Family life has been almost normal for quite a while now but as of the last few days I am finding I am agitated, angry and just a downright sourpuss to be around. I feel as if the black cloud is hovering above again. I can't actually SEE it yet but I know it's there. How do I break this before it gets out of hand? I am snapping at people I love and I hate myself for it but still do it anyway! I feel like a tornado is spinning inside and I can't stop it. Maybe I need a vacation! Normally the anger stuff doesn't bother me...I'll just rage till it's gone but this time....I don't want to. I've come to realize I hurt people I love when I do this. Do I just keep it stuffed until it passes or are there actual HEALTHY ways to get rid of this? Please don't suggest meds. I can not take them and have way to many allergies to use herbal stuff.

Good Morning!

When I start feeling pressure, I try to take a day off. Sometimes I will eat chocolate and watch old movies....ALL DAY LONG!
I feel incredible guilty, but it does seem to help. On these rare days, I refuse to take any calls. The answering machine becomes my best friend.

If you have a friend that is 50-100 miles away...go on a day trip. As soon as you start driving, you will feel much better.
Sometimes I surf the net for attractions that are close to me. I put on something pretty, do my hair, & etc. and start off on an adventure....(It's funny, but many times, I end up taking someone with me for my "Day Alone."

I can't say that it is too healthy to keep the rage in, but often it is the best thing to do. What was it that was said about the tongue being set on fire from he!!? However, in saying that, I have noticed that you are much like me in many ways. We both tend to say what is on our minds. LOL! Is that a good trait or our fatal downfall?

Perhaps...an adventure is what you need? A trip in the car often gives us the needed downtime to decide that we hate everything, and after that, we realize that we don't. At home with the distractions that bombard us each and every minute, we rarely come to that conclusion. LOL!



Yes...an adventure will fix you!


Best wishes,
Shebee

Thanks Shebee. I do tend to say whats on my mind. I'm not a "sugar coater" kinda girl. I guess I'm feeling just a bit sad and lost today for some stupid reason!

Evening primrose oil helps me when I get like this-I take one capsule three times daily,and it really helps.Also exercise is good to let off some steam.GOD-bless

hmmm.. no meds no herb eh ? well you can try

1. swimming .. walking ,, some kind of cardio exercise
2. massage pedicure, manicure
3. asking those around you if you could please have some "Me/Quiet time" ie. would they mind going out to a movie or somewhere not in your vacinity.
4. take yourself out for a very nice meal or shopping
5. Make SURE you are getting enough sleep
6. Get involved in a new hobby .. I just started making jewelry something I did in High School ,,and I am loving it again
7. meditate or pray ,, read spritual meditative material ,, breath deep in a room all by yourself and focus on relaxing every muscle in your body ,, imagine your somewhere you love and remember what it feels like to be there .. keep beautiful pictures around you and look at them from time to time and imagine yourself there ..

good quality retail therapy
find a hobby where aggression is useful - maybe online poker - there are play money tables
plenty of water helps calm you down
warn family in advance that you are in a filthy mood and declare yourself temporarily insane. This has a dual effect of amusing the family and ensuring they don't take your rage seriously
a cold bath or cold water hair wash can be remarkably relaxing
if you are feeling tired and cross put yourself to bed if it is feasable

OH .. and get a GOOD set of NOISE cancelling headphones .. I have a pair of BOSE .. I just flip a switch and everything goes quiet .. I find normal noises can just set me off these days .. especially the banging around in the kitchen my husband insists on.

WHAT???

What are noise cancelling headphones? Do they really take the noise out??

I wish I had those a LOOOOONNNNG time ago!!

Wonder if they come in ear buds also instead of big, bulky headphones?

I have tried ear plugs, but they end up stopping my ears up and giving me an ear ache.

The noise thing is not so bad now that I'm on meds, but it still happens some days.

Hi ladybugs i myself have anger issues i actually been good for a month or two now. What helps me when i am angry is going outside breathing in the air and watching the critters in my yard, it cools off my temper, then i can walk in the house and not kill someone lol.Also strenous exercising like cleaning up yard helps me. And sometimes like you mention a vacation. A trip to the river for a few days.Hubby and i are going to river on Sunday getting away from mother in law who irratates us. So a getaway is what we are planning to relive some stress and anger. Maybe you do need a well rested vacation it does wonders. Hugs Terry

thanks girls. Funny thing is when I feel stressed it is usually me who ends up leaving but no more. I told hubby i am going to start sending him and the boys to the movies once in awhile just so I can go rent my own movie and veg with the dogs. May just nap instead. With the daycare and three men in the house...silence is never around!

You go girl sounds like a plan to me:)