Well, my ticking time-bomb went off last night. At 10:00 I was in the kitchen doing last-minute things like turning the dishwasher on, etc. My kitchen has to be spotless before I go to bed because I can't stand waking up to a dirty kitchen. I opened the microwave to discover my husband had heated something in there earlier in the day and it had splattered EVERYWHERE! I turned into a CRAZY WOMAN! Yelling and cussing, and it's takes a LOT to get me that angry. He said he would clean it TOMORROW. Well, I refused to leave it to harden even more overnight, so I was up another 30 minutes scrubbing the inside. By the time I was done, I was SO MAD, I slept on the couch. I didn't want to be anywhere near him.

I'm still mad this morning and we haven't spoken a word to each other yet. He's a PIG.

I just needed to VENT this morning!

Texas
This is called sweating the small stuff! Dont let things like this bother you - life is to short! Go and give that hubby of yours a kiss and cuddle Things could be a lot worse.......Couldn't they?

Sounds to me like the proverbial straw that broke the camel's back.

Sometimes, all it takes is one thing--like opening a new jar of peanut butter when there's still some left in the old one and I'm off and running. Yep, it is sweating the small stuff for sure. Afterwards I'm like "what was that all about"??

BTW, if you have caked on gunk in the microwave all you have to do is put a Pyrex cup filled with water inside, turn it on until the water boils, let it sit for a few minutes and all that gunk will soften right up. And the beauty part is you can stand there and watch hubby do the cleaning! LOL

Been there done that A LOT !! I need to learn to let those things go but sometimes they get the best of me.

Hope your day becomes brighter.

My microwave has been like that for at least a month now....i'm waiting for someone else to clean it...maybe they'll get tired of the mess and the smell and do it.......i'm not doing it....

I tried that too...no one ever did
So I just left it that way for a long time

Texasgirl,

HAHAH must have been something in the air last night....we were preparing to head to the patio for a lovely summer meal and hubbie asked where a missing steak knife was (he has some special, extra dandy ones that take the skin off my finger in a flick ) and I blew up...."geeshhhhh we're getting ready to eat enuf with the steak knives"....grrrrr....out of nowhere it came......shocked him and my son....haven't felt this edgy in a long time....

Oh and we had out of town company this weekend and the couple made a salad and I think they may have thrown the steak knife away when they cleaned up as it's no where to be found.... gotta go dig thru the garbage of he wants it back...

Isn't it amazing how we can go off like that????? I'm guilt of the same thing sometimes and I really do think it's just the "last straw" that does it. My reaction will be so out of proportion to the trigger and I know it at the time. Problem is I simply can't stop myself!!!!!! SO, the last couple of times it's happened I go upstairs and take one of my xanax and stay away from everyone until I calm down. sometimes it takes hours sometimes not but my husband is starting to understand what I'm doing and just leaves me alone now. Thank God, because I think I'd rip his head from his body and eat it if he came near me sometimes. I feel like a mad woman on steroids so I know what you mean, Texas Girl. Sometimes a girl just has to vent and let off that steam!
Hugs!
Jan

Thanks everyone for your support/advice/sympathy today. It's been rough, but things are back to normal now. I'm cooking dinner and hubby is watching TV. And the microwave is still clean.

I love you all!

I HEAR YA. AN EASY WAY TO CLEAN A MICROWAVE IS HEAT A SOAPY DISH RAG IN MICROWAVE FOR 20SEC TILL HOT ANWAYS IT WASHES OUT SO EASY WITH THAT HOT RAG. DON'T SWEAT THE SMALL THINGS TRY LIVING WITH MY HUBBY SLOB!!!!!!

Texas girl, I could have written your post. I try not to sweat the small stuff but I just get so tired of cleaning after everyone... yes, I could let things go but we live in a 750 square foot, 2 bedroom house and if things do not get picked up right away, it gets messy fast. Besides the 3 of us, we have a small
indoor dog and cat (long haired); while I love these critters, I really didn't want them to begin with because I knew that it would be ME that does all the work and cleaning. I work full-time and the thought of having to bring home the bacon and fry it up in the pan makes me CRINGE!!! I have stopped doing alot of stuff for my family, I use to iron my husband's shirts, or take them to the drycleaners, etc I don't do this anymore, and I hardly make dinner because they are either not hungry or don't feel like eating what I made, so why should I waste my time.

I too had a very bad morning with my teenage daughter, she opened up this friut-smoothie mix and some of it spilled all over the counter top but had she used a scissors instead of tryign to open by hand...this would not have happened. Anyway, I told her as much and she BLOWUP and said I was once again criticizing her. To make a long story short, this escalated to worse during our morning drive into school and work...

Admittedly, this past week I have very little patience and I feel that I am about to explode!!! Just needed to vent ladies.

Plumeria

In my house we go with the flow. I never got that gene that compels me to clean every Saturday or must do the dishes before I sleep. I always wished I had it but I simply don't. That said, I do have someone come in and clean once a month, not that I can necessarily afford it, it is a luxury. But, I do like things clean. Funnily enough my husband heated some beans in the microwave and they exploded inside making a mess after we had just had the cleaners there to clean. I said "leave it be I'll do it tomorrow, (yeah sure, lol) He said "Nope, I'll just clean it now" He is the one with the gene to have the kitchen clean at night and things a certain way. But, what is cool about him is even though he is that way he doesn't expect me to be that way. Let's be clear, I'm no slob, and people could stop by unannounced and I wouldn't be embarrassed. I just don't get all worked up over those particular things and although my husband is the more organized of us, he just deals with whatever bugs him in particular without raging at me. He's a good man. Now, as far as raging I obviously have no need to rage at home, it's my soft place to land. At work, a whole 'nother story. I would snip and just go off (even though justified) but a bit to harshly in retrospect. I have since taken a leave from work just to get a little more balanced so that I do not brow beat my co workers because of my out of control hormones deserved or not. Right now, I guess I am learning to pick my battles... at least when I am allowed to by these darn gremlin hormones I have let me.

oops "IF" I am allowed to by these darn gremlin hormones I have in me.

looks like nobody's gonna clean it anytime soon....and it's starting to grow mold.....gross,but i'm trying to make a statement by not cleaning it....

Good luck...I always give ine

I always ask my family "If YOU don't want to clean up your mess WHY WOULD I WANT TOO????"

Hey Texas..

Tomorrow it's YOUR turn to watch TV while hubby cooks the dinner! Or dont you trust him to keep the microwave clean?

i haven't been able to stay near my husband for the last 3 evenings, yes, it's all of the housework, cooking and cleanup! The stove and microwave are the killer spots for me..........i have a big plastic microwave cover, all they have to do is put the darn thing on it, not.
I don't know if the full moon is affecting me, i just want left alone completely! it's terrible for him i'm sure, that i haven't looked or spoken a word to him lately, i simply shut down for some weird ass reason. i wrote him a note telling him it's not him, it's me, yet i still can't pull myself out of this and it's scary.
i want to get on a long train to nowhere
tonite, i will have to try and pull myself out of this, if i don't, well, i dunno.........

i really think my age is bothering me lately 49 yrs.old, i don't feel the same about anything and at this time, i don't want to be married!

This is hilarious - I used to be a clean freak, now my daydreams include having a spotless house again, but it is not going to happen ... I used to go MAD if coffee was spilled on kitchen floor, items in fridge not lined up properly, buffed my floors so much one of my company wiped out when they stepped through the door and my nickname was "Buffy" for awhile. Then one day I realized IT DIDN'T MATTER. Everything is clean, a bit cluttered, and I no longer stress about it. BUT THERE WAS A TIME ... but I hate myself when I have a "quick reaction" (that is putting it lightly) and hear myself verbally saying horrible things to inanimate objects that leap out of my now-clumsy hands ... and wish I was like my Mom, calm, cool and collected. Overall I wish I was on an even keel too ... oh the list of I WISH is getting tooo long.

Oh I am just reading this now Boohoo - I have had all those feelings, have avoided my husband like crazy, made excuses to fall asleep in my lazy-girl chair "oh i'll be to bed soon" with no intention ... it is scary, and the age thing - I keep staring at my hands like they are changing and I can't stop anything that is happening to me. Then I get into the shower and "start again" every morning. HANG IN THERE, I have often wanted to just start walking/driving and never stop, with no destination in mind. You WILL pull out of it, you WILL find out how you really feel (and there is nothing wrong with wanting to be left alone) with some contemplation. Turning 50 is BIG - but in awhile that is such an insignificant number you will look back and I HOPE just know you were going through changes. CHANGES. It isn't fun to feel out of control - I am still there but making a come-back and I am 53. Turning 50 meant nothing to me, none of the big decades did, I think 60 MIGHT flip me out, what bothers me is my body changes ... I keep thinking I will wake up one day with grey hair, no teeth, spine crunched down to my hips, and that is ridiculous.
So we all have nutty moods, just indulge yourself IF YOU CAN - a weekend away, anything. Try to talk if you can though, here or to friends, don't isolate yourself. I refused to do anything in the kitchen, went on strike but got lucky, now HE does it all. Told me I am banned from the kitchen. Now I miss it, go figure, but HANG IN THErE!!!

That'll be the day.....

Susy:
thanks so much for paying attention to my plight! i'm glad you fought your way back and i have to, i have no choice, yet, i simply cannot get away at this moment, i want to so very much.
soooo ,here is what happened today..........what did i finally go out and get (badly needed), a set of pots and pans..........i was floored when i saw the prices, holy sh#t! In a huff, as usual, i picked out a paula dean, low grade pots and pans on sale for $100, ok, i bring them home, unpack them all, first thing i noticed was the glass lids, (omg!),the handles get extremely hot,,,, while i was getting the idea that i went cheap and will not forgive myself, i got so mad, i went to go back to the garbage and get all of the futile packing and try and pack this stuff all back in the box, it was POURING DOWN RAINING) , the box and cardboard packing soaked.
I am staring at brand new cookware that ***** big time , i should've just thrown another $100 towards a good set, yet i kept thinking, gotta save the money..........no, i just wasted $100.
I am in one big abiss, i feel like i'm looking up out of a toidy.........that's how life seems to me.
thanks so much for your sincere reply!
boo

Boohoo - I know all about $ being tight ... I come from a wealthy family, but walked away at 17 after watching my grasping greedy older siblings take and take and take, never being happy, screaming at my parents for MORE. My philosophy is HARD WORK, and today I own my home and every bit of furniture in it I either refinished or bought with loving care, or my husband made it... but one thing I have learned now is, your cookware being the perfect example, take the time to research everything that you REALLY want ... we live and i mean LIVE in our kitchen, and are ripping it all apart to make it like a big old fashioned country kitchen, so we can see into the living room, fireplace, etc., so there are certain things, like cookware, that are "forever" ... and i had to train myself to get away from thinking i wasn't worth spending $ on for something that would give me great satisfaction. when you buy cr*p, it DOES make you feel like "OH NOOOOO WHAT DID I DO NOW" and i suggest you just re-sell it for $75 on some kijiji or ebay-type set or put up an ad somewhere, get rid of it, and look for what you want. LIFE IS TOO SHORT - and you aren't in an abyss, just in a strange place now, like feeling uncomfortable in your own skin. IT WILL PASS, but in the meantime be good to YOU. Always. One thing I learned when in the total depths of despair ( my mom had died, best friend committed suicide, husband #1 cheating on me, family home gone and sold) ... it PASSES. even now when i think i am going DOWN FOR THE LAST TIME, I always come back up. You will too. The pots can be sold, you can fix that one ... and really focus on what you REALLY want, from pots to love to life. Seriously, don't waste time on lamenting, try like H to keep on moving. xo

wow, that is simply a wonderful letter about just how life is, and knowing that you made it on your own has to be the great accomplishment, and i'm sure it wasn't an easy road. yes, i did freak about the pots and pans yesterday, today, it's not all that bad, i'll use them, then next year, invest in a set that will last and last. I agree, life is short, i have to get back on track, and i will someday move on, i have to go forward, i can't stay like this, or i will state, that i'm really not living at all, just surviving. thank you, sounds like your kitchen is beautiful!
xo