tonite, my husband and i will be alone together and i have to have sex with him........it's been way too long and i know for sure he's gonna want it,
i'm tired, sweaty and want to run away from home right now!
i swear i'd hire someone to pleasure him while i can go someplace and be alone!
i know sex, with no desire is purely praying it will be a quicky.......last time we did have sex, went on for over an hour and i am not that way anymore!
oh well, just wish i was a young horny youngster again. it certainly would help a heck of alot!
venting.........yes.............really venting!
he's home................ i hear his car pulling in.
my life simply *****!

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Well... since you asked.. I can drum up the desire by having a shower and spending some time to "dolly-up". To think of myself as sexy and what I will do to drive him crazy.... and that generally works to get us started however, I'm done looong before him so then I find myself praying it will be over soon. I've always been quick to have an "O", I wish I could hold out longer but if I try that I lose it altogether. He has always wanted to take his time...

So why do they say opposites attract?

I'm not trying to advocate for alcohol consumption but I have found lately, when needed, a nice drink always loosens me up and makes the worries fade away so I can get in the mood....

Have fun!

i already had a drink, placed a bottle of lubricant up my v jay, and am in a silly looking outfit..........look like an old crow in a sexy outfit
maybe i'll say i just do not want it! he takes way too long!
yet, that would be cruel and unusual punishment for him, he's a great guy, but sex seems to be number 1 with him...........help!
maybe he'll have a headache or something

ps: i can't get the big O anymore........the walls of my v parts swell up, that's all that happens, and he keeps pushing for me to have one.....that just adds onto the "fun"!!!!!!! omg

I am so glad I don't have to worry about this -- I can only feel your pain from how I felt long ago but not anymore since it has been about 12 years for us. Good luck to you =)

Hugs, Barb

Hey you never know, if it's been awhile, ya know it might not be that long.. LOL

You know I can't stand that when you know that you have to have sex, it just takes the whole spontenatey (sp) out of it for me..

But try to get it in your mind that you are going to enjoy yourself, hey you never know, you might surprise yourself...

And guys, oh yea, that's all they think about... Mine thinks it's so cute that grabs my breast every morning, oMGish some days I could kick him I swear... And he always tells, Beck been doing that for 20 years, it ain't going to change now...

I tell him you want to turn me on.. Come home poor me a hot bath, with a glass of red wine on ice, meanwhile you cook dinner, (which mean you clean the kitchen), then we can see where the night leads.. LOL (that's if I don't fall asleep in the bath) And if I am still awake, hey a nice massage would be great... just saying....

Oh yea, and find out if son can stay at his buddies house...

Visit the adult shop or one online and get yourself a bullet for clitoral stimulation. I know blunt but you ask!

Let me be blunt......get him drunk (or just a little tipsey) and uhhhhhh perhaps.....some oral sex.... Might finish him off quickly and make it over sooner for you. Sorry to be so direct but you did ask. Good luck. JZZ

Uh huh...that would probably do the "job" (pardon the pun) quite nicely! And if he's not used to it, he won't last too long if she does a thorough job. (oops, sorry, another pun!) Is there a man on the planet that would turn THAT down?

With my hubby, there is nothing quick about it. I swear I believe oral takes longer. But maybe it's just I'm too quick so it seems to drag out.. I think I'll time him next time.

It's funny the stereotype is that men are to fast and fall asleep. I have to say mine is similar to the ones here, he goes and goes and goes. Not complaining though.

Ah not me... I can't stand that... Once I am done, I am done... OMgish what kind of subject is this...LOL

Let's just say me and my hubby have perfect timing, and THANK GOD!!!

wish i had that situation here.....i would love for at least once in my l ife have it last long enough to see how many times i can reach the big O.......my highest count is 10......any ideas on how to get him to last longer?

10??????????? In one "session"????? OMG, I don't think my poor old heart could handle that although I wouldn't mind testing the theory! The most I've ever had in one go around was 3 and that was pretty awesome. Maybe if I get my hormones in sinc things will be, how so we say it, more mind blowing. As to my husband, he's always been one of those that could go forever so when I wasn't in the mood it was something I dreaded if I had to get up and go to work the next day. NOW, I'm absolutely in the mood and if he wants to take his time that's just jolly with me!!!!!

LOL ... I can just see you taking "time outs" to look at your stop watch. HAHAHA! But I know what you mean, I think my husband takes his sweet time (NOT complaning) but oral could be MUCH quicker if I wanted it to be. Evidently, it's not all in the wrist like they say. LOL Oh my, this thread is going downhill quickly isn't it?

Well, I don't have any advice for you but I can tell you one thing.....reading this thread is getting ME in the mood! I better go do the dishes.....

As far as making one want to last longer...I dunno my first husband was two minute man for seventeen years. My current husband is two hour man from the get go!

wow,big difference in 2 minutes and 2 hours....

you ain't kidding! I have discovered things I never knew possible lol! I think it is dependent on the man and how attentive he is to his partner versus himself. My husband goal is for me to have the big O and another big O and so on ha ha! His words are "I am always going to have an orgasm so you should too and since you can have more than me then you should enjoy it!" I love this man ha ha ! Now I just wish I could have the urge. When we do it is wonderful but it isn't like I am initiating it which of course makes him run away from me thinking I am not feeling well. Sighhh !

Ok, I'm getting some hormones! After reading about moonlight's 10 "big O"s and your multiples I'm feeling a little deprived with just one or two twice a day! Here I thought I was doing pretty well!

I'm not on any hormones.....it's just that i don't get it very often so when i do,i am like an animal in heat.....and i take advantage of it.So,if you average out the big O's in one year,it doesn't add up to many. I think i'd rather have one big O daily than a bunch every couple of weeks....

ha ha if you are getting it once or twice a day you are doing better than me! Those multiple O's are in one go and that might be two weeks apart ! Before my hormone hell I could hit six or so in one go. Now that we know each other lots better it is more like three or four. We are and have always been a very sexual couple but this progesterone just doesn't give me the ooomph to want it. I like it just don't crave it if that makes sense. I have cut back on taking the T until my P balanced back out so at the moment can't see that the T is really doing much of anything but it was when I was using it as directed. Hormones can in fact decrease your sex drive if you aren't getting the right combo so I don't think it can be the answer for everyone but always worth a try! We deserve to be sexual and sexy and all that good stuff, no matter how old we are!

Ok, I feel better then. I must add that my husband is not home 3 nights a week at least so we are trying to make up for lost time in more than one way. For years I wasn't interested at all then our recent marital troubles put a bit of a dent in things but I've tried real hard not to let those issues carry over into our sex life, which has been very good of late. (AEB our doing "it" more than once a day most days he's home.) I have to say I agree with you. We deserve to be sexual and sexy no matter how old we are. Too many years spent raising children and spending all our energy on them takes it toll. Our children are now grown with the last one nearly 19 so we can re-focus on us now. Sex has been just part of that but it's been a HUGE part of it lately. (pardon the pun) At 55 and 57 we seem to be doing alright I'd say.

Jan I admire you! Maybe your difficulties have helped you see the relationship in a new light and fight for what you love. I think sex is the first thing we let go and why I don't know! I guess as you pointed out the kids and life gets in the way and we forget our wonderful spouses and how good we can make each other feel. Sex isn't all of it of course but intimacy is very sacred and who better to share it with than ones spouse?! I heard there is a new Adam and Eve store in our area, thinking I am slipping away with hubby this weekend and checking it out ! New play things always put me in the mood lol! It's cute I have a kaboodle as a "toy" box and hubby keeps my key ha ha ! We aren't kinky people but having a few things around to help me out has been a blessing.

I just had a weird thought......when i was young,the thought of "old people" doing it totally grossed me out.....now i am one of those old people........GROSS!!

An Adam and Eve store???? What is that? Well, I can guess WHAT it is but I guess I mean I don't know anything about it. I've looked at a website called Better Sex and I'm simply amazed at the "toys" that are out there. We are not "kinky" people either but I'm more adventurous now than I ever was before. It's sort of funny, when I was young, firm and very thin I had a very poor body image so was much more inhibited as to WHAT I would do though I was a very horny young thing back in the day. Now that I'm overweight by more than a few pounds and have the body of a 55 year old mother of three I'm pretty confident in my sexual attractiveness. Apparently my husband can't really see the body I have now as it doesn't seem to slow him down any. Ha! Having said that, I'm still getting my tummy tuck and boob job next month for ME! I'll have to let you know if that kicks anything into REALLY high gear! NOW, I have to ask...what's a "kaboodle"? I will likely need to get one for myself as I have now identified a few toys that I find intrigueing and will need a place to store them.
BTW, If Boohoo isn't in the mood after reading all this then I'm sorry. I think we've done a pretty darned good job of spicing up this thread for her!

LOLOL Yeah, my husband and I have commented on that many times lately. That our kids would likely be grossed out. Especially when our daughter and son-in-law were in the room on the other side of our bedroom wall. We just laugh about it because we're quite sure we're "better at it" than they are at our age. I guess it's not so gross anymore now that we're the old people, huh?

A kaboodle is one of those large hard (this sounds kinky) make up cases you can buy in Target or Wal-Mart usually. Adam & Eve have an online site too, this is just an actual store you can go in. We have a regular store we visit which caters to women, otherwise I wouldn't go in one at all ! The gal that runs this one is awesome, she gets out batteries and starts things up so you can see how it works...not literally of course you can hold it in your hand ! She makes suggestions as well and is great with Q & A. They have movies in a separate section so you don't have to be in there with all the men buying that stuff. Very seldom single guys in there it is normally couples and I never feel embarrassed about just looking. Plus it is in a nice area on the main shopping drag. I dunno it all just adds more bling to foreplay I guess. It gives me the added time of building things up and probably helps him hold out longer so I get mine lol!

Yeah boohoo should have plenty of ideas now!

I am having my bloods tested tomorrow....{day 3 } LH & FSH levels
Is the LH to test my progesterone? When I had my Mirena fitted a few years ago,a nurse said I wasnt producing enough progesterone {hence the heavy periods}
the Mirena fell out last November and I,ve had a terrible time,new symptoms daily....
would if the FSH level is normal but the LH low?

I really dont want to battle on....will I be offered some form of treatment?
if not,what herbal remedies can anyone recommend for the following.....; total loss of sex drive,weepiness,irritability,sore breasts,weakness,tiredness...
I am tempted to take AD's but have used St Johns Wort before and found it helped,though this is definitely more than a bout of mild depression.....this MUST be the peri and its just bloody horrible
any help much appreciated


me not wanting sex is really p****** my hubby off.He is very good looking and good in bed,it's ME!
I just want to go to bed and read,then sleep.I feel so selfish but I cant find the urge!!?

Boohoo - I can so relate to how you are feeling.... all I want to do when I get into bed is curl up with a book and then sleep. My partner is 16 years younger than me and I feel so bad..... I sometimes feel as if I should let him go and be with some woman his own age but when I have hinted along those lines he feels as if I don't love him anymore - that's the problem I do and seeing him deprived is so upsetting, he's too young to be put on sex rations.... I have been told that desire does return after meno - bring it on is all I can say... I can handle a cuddle and a kiss but anything else is just too much hard work. I do feel a bit like a bloated frump at present and I'm sure that doesn't help.

To be truthful, if forget what the big O feels like!