Does anyone get these stupid fearful thoughts could be about anything, where your going, what,s happening to you, anything, then your anxiety builds from there? Get them every so often for nothing then I spin off with the anxiety

Absolutely !!

Could be anything..and I mean anything. Shoes, TV shows...cups...rooms in my house.It is really weird it comes and goes and I just try to not freak out because it always passes.

I feel this has been the worst spin off of anxiety for me. For almost 5 years ( I WAS NOT LIKE THIS BEFORE PERI), I have been completely taken over by irrational fears and obsessive thoughts. Too many fears to count and too silly to share. Even though I deal with my anxiety much better now than in the beginning, it seems like that all my brain wants to do is to think of negative, frightening,distorted thoughts. I WILL NOT GIVE INTO THESE FEARS AND THEY ARE NOT GOING TO CONTROL MY LIFE!!!! Again, you are definitely not alone and I hope this goes away after meno. PLEASE!!!!

(((HUGS)))
Denise

hi little lil i get fearful thoughts most days and it stops me doing most things anxiety is one of my mane symptoms got a holiday booked for the 12 of september for a week and im dreading it my 12 year old daughter has already got her suitcase packed some how i will have to get through it dont know how wont have my computure with me either so wont be able to come on here but we will get through this because there is always someone here to help take care denise

Thanks to you all I,m 3yrs post don,t get it as much as I did but when I do anxiety goes the trembling, dizziness, the whole nine yards was NEVER like this before Hyster. comforting to know I,m not alone , Thanks again all you ladies are great!!!!!!

Nicely put I say the same thing but sometimes it,s pretty tough, I know we control our minds are minds don,t control us but boy it really gives us a run for our money!!!!!! or should I say sanity!

I might not let it take over my life but it is definitely challenging!! I feel like I have two minds with their own voices..... one is parnoid, with relentless,bully-like thoughts and the other just knows right from wrong and doesn't understand why this is happening to her. I do try to control these thoughts to my best ability but sometimes I feel so defeated because these fears seem so ingrained in my mind. Sometimes I wonder if this is really my hormones doing these awful things or just a sanity disorder..

Denise

Trust me I had the same thoughts it,s HORMONES!!!! Scarey as it maybe ,we need to keep saying it,s the hormones if we have to think we,re insane we,re not because people who are insane don,t ask if they are.

I was just going to come on here to ask if anyone's mind all of a sudden goes off and starts thinking that something really bad is about to happen to you. Mine just did that so I came on and after reading, I guess it does happen to other people. I was just sitting on the couch and all of a sudden...my mind was just like....hey, watch out...something really bad is about to happen. Like I'm going to die or something. WEIRD!!! It makes you feel like you are losing your mind! What is the deal with that??? And.....the big question....does it ever go away???

Isabelle,
My advice to you is to just accept that this your brain on unbalanced hormones. Try not to pay too much attention to all the bad stuff our mind tries to tell us during these moments. It happens quite often to me throughout the day. It almost feels as if something is changing in my body at these times which produces or causes me to have these thought reactions in my mind. Sometime I may have a bad thought that is followed by a warm feeling or my eyes will feel like they are full of bewilderment, then mind will start racing. You know what really bothers me is that some women never have to be tortured by all this mental anguish. I'm at a point in peri where I don't share my symptoms with other women because no one understands.
Hang in there!!!
Denise

Denise,
Thank you so much for your answer. I do try not to pay to much attention to my mind but sometimes it's just ruthless and it catches me off guard and I can't control it. I feel the same about "feeling like something is changing in my body". Lately, it almost like I can feel everything that is going on in my body. I really wish I could not pay so much attention to it. I guess I will have to get used to it while I go through this mess! lol No other woman that I know is being tortured by this either so I don't talk about it to them either. They really don't understand. I'm really glad there are people here that do.

im the queen of irrational thinking- and when i dont have any thing to worry about with my human family and friends i start to worry about my cats like some thing stupid like shes got a blocked intestine with a hair ball clogging it ( shes a persian) send the guys with the white coats i know !!! ridicules, ughhhh i get so mad at my self some times....

Yeppers do the same thing! My worst is when eating something I really like, I get the irrational thought that it will make me sick so I quit eating. And then I worry about what I ate. Ugh!

Yes, yes and double yes. It's a terrible feeling. I'm done with this. Give me a hot flash pleeeeeeeeze!! LOL, I know, I know, many of you are saying be careful what you wish for..... It all just $ucks!!

little lil- does it seem we're living the definitions of words we never thought we'd discover? Believe it or not, irrational is my word for the month- it sums up pretty much how anxiety makes me feel. If I were thirty again and looking forward, I would never have believed this is who I would have become. I was sure I'd sail through this whole change-of-life event. Hah! It's too bad I'm beginning to accept anxiety as a part of my life- yes, it is really real, rather than just surreal. Hang in there- know that you're not alone, and if we're all in this together, we're not really losing our minds! Julie

For me, if I get too happy, I freak out that 'the equilizer' is going to come along and pull the rug out now because for everything good, something bad comes along. I start worry that everything is going to fall apart and I've made terrible mistakes and it is all my fault! I have a past of living in abusive situations so it is a kneejerk reaction, but I have since stopped the abusive cycle, got help, and learned to deal with it.

I have my life under control for years now and living healthy, but this past year, with menopause taking control, these panic attacks have pop up unexpectantly and I get totally blindsided with them. Real life triggers are no longer there, but suddenly I will wake up in a panic state, like I was living in the situation again. Happiness = panic attacks. The first one lasted 2 weeks and I was terrified of everything and everyone. I'm trying to chart them monthly and knowing it is hormonal helps calm me enough to say the mantras I need to get through it and not get lost in the attack. I have Ativan on the side should I need a back up. This really is a challenge and something I dread.

It feels like......when a child runs out into the street of an oncoming car.....and stays with me all day.

Angela

I have irrational fears all the time. Lately I just think I'm going to end up in the looney bin. All I can picture is those movies where people are in a psych hospital in the "activity room" and walking around like zombies and talking to themselves. Then some nurse comes along with those little paper cups with the meds and says "here Mrs. so & so, time to take your meds", then you're more of a zombie than before. What a crazy picture, that of course brings on more anxiety.

As far as regular things, I always think the worst. Like, a couple weeks ago my brother and his family took my 2 kids (15 &10) on a vacation with them. My mind goes to... what if there's a car accident and they ALL die. Then I'll have no kids, no brother, no nephew and no sister in law. Then me and my mom will both go completely bonkers because we will have lost our whole family. Oh, and I was convinced that my 10 year old would get separated from the group in Boston, and no one would be able to find him, and he'd just be on the street corner all by himself crying. I made sure he had a cell phone with him, with all of the numbers and that he knew how to use it. Well, guess what, there was no accident, son did not get lost, we went to New York to pick up our kids, and everyone is home and fine! Go figure!

wow! I thought I was the only one in this world that thought this way! I have noticed that once a month I get so worked up that I end up in a total melt down for a few days... I tried to talk to the doctor and they said that I need a shrink.

OMG I cannot believe this. I was waking up every morning thinking "I am going to die", with such horrible negative thoughts, EVERYTHING IN MY LIFE was wrong. I had no idea it was menopausal ... I felt so low that I actually didn't care if I did live or die, nothing made sense. The anxiety was overwhelming and IRRATIONAL. Reading all of your thoughts/posts has set me at ease that I am not alone. Sometimes when I am really upset I try to think if it is the same time of month I always used to get my period, and usually that is it, and I try to rationalize it, tell myself it will go away. I have a hard time doing anything physically as I SWEAT and then I get terrified that this is IT, I will turn into a lump of pudgy sweat. THANK YOU

Hi Ladies

I get the same anxiety/fears/thoughts whatever you want to call them and I get so scared like I am going to lose it. Its awful, I wake up shaking all over and wonder is this the day I am going to die.
I get so scared I just cry which brings on the anxiety. I now feel better after after reading your posts so I would like to say thank you for sharing your feelings. Some days I think 'This can't be the menopause making me feel like this' but I do believe that hormones have a lot to answer for.
I worry over the most stupid thing and my mind is constantly working overtime and worrying all the time.

Its a very scary time but I try to concentrate on something else when it happens.

Thank you ladies for sharing the most worrying symptom, I do agree that the flushes are nothing compared to these stupid thoughts.

I hope you all have a nice weekend

Ina xxx

have had tons, loads......but its getting better.......at least I think it is!