Ok...i've been at my job awhile now,not a whole lot of years but enough to build seniority and have some people underneath me....so i am at the point where i can pick the shift i want.I changed shifts and i feel happier about it,there's less stress on this shift,less people working,no managers lurking around and watching over my shoulder,i have more time to spend with my husband and more time to myself to do the things i want.....sounds pretty good,right?It is,except for the fact that by changing shifts i bumped this woman who now(because of me) has to hire a babysitter in order to work the shift she's on(the shift i was on before)....and i feel guilty about it.Since i bumped her she keeps telling me she doesn't know what she's gonna do,she can't find a sitter for the end of this week,she doesn't like the shift she's working,said she talked to the manager but has to keep working these hours because she's low seniority,etc....i told her i was sorry but this works out better for me.Hubby says don't worry about it,says i earned my seniority and it's not my problem.Would you guys feel guilty too?Should i think only of myself?

I'm with your hubby on this one! You've EARNED it!! I understand you may feel compassion for this woman, but check the guilt at the door!! You've paid your dues, and so will this woman at some point!!

Guilt is a useless emotion... nothing is served by feeling guilty so ENJOY what you have worked so long and hard for!!!

I agree with Hubby dont worry about it ,You earned the senority take advantage of it .

I would feel compassion for the woman, but don't feel guilty. We have all paid our dues for our seniority. If the situations were reversed, do you think she would change shifts with you to make life easier for you? Probably not.

Enjoy your hard-earned rewards.

WriterMom

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Thanks for the replies...it makes me feel better and less guilty....heck no,she wouldn't change shifts to make things easier for me,nobody that i work with would.I have been bumped before myself and as much as it sux,ya just gotta deal with it.I guess i should just enjoy the shift i'm on while i'm on it.....never know when someone with higher seniority may come along and bump me....

hey moon:

I agree with your hubby on this one. You EARNED your seniority, do not feel guilty about this at all!!!! Everyone has to make allowances when things change and this other lady will do so.

Hugs to you,
Jeaninne

I agree with what's been said. I'm sure you've paid your dues and worked a lot of shifts you didn't like in the past!

Hya - I am a bit of a pushover in this regard and would feel so much guilt. It seems to me that this woman is even playing on your guilt too. It's so very hard to have a thick skin sometimes! Listen to hubby though and all the other wise women here and remain with your present shift. Another option might be to help her out maybe from time to time...but only in dire circumstances.

Bless you,
Suzanne

You earned it-enjoy it and when the other gal gets past this she will be better for it, too. With jobs the way they are (hard to find) I'm thinking she will find a way to manage or 'go work somewhere else).
Man, I sound cold. Don't mean to. But like I said before, you have been there longer-you earned your seniority!
Senecaguns

I think so too.....she talks about it every time i see her...which makes me feel even more guilty....i guess i'll just ignore her when she talks about it,i've already apologized,there's nothing else i can say.Maybe she needs to whine to someone else that works there,they'll tell her "tough titties"....

I'm thinking she should have thought about a sitter before she even applied for the job....isn't that what people normally do?You're right,she will find a way to manage or go work somewhere else....

i think this is her problem not yours, if it wasnt her it would be some one elses, you cant fix the whole world.....

Very true.....

Yup, sounds like she is trying to manipulate you. I hope you will not be made out to be some sort of a villainess (sp?) cuz you aren't! You still have a life to live and you deserve to be content with your present shift, given your seniority. This is fair. If this were me, and a colleague kept harping at me, I would calmly point out that I doubted that she would adjust her life accordingly to accommodate me. This is stating obvious but there are always reasons when you have kids to want a shift that works around their schedules. I wish that the world worked with people more on this issue. Too bad there isn't more work daycare places!