My meno anxiety has been horrible doing menopause but since my MIL stroke and admitting my FIL into the nursing home the anxiety is overwhelming!

At first I did ok, even thought Wow I am stronger then I thought!

My MIL had just fallen and was admitted to the hospital but two days later had a serious stroke while still a patient.

We tried taking care of my husband father but omgoodness his alzhermer was beyond what we could cope with!
How my mil took care of him alone I will never know!

He never sleeps and talks 24/7 non-stop! So we got NO SLEEP! He trys to escape every time we turned our backs> He will not allow a light turn on in the house after dark! yes we had to set in the dark or hear him tell us non-stop >light bulbs can cause a fire! Yet he turn on the kitchen stove when we were not looking!
I know it's not his fault but he needs to be watch 24/7 in a Alzheimer unit.

Anyway Now after returning home I have crash!

Feeling overwhelmed is a understatement!

One day we travel to see my mil (10 hrs days depending on how long we spend with her) the next day we spend trying to get their affairs into order> worse part we have to find my fil another nursing home within two weeks since he was taken in short term. So far no luck!
I tried talking to my FIL today and all he did was beg for me to take him home. He had no clue who I was

My husband is a joke when it comes to talking to people and pretty much doing anything!!!! So everything has fallen on my shoulders!
There is not one person in his husband family we could get to help us!
My only rock has been my sil on my side of the family!

Anyway I call my doctor and he said to take my ativan 3 times a day not wait until I need it! Even that is not helping!!!!

He said AD's could take weeks to work but maybe I can go see him next week and get one! Plus my BP is high shall I take something for it now?

Besides hugging my Claire Weekes books>
Please tell me HOW DO I COPE?

Thinks for letting me VENT!

(((((((((((Snow))))))))))))))

I surely wish I had the answers. Just keep talking to us!!!!!

One day at a time is all you can do.....or one hour at a time! It's so hard when your in the midst of the craziness......especially with meno being crazy enough on its own!
Keep us posted.....even now as I write to you I'm praying for you and your family......

Oars

Yes one day-hour at a time!
One lesson I have learn doing peri!!!!
All I can do!

I feel stressed and overwhelmed just reading your post!........wish we could all help each other to bear these burdens....well, I guess we do right?!

Snowy.......I have just begun reading 'hope and help for your nerves'....although some of it is a little 'old', I am trying to live in the moment and 'float' over my feelings and fears.

let me ask you......do you have any time for yourself?


Can you try and join a meditation or yoga group?......I believe regular meditation or yoga is a huge calmer.......now, if only I could get myself to do practice it regularly!

Try and do this for yourself..........you deserve to be peaceful and calm

hugs

caz

You poor thing--I can feel your pain!! I want to cry for you just reading your post!!--Please know my thoughts and prayers are with you!!!

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OOOOOOHHHHH, SNOW!!!! I had no idea you were dealing with an alzheimer's patient in the family! Sounds just like my dad! He DOES NOT SLEEP and when he does, he wakes every 5 min.!! It's a nightmare!!!!

If his shoes are not in his sight, he is up looking for them every few minutes! I finally just let him keep them on. I'll even let him wear them to bed if it gets that bad!!

My mother is my dad's primary caretaker and she has had several strokes herself, so I have no idea how she cares for him 24/7.

I help as much as I can, but I work and I have been sick myself.

Take care of yourself. You are the only one who can do it!

Many hugs,

bev
xoxoxo

Snow I,m so sorry your going through this I,ll keep you and all the PS sister,s in my prayers!! This anxiety is HE--. Hang tough keep praying I,m here for you.