I know I post alot about anxiety and I,m praying this will be my last post about because all you wonderful women here have been so helpful. But I need to ask what triggers your anxiety? Besides the Health and the anxiety that comes out of nowhere like I,m having right now asking this,For me thinking about going places, and mowing the lawn (which I use to love to do). I,m post 3 yrs as many of you know but this anxiety which I never had before this is very upsetting to me. I know my thoughts have alot to do with it which I,m working on but sometimes besides what I told you it can get me at the simplest things. Can anyone share their trigger,s so I don,t feel like a complete loser? Thank you all so much!!!!!!

No one has triggers? Say it isn,t so!!!!!!!!

Hi Lil,

My triggers

Any news stories where children are harmed

Any commercials for AD's or BiPolar meds

Doctor Visits

The thought of taking my state boards in less than 4 months

Being declared Mentally Insane and sentenced to live in an Mental Institute ( This one get's me every time)

Scaring myself by saying " what if this isn't Peri and I'm just going MAD instead....

Anytime I hear any talk what so ever of Mental Illness... this one is my greatest fear and really sets me off

The thought of being packed into The Sun Bowel Stadium with 60,000 other Miner fans for my brother in-laws football games ( I'll be attending these come Sept)

Traveling..ANYWHERE scares me and I have no clue why, I used to L-O-V-E IT =[

The thought that others depend on me and what if..I GO INSANE and I can't take care of them or myself anymore !!!

and did I mention the thought that I have incurred a serious mental Illness and I willbe locked away in a mental ward and my hubby will leave me and my children will be destitute

Yupp, that just about summs it up

Dear Little Lil,
When I first started peri, it seemed that anxiety was a constant which was triggered by my body going haywire (palps, insomnia, constant worrying). Anonther anxiety trigger was going to the doctors or anything health related. I could not understand how all these things that never bothered me before are now my enemies. My anxiety has morphed so many ways (usually over some pretty stupid stuff) in the last 4 years . I have felt worried, phobic and obsessed about so many things. What I've learned is that our bodies and minds are going to be anxious regardless what the situation is. I have been getting my nails manicured and polished for many years. One day, I was getting my nails polished and I started to flash or have some kind of panic attack. This anxious moment sent so much fear through my mind that I shouldn't get my nails done for so many catastrophic reasons. The anxiety had nothing to do with the nails but my bodies fluctuating or the lack of hormones affecting my mind at that time. Our minds play some pretty nasty tricks on us at this time, so don't let your mind control you!!! Please continue to shop and cut your grass. Be strong and you will get through this tough time.

(((HUGS)))
Denise

Triggers....
getting up in the morning
going anywhere out of the ordinary
feeling the slightest bit off
fear that there is something really wrong with me vs. it's just anxiety
anything, nothing, everything!

Ditto to all of the avoid, though my main trigger is health anxiety. I cannot watch too many health shows, hear the names of any illnesses. Any wierd twitch, ache, pain will throw me into anxiety mode. I am phobic about Dr.s, tests. I just want to avoid the Dr. at all costs. Although I have been known to run in there when my anxiety goes over the top, crying like a crazy person. My Dr. (whom I divorced, lol) suggested that "You are a grown woman, not a child". Here is the Cognitive Behavior Therapy number. Not that that advice was unsound, however, her condenscending tone was insensitive and unwarranted as well as her judgemental and snotty remark.

Duhhhh, "ditto to all of the ABOVE.... not avoid... oy!!!

my biggest fear also is the mental part, the word schitzophenia is the one that sets me off , all i have to do is hear that word and my panic button is on high , its my biggest fear, i must be nutso or some thing!!!!!

My anxiety is set off by:

Any talk of heart disease -- for some reason I'm TERRIFIED of having a heart attack, more so than cancer or stroke although I'm worried about those too).

Any weird, unexplainble pain or sensation in my torso -- chest pains, breast pain, back pain, abdominal pain.

Palpitations -- whether easily understood (after exercise) or not (adrenaline surge)

Dizziness, nausea or unexplained bloating

Being in pitch black dark for more than a few seconds (a fear since childhood)

Parties -- I just wanna run screaming out of the room, even if it's a bunch of people I know, like at a baby shower or family reunion.

New zits, skin tags or moles -- fear of skin cancer

Thoughts of death of family members and concerns when they get sick

Thoughts that my guy may want to end our relationship

Speaking in front of people -- but I think that sets of EVERYONE'S anxiety.

Jeez...much more than I thought. I'm a wreck.

Hi little lil,

I,m all of the above with Michuganna.

Go to Dr,s and still don,t feel reassured,constant anxiety every ache pain.

And most days just trigger me because I don,t feel like I use to anymore, whether that be just a foggy head or awful aches pains moving here there and every bloody where. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAaaaaaaaaaaaaaggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhh

How are you today,hoping good little lil

Kath

Oh boy - Same here - I could have written this!

Been there done that not as bad as it was but there was a time I focused on the BiPolar and schitz Learning to control that I know I,m not it,s the anxiety that drives us today I woke up irritable and that got me anxious because I,m either anxious or crying so bang new feeling there it goes!!!

Thank you all for sharring!!! Today I woke up irritable haven,t felt like that in months So pow anxiety up about thinking is the new AD causing this or am I finally starting to feel other emotions besides anxiety or crying and the Elavil is starting to work, I haven,t felt normal in such a long time I don,t know what it feels like!!!!!!!

Sometimes there ARE NO triggers! I can be working at my desk at work and my husband's affair will pop into my head for absolutely NO reason and I start shaking inside. Then I struggle to get my mind back focusing on work but sometimes I simply cannot do so. I will start obcessing on the other woman and how she kissed and had sex with my husband, how she's getting off so easily and because of their actions MY life has been turned upside down. I get up and take a walk and at times I've sat in the chapel to try to get strength from God. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. When it doesn't, it gets very bad and I start thinking about how much easier this would be if I were dead, then it wouldn't hurt anymore. This scares me no end and there have been times.... well, let's just say it's not the way I want to live. It's all I can do to get myself home where I can then take an Ativan which does help quite a lot. But I don't want to do this for the rest of my life. I want peace and I want to believe that once peri is over things will be at least somewhat better. I really think that a lot of this is peri related. I just can't cope with things anymore and this affair really put me over the edge. Having said that, I DO have good days. In fact, most of them are good and many are very good but those are the ones when he is home with me. When he's away on a four day trip each week I have a very difficult time of it. Soon my son will be going back to college so I'll be alone many nights a week and I dread it. I'll get through it but I don't look forward to it. This anxiety is doing a number on my self confidence and I wish it would just knock it off!!!!!!!!!!

Ditto for me.

driving and anytime we are traveling on the expressway.

ditto to ALL THE ABOVE.

i should just crawl into a hole

Moozie

Hi Jan,
I have been right where u are and know every emotion you feel due to the affair.It does get better, time truelly does heal all wounds to a certain exstint.Keep talking about it and keeping on pushimg yourself.You will get through this.
Lot's of love sent to you

Thanks T! I remember you telling me way back when that you've been where I am. It already is better but I believe it will never be the same again. My fondest hope is that it will still be good for both of us. I need to get this anxiety under control though or we won't make it. I have a Drs. appt. on Friday so will discuss this with him then. I'm hoping he can give me something for a temporary solution to buy me some time. I'll keep plugging along though!!!
xoxoxo
Jan

My triggers:

anything health related, especially on the skin.....moles, red spots....any medical tests because I fear they will find the worst
fear of brain tumor causing anxiety
any mention of anyone having cancer
getting older and my husband dying and I am alone
fear of being alone
my children moving out (one just did and has put me over the edge this summer)
fear of how to fill time, what to do with myself
morning anxiety
fear of not ever get back to being my normal self and always being "sick" with anxiety and depression
want to stop living in fear

I have a lot of morning anxiety triggered by just getting up and going through my routine.

Money problems/trying to stretch our paychecks. (HUGE TRIGGER)

Dr.'s appointments and worry about health problems

Worrying about other family members health problems.

My husband is a BIG trigger for my anxiety. He's often wound up and anxious also. Maybe we "feed" off of each other.

I hear you all to well.

I totally agree with your last line that,s my biggest fear.

* My mother

* Meeting new people

* The neighbor's dogs who bark incessantly

* Unknown caller

* Bills that I find have not been paid

* Running late for anything

* My son who refuses to listen to me

* My dil

* Children who are not in my sight

* Grocery shopping

* People in general

* My dad who has to be treated like a 2 year old

I have all of your fears, one fears you can take off your list is red spots, they are called cherry angiomas and my dermatologist said the more you have the wiser you are, yeah sure, but, whatever. That's what she called them. I have many of them. Moles scare me too. Medical tests are to be avoided at all costs, writing this answer is giving me anxiety, lol.... so I'm done, lol...

My triggers:

Any dealings with my mom, especially face to face meetings.
Driving long distances (more than a few miles).
Food
Medication is a huge one
going in places where I have had an anxiety or panic attack before
Occular migraines
showers
Pop up thoughts out of the blue do it
change in my routine

Lil - you are so not alone in this. Please do not think you are a loser. You are a beautiful and strong woman.

Hugs to you,
Jeaninne

Thank you

Angry or fighting voices

The phone ringing and I'm not expecting a call.

Long pause at the other end of a phone call.

Long episodes of happiness.

Waking up to a loud noise.