so she basiclly just has to die on her own. i am better now than i was a few hrs. ago when i got the message. please keep her in your prayers that she goes peacefully. i don't know how long she has, she has not told me that yet. or even if she asked her dr. that question, i don't know. she is only given me littles bits at a time. i live 1000miles away from her. i think she does not want me to worry to much or run down there right now. i personally would like to see her again before she goes. i don't want to be there for the funeral, i can't handle that part. when i found out the news today, i felt i was haveing a nervous breakdown. i felt i was going to pass out and my arm started to tingle so then of course i thought i was having a heart attack. lots of stress. i think i will give her sometime to come with this, and then ask her again how much time she has. we are only texting for now. it is to hard to talk, if you know what i mean. then on top of it, my BF is mad at me, because i keep trying to get ahold of her, and she has not gotten back to me. well i said r we still friends or what , she used to complain when she lived near me that her friend never got back to her or called her, and i reminded her of that. so she got back to me today and told me to stop feeling sorry for myslef, and that maybe i should start thinking of her for a change. need i remind you she is peri. also. well, of course i felt even worse after she finally texted me that, why because i wanted someone to talk to. and there was no way i was feeling sorry for myself. i needed a friend to talk to that was all. i was always there for her when she had her family situations, but now i need her she is not here for me. what are friends for. i am glad i have you girls to talk to. at least u will get back to me. ty for being here for me, and my sister as u pray for her, to go fast. sorry to say that but i hope she does not have to suffer. thankyou for letting me vent. lindy

Lindy , I am so sorry you are going through this ,you and your sister will be in my prayers. Maybe you should go and be with your sister if you want to see her . Hugs, Cathy

Lindy, that makes me incredibly sad. Makes me feel guilty for my own anxiety over absolutely nothing when obviously there are people out there who are truly at rock bottom. Call your sister and tell her you love her! I'll be thinking of you!

My only comment here other than to say we love you is this. As hard as it may be to see her and deal with her dying...once she is gone you will NEVER get the chance to change that. Make sure you make peace with your sister and that she knows you love her whether she wants to hear it or not. I'm pretty sure she does want to hear it...maybe she is scared and just doesn't know how. I will pray for a peaceful passing for your sister and that God will comfort you and hold you up through this ordeal. Losing someone you love is never easy. Just remember, God is calling her home for a reason. Her time here on earth is done. He needs her more in heaven right now and you will see her again!

Big hugs. My prayers are with you and your sister.

Mopsy

((((lindymac))))


My prayers are certainly with you and with her. It's awful not knowing all the answers, but if it's a situation where she is terminal perhaps she or someone else can contact her regional Hospice. They give wonderful care and comfort at a very sad time.

I am so very sad for you lindy....I am glad you can find some comfort here....we will all be thinking of you

CIC

(((((Lindy))))), my thoughts and prayers are with you and your sister.
Arla.

lindy,

huge hugs.

(((angel)))

lindy, I am so very sorry to hear this!!

I hope you get to spend some time with your sister very soon.

Life is just not fair sometimes!

Please know that we all care and we are thinking of you.

Many hugs,

bev
xoxoxo

Lindy - I am so sorry and I couldn't agree more with the above comment. I lost my sister about a year ago and she knew for a while that she was going to die. I didn't want to accept it. I did get a chance to see her (she also lived about 1000 miles from me) before she passed and I am soooo grateful for that. I also spoke with her (not as much as I wished I would have, so please make those phone calls, I know it's hard, but it will be so worth it to you) before she died and I was able to tell her how much she meant to me and how much I loved her. Please no matter how hard it is for you, talk with her as much as you can and go and see her. You won't get that chance after she is gone and I can tell you from experience you will want those memories.

I am also sorry that your friend isn't being much of a friend right now. She needs to put herself and her needs aside for the moment and help you deal.

Joan

Dearest Lindymac,

My love and prayers are with you. So very sorry that you are going thru this. Wish I knew how to help more. Hope you feel the love here and it will give you strength.

(((((((((HUGS))))))))))))

can i ask how old is she?

Lindy,
I so sorry to read about your sister. I will be praying for you and your sister. I am especially sorry to read that a friend is so short sided in your time of need. Glad you come her for help.

Lindy I can't imagine. I am so sorry and sending you and your sister prayers. ((hugs))

may she pass peacefully.

Lindy ,, I lost my sister when I was 24 years old, she was 10 years older than me (34) to breast cancer. I am here for you ,, !! love and hugs .. maybe you cant reach her because she is struggling to come to terms with this and doenst want to talk about it. She and you are going to go through the 5 stages, Anger, denial, depression, bargaining and finally acceptance, I will pray for you.

I so agree with Ladybugs. Please try to make arrangements to see her as soon as you can. Don't lose her before you've had your time together to make things right. I know she deep down wants this too!
Hugs and prayers for you and your sister!

jes

((((((lindy)))))))

Ditto. Make sure you go see your sister as soon as you can, Sweetie. No one really knows how long she has and the Drs. are just giving it an educated guess. It's really up to your sister and God. Don't wait to go see her. While she may have months, she may also decline quite rapidly. Don't waste a minute. I'm so sorry your "friend" isn't supporting you right now. I'll echo the opinion that she isn't being much of a friend to you right now. Keep coming back to PS, we are here for you. Hugs and prayers to you and your sister.
xoxoxo
Jan

i feel for you also, it is a devastating blow to be in such a situation, i recently went thru it all, and i feel it'll take me a year to really get over my loss, it's so darn unfair. you take care and do what you think is right, even if you are scared, frightened, etc.

big hugs,
boo xoxo