Hi ladies ....


Here's what I'm doing ..... I think we need to focus on the good things in us, the things we contribute to our families, our communities and the world by this time, because in REALITY we have gained much wisdom, patience, strength, and knowledge about life, people, relationships etc....... We have more to offer than we think sometimes, because we get all caught up in how we feel (I know I do!!! ) , our symptoms, our fears, and that lousy awful feeling of doom and despair that seems to overshadow us .... but step back, and take a moment to really think about what you've done, how far you've come, how you've raised your children, and how you kept going even through this peri insanity! So......let's talk about the good things within us, the abilities we have as women to push through, to swim upstream, to hang in there even when the going is rough .... I've been here for 3 years now, and I've seen so many of you deal with so many hard, frightening, depressing symptoms (to say the least about other life issues right now!), .... I don't know where I'd be if not for everyone here , so......
let's celebrate who we REALLY are underneath all this peri junk....the "us" INSIDE, if just maybe for a little while we can forget the "bad" and focus on the good, focus on who we REALLY are, and perhaps bring ourselves "back" for a short time, get a taste again, of the real us !.....


I 'll start ............

I know I am good with people, I always have been. It's inborn I believe, and it seems to run in my family.

I love animals, and ALWAYS take in any strays I see, that's just something I can't stand to see!

I have raised 3 great children, we are VERY close, and enjoy our time together, watching movies together, long long heart to heart talks, .... i sometimes can't believe just how great they turned out ... that was God, I can't take credit for all of it!

I am a very loyal person, till the end!!! LOL! But, I think that's good, albeit, I've been very hurt in life many times, because I tend to "hold in there" forever, and in the end, it was for "nothing", well, it's NEVER for nothing .... you always gain, when you give from yourself.

I love what I do, and I am good at it ..lol ... well, people tell me I am anyway.

By this time in life, I've gained so much wisdom about people, and relationships, that I can bring that into what I do, and see the direct results. Going through peri, has changed me drastically, given me a totally different perspective on life and people, and has recreated yet ANOTHER new me .... as women, we are always changing, always rearranging ourselves, and usually, we "shrink to fit" where men are concerned ..... that's not good, or right! I don't do that...I guess i never have, I'm me....and to bad if he doesn't like it! ..lol....oh i know that may sound "harsh" and I'm not at all like that, but I've gotten to the point now, where, I'm going to be me, not selfishly so, but I AM going to be me!!!!! As we emerge from our cocoons, and become the butterflies we are, we morph into beautiful creatures, creatures that have given life, nurtured life, fostered life, and when we had to.....ushered someone out of life as well........standing there, holding someones hand in those last moments .... we do it all, don't we? Think about it ladies.............where would this world be, if not for us? Yes, I AM tooting my own horn.....and it's about time!

All of you here, are warm, caring, sensitive, intelligent women........who I've come to know and love, and from what I've seen...... you all have so much to give, you have gained so much wisdom and foresight, and have helped one another so much, that it's astounding really,that the world doesn't even "recognize" us for who we are!!!!! But, some people in your life DO ..... I have a few who do, and believe me ladies, those people have a second set of eyes, they are wise and can see us, for who we REALLY are ...... i love you all, and I don't know where I'd be without all of you ....

My peri brain is not functioning at the moment, so, I'm going to end this long post .... I'll probably be back later, to "brag" some more about my good qualities...but hey...........PLEASE, DO THE SAME..... TAKE A GOOD LONG LOOK AT YOURSELF ....not the "peri you", but the REAL you .... and then.............go for it...list all your good qualities, feel free to "brag" and ramble .... that's what this is for .... a moment to remember, and regain, the real you!!!!!

Hmmm, let me think...

1. I like that I take care of myself in whatever manner I can during this time without guilt (ok without TOO much guilt)
2. I like that I don't take out my angst on my husband or son
3. I am a good communicator
4. I like than I am learning not to broadcast every ache and pain I have so that people don't run the other way when they see me, lol
5. I like my sense of humor
6. I like than I am a no nonsense person, what you see is what you get
7. I like that I look like a crazy person and my husband says I'm adorable and I buy into it... sort of...lol
8. I like that I can lay in bed all day and watch game shows and I Love Lucy and Golden Girls in my P.J's without apology
9. I am a good friend although these days it's mostly limited to email or texting, even in a bad time, I am always there for a friend.
10. I appreciate my life, my son, my husband, friends and extended family....I am very blesssed
I'm not sure the above is really a brag sheet, some of it is tongue in cheek and some is true. All I know is that I'm not sure what I am metamorphing into, but, I think there are many people besides myself who are very interested in seeing what emerges.

I think this is a good thread, I hope it make some of us think about some good stuff just because it's a good thing to do

Take care,
Mich

I like that I am smart,I am a good friend,loving,and understanding.I love that I am getting closer to GOD.GOD-bless

Thankyou great idea!

I can throw a good party.
I'm nonjudgmental.
I'm never phoney.
I've made my family a nice home.
I'm a good mother and grandmother.
I'm a good wife.

Thank you for giving us something good to think about.

I like that I have raised two nice kids who are independent and speak their minds with respect.
I like that I am nice to everyone no matter until they give me a reason not to.
I like that I enjoy doing things that help others even if it is a very small thing.
I like my salt and pepper hair.
I like that I was able to do things that my mother told me I was too stupid to accomplish.

GREAT idea!

1. I am a good friend (mostly absent these days, but I will try and work on that).
2. I am a caring person who tries to help in anyway I can
3. I like that I am starting to LIVE without fear. Thinking of doing things that I would never have done.
4. I like that I am learning that life can be short so I want to do all the things I desire...
5. I LOVE my husband, and I love him the best way I can. He is my rock in life....
6. I KNOW people, I just do...I love that about myself
7. I love that I am a work in progress....I have changed so much in the last 8 months (yes before you all I admit I have kicked some nasty habits). I love that I am learning to get by everyday without them.
8. I am learning to stand tall...trying everyday..in the face of adversity.
9. I am creative...
10. I am slowly becoming ME!

Maura

Hmmm...let's see. There was a time I wouldn't be able to come up with anything -- used to have really bad self-esteem. But I might be able to come up with something now.

In no particular order --
* I'm intelligent, but more so than that, I'm well-informed. I read all the time, and can absorb well what I read. I can talk to pretty much anyone about any topic. And if it's a topic I'm NOT informed about, I don't have a problem saying "I don't know about that. Fill me in."
* I'm witty and funny. I LOVE to make people laugh, and I'm good at it. And I love to laugh too.
* I'm faithful to my friends.
* I can take care of myself. My mom always taught me not to be dependent on anyone for what I need to do, and for the most part I'm there.
* I'm honest, almost to the point of ridiculous. I once drove five miles to return an ink pen to a bank I had just visited.
* I can keep a secret. My friends know they can tell me something and it will never go any farther.
* I'm a good teacher. Not in the conventional career sense, but rather I have a good ability to share what I've learned with others in a way they can and want to understand.
* I'm open to other people's opinions. I can debate with someone I disagree with without getting angry.
* I accept people for what they are...up to a point. If you're gay or a different race or religion or political party from me (grrr...lol), I'm cool with it. But I'm not going to accept drug dealers, child molesters, etc.
* I'm environmentally conscious. I care about this planet and believe we need to protect it. I donate money to causes and work the beach clean-up every year.
* I can say "I'm sorry" when I need to.
* I enjoy my own company. I have no problem spending time alone with my movies and my books.

I think that's it.....OH, and I have GREAT hair!

GREAT IDEA!


I like that I contributed to the work force for many years, on hiatus with an injury at present.

I like that I had great jobs which mostly involved sales,order entry and dealing with customers and didn't end up in a dead end factory job like my father said I would!

I like they I have a lot of my mothers qualities rather than my fathers.

I have raised my son to be a beautiful caring sensitive soul instead of some of the teenagers these days...

I pride myself on the fact I have always helped my parents, I used to do all the houswork at eight years of age.

I like that I adore animals and if I see one needing help then I give it.

I like the fact I keep a meticulous house, always clean!

I like the fact I respect my husband because he treats me very well and I spoil him all the time.

I like the fact that I have a warped sense of humour and find myself cracking up at the most insane things!

I like the fact that I visited my dear departed Grandparents weekly and enjoying their company.

I REALLY like the fact that I can outbid most on Ebay when it's something I want!

I like the fact I'm a loyal loving wife

I like the fact that I have been the very best mother to my son as my own parents pretty much failed me.

I like the fact I can put my grudge against my father aside to help them all the time in their old age.

My darling,

You are a champion!!

Thanks for making me ponder on likeable things......hhhmmmm......let me think....

I like my eccentricity, my misanthropy(more selective now in picking people. This part of me I always hated and now I love it. It is part of me) and my personality.......

I am warm and caring(if not affectionate)

I am also very loyal

I protect my family with my life

I like my sense of what is fair and right(without being self-righteous)

I am a passionate animal rights activist

I am not judgemental

I am really good at looking after sick people

I practice forgiveness and gratefulness

Much love,

Michah

I am independent.

I care for others very deeply, but not to the point of losing myself.

I am carefree and I love to laugh.

I no longer worry what others think of me to the point of being incapacitated.

I can say what I think most of the time. Well, maybe SOME of the time.

I like that I am my father's daughter. He taught me courage. I thought it made me hard all these years but I was wrong. It made me strong.

Great thread. It is good for us to know what we like about ourselves.

I LOVE animals and will care for them and donate time and or money to the Humane society.
I am good at what I do for a living and love doing it.
I am a good Mum, daughter and sister.
I am a good listener.
I am a very loyal friend.
I really like to exercise and do it every day.
I am a good house keeper and enjoy doing it.
I love baking.

Yeah, by this time in life, we have all been through so much, experienced so much growth and gained so much wisdom, that, it would be a shame not to realize how far we've come! It's very important to recognize and point out peoples good qualities, and their contribution to the world! This is a very needed ingredient to the human heart and soul..... I am so glad so many ladies here joined in, but COME ON.... there's a lot more out there! Don't be shy .... jump in, and list you good qualities, what you like about YOU ! What makes you special, unique, different. From what I've already read, there's PLENTY of unique, special, and different qualities in everyone, this is just so cool!!! lol .... well, truly, it is!