My sister and I haven't gotten along since we were preadolescents. We've tried but have never been able to. I stopped talking to her about 10-15 years ago. I've talked to her in the last year because my mother asked me to. I confronted her about really hateful things she said about me decades ago and probably said things that have destroyed what little relationship we ever had for good. I avoided her all those years because I knew it would boil down to this. I will be 39 in a few weeks and have rage day and night about anything and everything. Everything angers and annoys me. I am so angry I am afraid I will hurt someone.

ahhhhh ((((CAT))))) I feel for you. But take it from someone older than you, rage only keeps you stuck in the middle. You can't move forward. I'm not suggesting you make nice with your sister, but the opposite of love is indifference. I hope you're able to put whatever it is in a nice neat place so you can move forward without all the anger. Anger is hurt and frustration. I'm sorry this has been such a source of pain for you.

Be good to yourself!!!! XOXOXOXOX

2 words- anger management, it might help...good luck

Hopefully the "I am so angry I am afraid I will hurt someone" part is just a figure of speech...if not,you may want to consider talking to your dr. about this.

It's sad that you can't get along with your sister....I also can't get along with mine,but i do keep trying...she is afterall,my sister.
Sometimes we just need to forgive and forget....nevermind who's right and who's wrong....would you rather be right or be happy?If you're confronting her with things she said decades ago,you obviously would rather be right...maybe try starting over fresh with her and let go of the past...then if things are the same,at least you tried.

HI Catrinac ,


I know what you mean about those anger feelings .... I may not have it as bad as you, but I'm sure some people here do,..and to be honest, I feel aggravated and ticked off a lot of the time myself. LIttle things can set me off now, I was never like that. Just because someone is a family member, doesn't mean we have to LIKE them, or want to spend time with them, there is all this pressure in society to conform to that, in reality, families are just PEOPLE, and not all people get along.
You two just rub each other the wrong way ... so, it happens. The fact that when you spoke to her, you brought up things from a long time ago, tells me that those hurt feelings within you haven't been resolved, and I think you did the right thing in bringing them up, because, how in the world can you just start talking to someone again, with the issues that seperated you two in the first place, not being resolved? I would have done the exact same thing, and not just to prove anything, not to prove whose right or who isn't, no, just to SETTLE things, which you have to do, whether it's with your sister, friend, spouse, co-worker, whoever. You can't just "move on" and "forget" it, I don't know how ssome people can do that, I mean, in REALITY it's still there, UNRESOLVED, so, you did the right thing in bringing it up, this way, at least hopefully it can be resolved, and then when you talk again, that won't be nagging at you in the back of your mind, i would be the same way. I would want to set things right, not ignore it. Hey, you did this BECAUSE your mother wanted you to, not because YOU wanted to, so, don't be so hard on yourself.

So, you got angry at her....hey, listen, that's life.......... give yourself a break here...you're only human. If you're in peri, you're going to have to give yourself an even BIGGER "break", bec. as you know, our hormones seem to run the show right now! We don't always handle things the way we'd like to anyway, but now, with these RAGING hormones dancing all over the place, we seem to be hanging right on the edge of sanity .... lol ... ....... so, don't let guilt get you down, you did the right thing, and remember, the relationship between you and your sister goes BOTH WAYS, it's partly up to HER as well, to understand YOU!