I don't know if it's the time of the year but for the last few days I start crying out of nowhere!I remember having this couple of years ago and on and off since then.I envy you women who get angry.I need some fire in my belly right now!I feel so vunerable .I'll be feeling o.k and in the middle of reading the paper I just break down.I just want to find a big rock to hide under until this is all over

Oh you poor thing> I broke down once in a grocery store! Wasn't sad going into the store.
Just starting crying!
Will make room in my cave for you! Hugs!

Hey lumz:

You are not alone. I do this at times. I just bawling for what seems no reason. The only other time I have done this is when pregnant with the children so I figure it is hormone related!!!
Big hugs to you,
Jeaninne

Lumz, join the crowd . I am the same way. For no reason I can just start crying an I have no idea as to why . Hate it !!!!! Has to be hormone related ,just has to be .

I used to cry at TV commercials-how sad is that?
It is definitely hormonal. The only time I do that now is if I go near estrogen and I immediately start bawling.

Its uncontrollable and horrid but it will pass

janet c

I started crying at a parent teacher meeting,I was so embarrased.I feel for you,GOD-bless

I know just how you feel. :hugs and hugs: I've been crying on and off since Monday. It's Wednesday now. I think.
I'm trying to avoid having to take anything to deal with symptoms, but I wish there was a magic pill to get rid of the mood swings. They have been worse and worse over the past year. I get both the angry version and the crying version and it gets harder and harder to hide and suppress them so my husband doesn't think I'm either a) mad at him or nuts.
The tears are so out-of-the-blue, most of the time. I guess you just have to keep your kleenex at hand every day.
I hope you feel better quickly. :hugs!:
Mara

Oh Lumz, YES!

Drops falling on my clothing!

Not oftenm out of nowhwhere, and usually linked to a bunch of things happening at once,
but fortunately not like it was 3-4 years ago. This has been a bad month for so many Gals I have talked to.
Me too.
(((((( HUGS..... ))))))))

Mary Beth

I know just how you feel - I started to cry at work at school the other day - My first day at my new job! Bet they're glad they hired me lol!!

Jackie

[[Big Hug]]Thanks guys,I've had a ruff week and too.my husband has been home this week so I try so hard to hold it together.But this morning he joked when I was having a flush,and I felt he thinks I'm over dramatizing it.I pulled out some info and started bawling.I bet he can't wait to go back to work.

Hi Lumz, i am a 48 year old perimenopausal california gal. I know estrogen is king around here, but have you had your thyroid levels checked (tsh), I know when I wasn't taking enough thyroid med, that combined with peri caused me to feel like crying alot. Since I had thyroid med raised I feel really upbeat alot more. Also, are you on a benzo (xanax, valium, klonopin), the withdrawals from that class of drugs made me feel like crying??????? Trista 5

I've had the 'need to cry' lately...mine was when my hubby was off with me last week. No way I was gonna let loose in front of him. I managed to hold it in.
Now, I'd give anything for a good cleansing cry!!

Big hugs to you...

I agree with Trista since I'v been on the tyroid meds most of my symptoms are gone. I still have bad pms and bloating but I feel so much better. I havent had any vertigo or cold flashes I only have alittle anxiety in the evening but not all day any more. I'm not crying all of the time anymore and afraid to leave the house and going on the thyroid meds was the only thing I've done different. I'm not saying that is the answer for you but it was mine.

Lara

Thyroid meds? They keep checking my thyroid, over and over again. Always comes back "normal." I have crying and anger moods, too. But it's not my thyroid, just "normal" peri? If this is normal, normal *****.

Yes .. I cry every day without fail.

I hate to do this in front of anyone!! Makes me feel so ashamed when I do and that makes it ten times worse! I had the complete blood work and thyroid check done in August and all came back normal. I don't have a clue to be honest?? My gut tells me it has to do with this peri period. I have never in my life been one to cry much. Now, like I said I cry everyday .. does not matter if I'm sad, tired or angry I'm gonna cry! Last week I bought eight boxes of tissue .. can you imagine?

Your not alone .. anytime you feel like it we can cry together lol.

Hugs to You,
Vaylorie

reading this post made me cry(what else is new)......I too have this issue happening and cry over
everything. Anything can set me off...happiness(even though I don;t feel that one too often) sadness, impassiveness
it doesn't matter I cry everywhere about anything...I feel like I am in deep mourning all the time...like I have lost
something very precious...I have...me!

Although it's seemingly embarassing, try not to upset, it just happens, and so what? I know mine is hormonal, but I have also always enjoyed a good cry. But through meno it has been overwhelming tears for hours ... SOBBING ones ... now the feeling I am on the verge of tears all the time is even lessening, but I can be talking quite normally about something to someone, and it hits, I can't even finish the sentence, I just stand there wide-eyed trying like h*ll NOT TO CRY. It happened at physio this week, I was floored. I try to just keep on taking each day as it comes ... 3 women I work with are approaching 60 and have breast cancer ... and when I hear this, well then I get the FEAR FEELINGS ... so I tell myself that I cannot live a sad fear-driven life so TODAY I won't ... and just take it day by day. Mother Nature has a lot to answer for!!!

I'm not depressed just frustrated.I've always been sensitive and I'm deffinitely having mood swings.Always seems worse in the mornings.

Oh I know, I am not depressed either, I just get hit with overwhelming sadness, the tears start before I know it and I become speechless. Being sensitive makes it harder, everything seems like it's directed at you. For months the mornings were totally the worst for me, I would wake up feeling hopeless, actually didn't care if I went to work and had to force myself daily to MOVE, I just wanted to cry and tell my Mom I was too sad to go out ... trouble is my Mom died 30 years ago and I am 53 - now it is a lot less worse in the mornings, so I have days now where I feel my old enthusiasm and level-ness coming back. Hang in there!!

Dear Ladies
It is true that the tears seem to flow more easily when Hormones are jumping all over the place.
I remember that for about three months I would cry on and off for many hours and sometimes there was no good reason.
This mostly happened before I was diagnosed Post Menopausal so probably was hormonal as it did stop when I began the HRT.
Not that I am saying this is the cure but it personally helped me a lot.;
I still tend to get over emotional at times and a good cry helps a lot.
Warm Wishes to all my tearful Sisters!
Elizabeth

oh yeah! nowadays, i cry very easily, and I find i start crying over old memories ..... maybe missing someone that's passed away, or old friends i haven't seen in a thousand yrs., or looking at pics of my kids when they were little .... things like that,...i get VERY meloncholy! lol .... I'm the sentimental type anyway, so this just exagerates it, but I didn't used to just start crying so easily anyway, ......... now, it's different.

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Well, since my husband was just let go from his job, laid off with 2 weeks notice,
even the occasional tears are gone ('cept for a second when the news came).
Made me realize that whole don't sweat the small stuff.
Either that or I will cry like crazy when we find a new home/job/drs/life.
Maybe I'm in shock -

I am not on any meds, I was on Progesterone but after a stal of several months my periods came back, so they took me off Progesterone.
but now I think I understand a little beter why some people do turn to AD's in crisis. They still scare me,
I have never taken them, but they scare me - I've seen too many people have bad reactions.

But I also know 2 they have really helped temporarily for crisis
A close friend I know went on AD's just for 2 months - after she took care of her very ill Mom
and then her mom passed away - and she herself was 75, her Mom 90's. She was crying and inconsolable.
She says they helped. And a former neighbor did go on them, after he and his wife of 25 years separated,
and his construction crew was killed in an accident. He was the Foreman. Poor guy. He also told me they helped.
Hw was only a few weeks on them, maybe it was a month.

Just makes me understand better about wanting to.
Hope to make it through staying meds free - just that I antihistamines for bad allergies, and Rescue Remedy herbal spray,
Tiber Balm patches for my Back.



Kleenex for all whose tears fall.
Love you All.

HUGS,
MB

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Girls....

Thank you very much for the warm notes people are sending regarding my husband losing his job.
When you are given 2 weeks notice after 10 years, and have just moved a distance,
it is quite a shock. You Girls are very special.
Love,
MB

Dear Lumz and others who feel this terrible pain,

Oh, how I understand what you are saying .. trust me! I am so tired of this .. I truly am! I want this to stop!! I would not choose to be like for this for anything in the world! I would give ANYTHING to know how to fix the way I am feeling! Anymore, I don't sleep the way I should, it's so difficult!! After two months of this I'm weary and ready to give up!! I normally get three hours of sleep before I wake with the feeling that the world is coming to an end! I am being serious .. I have even looked out the window before expecting to see the skies part and the heavens come crashing down! It's normal for me to feel the tears before I ever open my eyes in the morning. If it was from being upset with someone or that my feelings were hurt by something someone did that would be so much earier to understand. This is like a black hole of nothingless that is so empty and void. I cannot tell you why I cry?? Yes, I have times when it is from memories or wishing things were different .. but most times it's just the black hole of nothing and I can't even think straight to know why I am so upset, I just am! I know that does not make sense .. but it is the only way I have to explain.

All my life been I've been a sensitve person too .. but I always felt like I was in good control of my emotions. I considered myself to be a strong person, I was happy with who I was. I spent my life trying to do the right thing and made the choices I felt were best even if they were the hardest. Maybe that is what is so hard dealing with this period in my life .. accepting I have no control over my own feelings! That alone makes me feel so helpless and angry!!! I refuse to go outside into the world right now because I am such an emotional mess all I would do is end up breaking down and crying in front of strangers!! I cannot bare the thought, feeling so weak makes me feel useless! Feeling useless makes me angry and on and on it goes!!

I know this is not helping you .. but maybe you can see that some of us are doing our best just to survive!! If you cry today .. no doubt I am crying with you!

Sad Girl,
Vaylorie

I don't know if men understand though.My husband looks at me stunned as I'm crying about how my vagina is going to dry up and I'll totally understand if he wants to leave me.I can laugh about it now but at the time I was totally serious.[lol ]It's hard to read about all the things that can wrong with your body through meno and still come out feeling lovable.

hello,
I just read the thread and wanted to share my story. I have been going through the same feelings (+ big time health anxiety) and never used to be a crying person. Just would cry over anyhting in the past few months. But the insomnia was what really took me over the edge and the disease of my sister-in-law. I finally gave in after trying the natural stuff (rescue remedy and all the things that they suggest for anxiety or sadness or insomnia). I started on Clonopin (which in Canada is apo-clonazepam) for the past two weeks, after resisting for weeks going on meds. I can tell you for the past week and a half I have slept much better than I had in mooooonths and that last night, for the first time in years!! I slept without waking up at all. I had today the best day that I have had in weeks. I can feel my symptoms but as for the past few days they have decreased in intensity and i am not a 100% but the lack of sleep can also do so much damage when we are perimenopausal. I still cry, I still tingle in my feet, fingers and scalp but not as much. I know that tomorrow could be a different story and that all my symptoms can come back even stronger but right now I will take a day a time and just rest for the day. I am not saying that any of you should go on anti-anxiety or AD meds, it is a choice that I made reluctantly but I felt that at this point, I would prefer to suffer some side effects (I don't have any so far) than to feel the terrible gloom and doom and sadness and physical symptoms that I was going through and the terrible fear that possessed me about diseases (I still feel panicky and anxious awaiting test results but not to the extent that I did 2 weeks ago). Everything suddenly became a source of terrible anguish and the crying spells came out of nowhere (back in May)and I could not function any longer properly; I could not understand the sadness that came over me like a dark cloud that would follow me. As of this week, my worse symptom is the forgetfullness and the brain fog that seem to be taking over but I can live with that over the terrible feelings (emotional and physical) that i felt. From what I read from other PS sisters, it does not mean that I am over it but for now, I will take one step at a time. Hopefully tomorrow would be another day of rest from this meno He!!. I really really am hanging on to the PS sisters that say that this too shall pass. I am just praying right now for just another day like today!
take care all of you
MrsBuff

Thank You MrsBuff,

I do believe meds are going to be my best answer at least at first to adjust to all these changes. Maybe it won't be for a long period of time and I can learn better how to control my emotions. I am not doing well like this, it's getting worse. I find it more and more difficult to interact in my normal relationships like friends who have no clue what I try to describe. I may be paranoid or maybe I do not use the correct words but when I tell someone that this is a problem I cannot control they do not seem to get it. I have one friend my age who has not had problems her answer is .. your sick go to the doctor and get fixed! Yes, I know this but when you have a total fear of doctors that is not easy! Some understanding and support would be very nice! It just gets so complicated when I try to explain then it's exhausting. Comments like .. well, I hope you feel better but not doing nothing is not going to help. Yes, I know this .. I know I need help that is why I am trying to explain!!! I feel frozen at times .. I don't want to talk to no one so I don't answer the phone. I understand they want me to feel better but that is not going to happen over night. I thought friends were suppose to support you in the good and BAD?? Maybe the meds will help me to gain control where I can at least do a better job explaining so they do not feel like I am so distant. Please, over look me, this is just so hard to accept and live with. How do you continue in realtionships when people are expecting you to be the old you and that is not possible? You explain but they feel it's enough time already to get over it!!

I'm sorry to rant .. this is just pouring out tonight. I do hope you continue to have good luck and get that much needed BLESSED REST I so wish I could get! I'm really happy for you and your story has helped me to see that this may be my best answer to adjust.

Thanks for helping!!
Vaylorie

I totally understand where you are coming from....I know what it is like to be told to "just snap out of it" if only it was that simple..your friends and family
abandon you when you need them the most...they don't get it...and what is worse is that most doctors don't get it either so you are basically on you're
own to get yourself through something that can last many many years...I got just so fed up of trying to make excuses for myself as why I could no longer
do anything that for the most part I am a recluse right now....I even moved from the small city I lived in all my life to a new city 500miles away in hopes
of snapping out of this somehow....and now I am even more alone....Also I have noticed, and I have done it myself, is that we keep apologizing for the
negative things we write on these posts...that is the whole point of this site...it's to say what you are thinking and feeling right now, no matter how bad or or off the wall things might seem...knowing that people really understand things here and do not judge or condemn feeling like crap....all the time...
yes this is a very hard time of life for many of us, knowing I am not alone anymore (cause I now have you guys really helps).
I really don't get why it is that all of a sudden in life we need to be medicated in order to get through life...there is a piece of the puzzle
that is still missing in my mind as to why this suffering is necessary, yes I understand it's hormones but still what is the point? you can have
all the tests in the world and know it's "just hormones" but that does not make you better...I no longer run from doctor to doctor or have anymore tests
for this or that and I have found that I don't agonize as much about the fact that I feel like I'm dying...(I haven't died yet and I have felt like it for 13yrs)..lol
for now I am just waiting it out and thinking that someday this too shall pass...and too bad if friends and others don't understand..they are not the
ones going through this right now...someday they might have to live this nightmare(god forbid) and you will be there for them because
you will have learned the compassion to help and support them

be well

just s

Dear 'Mrsbuff'
I too have been saved by a low dose of Prozac and use of Xanax as needed.Like you I am not trying to push Meds. on anyone but from personal experience they are a life saver.
They do not make me robotic or give great feelings of happiness every day but what they do is help me to cope better.
I still have good bad and very sad days but believe you me almost having a nervous breakdown was the turning point for me. and I had to reach out to a Psychiatrist for help.
I exercise and eat well.Never touch alcohol and of course have some brain fog and forgetfulness but at least am functioning fairly well
So ,my dear friend,enjoy each and every good day you have.
Warm Wishes
Elizabeth

Hello Elizabeth,
thank you so much. It is not that I wish on anybody else what I am going through but it is nice to know that you are not alone and that ps sisters understand what we are going through. Just hope that you are having a good day. Today is not as good as yesterday but I am ok. I just keep proscratinating knowing I should exercise. I used to exercise a lot before all this started and have no excuse not to move my butt. me too I eat well and have stopped drinking (I am French and love my wine but can't afford the side effect with meds) and have lost 25 pounds.
Thank you again so much for your kind response, it made me feel better:)
MrsBuff