my faves!!!

Take good care,

Michah

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