As most of you know my MIL passed last week.She was like a mother to me.We had her service Sunday,burial Monday.well her other son(husbands brother)is a total jerk.He would go to her house and scream at her when she was sick,stole from her home,etc.He yelled at her three days before she went to hospice-she had to threaten to call the police.Well,the days after she died he never called us to ask about the funeral,at the funeral he never spoke to us,or ask about flowers the casket or the expenses.Just a few minutes ago he calls and started accusing me and my husband of "living off his mothers money" and saying he is going to take us to court.My husband is executer of her will,and as soon as the death certificates come we are taking the will to probate.He threatened to take us to probate-my husband called him back,got his voice mail and told him it is going to probate anyway,he won't get anything untill then.I am sickened and upset by this.That someone would only care about the money,not their mother.She was the only person left that cared about this dirt bag.Even after he treated her so badly she bought his medicine,paid 700 dollars so his dog could get an operation.I feel like I am going to come out of my skin I am so upset and nervous now.I loved my MIL dearly,as did my kids(her grandkids)and dealing with her death is hard,hard enough without dealing with a loser.Please send prayers and support.I am crying,I am so upset.I do not care about the money her house will make in a sale-I am mourning my friend.What a sick jerk.he would not even listen to my husband tell him that he had to do things by the will.Thanks for letting me vent.GOD-bless

It is obvious how much she meant to you. It is so unfair that this sleazeball would surface at a time when you are all grieving. Sounds like the only thing he is grieving about is the loss of control over the money. Whatever you do, stand firm and handle everything properly so he has no claim against you guys. Please take care of yourself and consider not answering the phone when he calls. Tell him it is going through proper channels-he is just making noise to put the pressure on. This is so unfair. Big hug to you.

I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this. Death of a loved one seems to bring out the "best" in people. When my mother was a little girl and her grandmother passed away, the family descended on the house like vultures and cleared out everything. She was heartbroken, not only because of the death of her dear grandmother, but also because she never got the little music box that her grandmother had promised her.

You're going through such a difficult time. Maybe you can shelter yourself and the grandkids as much as possible and let your husband deal with the "dirt bag". It's good that your MIL had a will, I doubt that he can do anything about it. Hang in there. I'm sending prayers your way.

Ang

I had my husband leave a message on his voice mail stating that it would have to go through probate,until then he would just have to deal with waiting.I am so upset.I am grieving and he is rubbing his hands together in greed-then dare accuse me of taking from her estate.He is like being thrown up on.Thanks for your kindness,I don't think I will ever speak to him,and my husband will probably do the same.GOD-bless

Thank you.My pastor was here earlier-he said to just speak to the brother as little as possible and do what we needed to do.I am just astonished at the way this man is acting-how could anyone be so callous?GOD-bless

(((lady e)))

gyz

if i remember right doesnt he got problems with drugs ? drug addiction is an awful disease, alot of things people say and do while being addicted is not the true persons feelings, i beleive when you are addicted to drugs you have the devil inside you, which is a very powerful thing, i know its so easy to hate the things a drug addicted says and does!!! all they think, breath and think about is the next high, its all consuming of every waking moment, nothing or nobody is more important to them, and until they really want to quit theres not much you can do, is he any where close to rehab? any way i will pray for you both , hope you find peace in your life......

I have no proof that he is a drug addict,I have heard that from other people.He has a job now as a truck driver,so I assume he would have to take drug tests?I am sorry but there is absolutely no excuse for yelling at a 77 year old who is dying from cancer.I wish that we could go the rest of our lives and never see him again,but my husband is executor and must deal with him at least one more time,when the house is sold.He made these choices not us.GOD-bless and thanks for the prayers.