Hello:

I am new and lurker on this board ,until now and I can't find an answer .

I will post it here and hopefully someone else can help me or tell me where to find the answer.

I have been playing with changing my life , left the husband (who was killing me mentally)

now I am restless in the religious that I have been doing for all of my life . Is this a menospause thing

as so many of my other issues. I have the boards and I have not seen this from anyone else

should I see a shrink or minister ? thanks for all your assistance

rebelgrandma

As a old timer here must say you haven't been around long enough to see posts on this topic
They are here So don't feel alone> we have plan ways to run away>>> Fantasized in details!!!!!
Maybe someone can find the posts for you?
they can be good laugh!

I'm in situation where I need to sell my house or give it up and move on.

Where to move next I don't know!

I am very discontented in the direction my life has gone!

Mid-life crises?

See if you can relate to any of these!

http://www.power-surge.com/php/forums/inde...ic=7337&hl=

http://www.power-surge.com/php/forums/inde...c=15908&hl=

http://www.power-surge.com/php/forums/inde...c=16359&hl=

Thanks for replies ,

it made me smile and feel lil bit more human and that I am not alone .

oh dear "rebel grandma" ......... you are SO SO SO not alone! listen, I think this is partly peri, but partly not ...i am in the same boat .. i think that at this time in our lives, hormones or not.....we start reassesing things, rethinking our lives, and then, hopefully REINVENTING them too! I know I am ...i needed to! You can do this ....... as women, we have had to deal with so much in our lives, so, this isn't something we can't do!!!!! Hey, why does this have to be bad? Why do we have to be so afraid, or negative, about change, or perhaps......re-thinking things.......it doens't have to be that way. I dont know your situation, ... I knwo you said you left your husband and since he was killing you mentally, then, that was a good idea ....so, ok, now......RE-INVENT! I know i make this sound so darn easy..it's not! I've been there, and to be honest,...i'm still "re-inventing" my life ....... at first, it scared me.....but now, it's kind of exciting! NOt that I don't still go through fear, and anticipation and whatever, but, you almost get to a point where you feel you really do want a change .....
Snowy.......oh boy, I know where you're at!!!!! I really really do. This is definately a time to stop and think, and look around, and be thankful for all the good things, .... i know this may sound corny, but I stop and thank God for the flowers, and the fact that I can smell them..... for the beach and ocean, and the fact that i can walk along the beach with my own two legs (even though they may be aching like heck most of the time! ) .... and the fact that I can hear the dog bark , or the dumb cat meow .... maybe that all sounds silly, but for me, that means a lot, because I think we take a lot for granted.....just being alive is good........and hey, yeah, all this peri hormonal junk is bad, really bad ..... and in a little while from now, I'll be complaining about yet another symptom....but FOR NOW....i can smell the flowers, hear the ocean, and see the sun and moon,.......so, maybe........things aren't that bad ......................................BIG HUGS ladies!

I too am facing a lifestyle change. I'm planning a "get rid of everything move" in nine months. It will be quite a shake-up, but I've had a lot of practice. I moved around a lot when I was younger. I am very, very ready for a new adventure. I have been in my current home/job for seven years and I am not they type to "sit still" for that long - or at least, I never used to be. I just can't take the daily grind of mediocrity any longer. I encourage everyone to shake things up!

Looks I am going to get a shake up whether I want it or not.
My mortgage company is threatening to foreclose on my house the 20th of this month.
Nothing seems to go right even when we try like hell to make it so.

I'm so sorry. You've been through so much already. I wish I had something to offer other than prayers. We've had one money crisis after another here, too. My husband does his best to hide what's happening because he doesn't want me to worry, but I can tell just by his spending habits.

I hope this doesn't sound heartless, but maybe a change of venue would be a good thing. Hang in there.

Ang

Hi there, Welcome!!!

I have hated my man

I have hated my son

I have bitten peoples heads off

My misanthropy is rampant

I don't like socialising

I feel like a horror head

You are SO not alone babe.......making changes in your life is a good thing if they were causing you pain.......I think that peri has given me the impetus to stand up for myself and accept my imperfections.........If I had a dollar for everytime I have wanted to run away, I would be rich. So, I am. My partner and I are going to apply for jobs on Antarctica in a few years when my son is older(in his 20's).

I am going to stare at some ice and some penguins and be still........I want to go now so badly it makes me feel sick.......got to get my health back on track first.

Take care and keep talking........we are here......

Ang I agree! I need a change!
We have been trying to sell our house for 3 yrs!!! Where underwater so trying to work out a short sale!

BUT after the last heavy rain we notice water staining on a living room wall. I call 3 different contractor all said we need to a new roof! Grrrrrrrrr!
Not throwing anymore money at already bad problem> sooooooo we may just let the bank foreclose!

I DON'T CARE ANYMORE!

Just don't know what direction to head in> that's all!

There shall be a menopausal peace crops we all could join!

I understand where you are all coming from.....it's like our lives are a stuffed full cupboard that needs clearing out.....

....then clear it all out!

I also suggest you all read 'The Secret' by Rhonda Byrne....a very interesting read, that I am trying to implement in my own life.



Caz