Yesterday was a day from h e l l !!

First off she is 14 and has a mouth on her lately. She is constantly back talking and hollering no matter what we tell her to do. I am about to pull my hair out. I know she is a teenager but she is really getting out of control. She won't do her chores which only consists of loading/unloading the dishwasher and keeping her room cleaned unless we keep telling her or threaten to take away her phone or computer time.

DH and her have the same temper so all they do is holler at each other

I limited her texting this morning and had to hear about that for 20 minutes. I stuck to my guns. Her dad wanted to take the phone away for good.


yesterday I justed wanted to leave

14 year olds can be a trial. They are hormones on feet. But being a teenager is no excuse for rude behavior.

Don't threaten to take away the phone. Do it. And don't give it back until a specified amount of time, no matter how much she rants. And you and your husband have to be united on this. You have to get them where they live - and the phone is one way. When it curtails her social life, she will straighten up.

Just my humble opinion. I raised two daughters.
WriterMom

I have no idea what you are going through....NOT!!!! My day was like that yesterday too. I am losing my mind. I also get blamed for alot of things. Like my son can't find the pants to his gi (sp?) this IS my fault. We are scrambling around looking for em. He insists he had them when he came home from Aikido...I must have touched em...moved em. Blah blah blah. I have developed a temper living with men I am afraid. My son has been a handful for a good couple of years now. The shower thing every freaking morning is ridiculous as well!!!!! He is in there at least a 1/2 hour.

Sigh

Believe me, I know what you're going through with your 14-year-old. I raised six and had some of the same problems. I have to agree with WriterMom on this one. When mine were that age, it was the TV or the phone we took away. Now, it's cell phones, ipods, computers, etc. Something else...when it's time to disipline, be the PARENT. So many parents nowadays just want to be their kids "best friend", and that's NOT what they need from you. They might hate you now but when they're grown, they'll thank you.

dont threaten ... do... last year my 14 year old son .. lost ,, his cell phone ,, his video games and his I-Pod for a period of about 2 months because of math grades .. the funniest thing happened .. he became a "real boy" again .. without all that electronic pressure and texting vidoe games etc .. he would actually come and sit and watch TV with me ,, and have a conversation ,, it was the darndest thing.. make sure you follow through on those threats. !

thanks for the great advice

My problem is the constant whining about not having her phone, computer...blah blah...I cave in too early. I HAVE to work on that. DH can follow through more than I can but I am the one she comes crying to. Not him.

this has been my toughest battle so far as a parent....GAH! Our son was SO much easier.

I dont envy you .. I have 2 sons .. and I watched my best friend with 2 daughters .. I dont think I would have survived girls !!!

OH MY GOSH!!! Are you sure you weren't in my house yesterday??? I've got a 14 year old girl as well and oh can she be trying at times!! Good for you for sticking to your guns. I wanted to take my daughter's life line away (phone) and my husband wouldn't hear of it!!

IMO the more she gets the more she thinks she needs!! I may have a hard road ahead of me.
I should have nipped this in the bud a long time ago I am thinking.

thanks and good luck to all you other parents of teens!!

i think this is the lords way of making it easier on us when they have to leave the nest, by that time your very glad to see the lil "angels" fly on there own.....

Logically speaking....she is being bad or whining anyways......so atleast when you are enacting a punishment, it is just a different noise but being progressive to your advantage. This noise will have an end when she tires out or you add new punishments to stop the whining.

Your mantra is "I am stronger than you little one, I am stronger than you little one" (and you are).

Sons are not always easier...!!

Angela

my son did get to take his cell in his backpack to school in case there was an emergency ,, (they are not allowed to use them at school ,, if seen they will confiscate them .. so I wasnt to worried about him using there for anything except an emergency) .. but the minute he got home it went on the kitchen counter till the next day.

my son did get to take his cell in his backpack to school in case there was an emergency ,, (they are not allowed to use them at school ,, if seen they will confiscate them .. so I wasnt to worried about him using there for anything except an emergency) .. but the minute he got home it went on the kitchen counter till the next day.

LOL.....

I'm going to jump in here and ask the question; "why do children even have cell phones"? None of mine (5) have them until they graduate college and are on their own, paying their own bills.

I teach in an elementary school and it is unbelievable how many of the older children (7th and 8th grade) have cell phones and I just have to wonder what purpose they serve. They take the bus or get driven to school, they have to keep them in their lockers during the day, and then ride the bus home or are picked up by car. What in the world do they have phones for? IMHO they cause nothing but trouble and are unnecessary toys. We were raised without them, my kids were raised without them, kids will continue to be raised without them and will be no much worse for it.

I'm so tired of the excuse that there are very few pay phones around anymore. If a child needs to get in touch with a parent during the day they go down to the school office. If it's a matter of illness, the school nurse will get in touch with a parent. If it's because of forgotten homework well that's just too bad. They get points deducted for a late assignment and maybe that will remind them in the future to make sure they have what they need.

I understand what you mean about kids and cellphones. Now I wished we never would of fallen into it with her.

((((((((((fried))))))))))))))))

I feel your pain.
I wish I had some words of wisdom but to be honest there are days when I wonder who is in charge around here (my house).

Jeaninne

What emergency could there be at school that the school wouldn't notify you about? I still contend that children have no real need for cell phones. They cause them more trouble than they're worth.

I'm on board with dcamp on this one. My sons can have a cell phone when they get a job and can pay for it on their own. My oldest did just that and my youngest (13) goes without and he is growing up healthy and happy and safe.

I am still holding strong

Good girl!!

Donna- I was at the Verizon store last Friday and a man was buying a cell phone for his SIX year old! When she got it in her hot little hands, she asked the salesman "Can I download movies on this??" I could NOT believe it!! I really try to mind my own business is these types of situations, but I was tired (yada yada LOL) and I said "You know... she might enjoy the movie more if SHE READ THE BOOK FIRST!!"

My neighbor got her 10 year old daughter the type of phone that only calls 4 pre-progammed numbers. Mom's cell, Dad's cell, the house phone and 911.

It took me awhile to learn this, but kids get over it. ((((((Fried))))))) Keep hangin in there!!!

Hang tough Fried. I am not the most popular mother on the block because of my stand on cell phones----but then I'm really not trying to win any contests.

6 years old! Definitely a candidate for a cell phone ! The whole world is going mad. What happened to dolls and tea parties?

My neice got a cell phone for her birthday...she just turned 11.....and the mother wonders why her daughter almost had charges pressed against her for phone harrassment?......I personally think that's too young to have one ......