ia,m 53, an hubby is 65, i meant him at age 43 an i was 31, time has passed on, an about 3 yreas ago we have,nt have any sex, he say he,s through, but i,am not i,am horney as ever, he won,t dare take any enhanement drugs or any medication, he don,t want to do it any more, i do,t no what to do, i,ll never go out on him, he,s a good man, i need help.

Doesn't seem to be a good situation.....he just really doesn't want to have sex anymore?or could it be that he doesn't want to have to go see a dr. and talk about it?

If your husband has lost his sex drive and is unwilling to take the "little blue pill", honestly, there's not a whole lot you can do. Has he ever had his testosterone levels checked? I'm in the same boat and have had to "deal" with this problem for many years. It's caused too many arguements and hurt feelings to count. One day I realized I had to accept it or get a divorce. I chose to stay in a sexless marriage. The love is still there, we still SLEEP together, hug, kiss, cuddle. I'm OK with it now. Not great, but OK. It's all up to you. Only you know what you can and cannot learn to live with.

Good luck to you and welcome to the boards!

I can't imagine a man not wanting to do something about it,sex to men is part of being a man usually....i also can't imagine having a sexless marriage.....but i do applaud you for accepting it and staying.

Its a tough situation you are dealing with. Have you told him how YOU feel? Do you know why he isn't interested in sex anymore? Is it disinterest or inability?