Does anyone have trouble dealing with your children? i have two kids 6 and 8 and feel that I have no
tolerance to any little disturbance! I am so uptight ! Does anyone else feel this? I feel like I cannot
handle any noise or "misbehaven"!!?? Please give me any suggestions. I am so wiped out with this.
I have tried all the benzo's and that takes a little edge off but not really. Please give me any advice
that could help calm my nerves.

Thank you
Big Hugs
Joyd

Hi hon,

I feel for you. I cannot begin to imagine trying to go through this and raise small children. I had all my kids very young so my only one at home is 16 and barely here anyway. You need to laugh honey....find a funny movie..sit down with the kids and have a damn good laugh. Or when you start to feel yourself heading into that "no fly zone" simply grab one of those children and say "Mum really needs a big hug right now". You might be surprised to find that they are so willing to do that....and it truly is amazing what a hug can do for your mood. I cannot suggest that you just go out because you have the little ones at home.....but do what you can also to separate yourself when the need arises....as easy as locking yourself in the bathroom and making stupid faces at yourself in the mirror until you don't have any other option but laugh yourself silly.
My thoughts are with you. Keep your chin up and laugh!!

I can't offer any suggestions, because I need some myself. I don't know about you, but when I am feeling that way, the last thing in the world I want is a hug! I know, I know, you must think I'm a really b****, but I don't want anyone near me - I just want to be left alone. My kids are a little bit older (11 and 14, but both girls and at that hormonal stage as well), but I still have the same problem - Mom is ALWAYS in a bad mood!!

Oh you could be me!!!I have a 14 year old,12 year old and an 8 year old.I have been under a huge amount of stress this past month(or more) and I feel so bitchy.I hate how I must look to my kids.I feel they deserve better.My best advice to you is what I try to do.Get a little time to yourself everyday.I wait for my hubby to get home then I go on a walk.I try to walk 35 minutes or more.also put them to bed at a reasonable hour so that you have a little down time at night.Make sure they know what is going on with mom.I sat mine down and said"moms got a problem with her hormones,sometimes I am going to seem a little mean or sad-please don't blame yourselves" that has helped so much.Please do not be hard on yourself and thanks for posting,now I do not feel alone!!!GOD-bless

Hey Peri Sisters,

Thanks so much for the advice. It means a lot to have you guys!!! My kids are both girls, and they are 7 and 8, not even a yearr apart. They can be very challenging at times, especially on my worst days.
Which are the the 2 weeks before my period, and a few during my perioed and even some after. I guess I might manage to have one good week a month, if the stars are aligned just right. I feel so guilty sometimes, I love them so much and I just want to be able to be calmer no matter what the challenge. PLEASE pray for me and my family. I know we will make it through this crazy time. I am on natural progesterone only. A lot of my Perimeno sisters have suggested that I might also need a little estrogen to balance me out, and to help calm and sooth my nerves. I do still have reg. periods and no hot flashes yet, THANK GOD! Have any of you tried the estrogen, and did it help keep you calmer even on your worst days?

Thanks again to everyone!!!
Joyd

I am on a low dose bcp.which has both estrogen and progesterone.I feel better when I get a little more estrogen than progest.So I would try if I were you.GOD-bless

Dear Joy,

Yes my peri "witchiness" and impatience went away when I started supplementing with estradiol. P makes everything worse for me but I don't need to use it as long as my ovaries give me a period. E can be a mood elevating for many but you don't know unless you try. I cannot imagine going thru this with young children. Some women choose to do bcp's to level out the moodiness but I'd suggest getting one with a low androgenic P and higher E ratio. Vliets and Redmond both write good books on hormones and also contain good info on selecting a bcp if that is the route you decide to go. Either way relax, when possible, and try to enjoy you babes. Best wishes, JZZ

Thanks to all of you ladies for your support and your advice. It means soooo very much!! We are all in this together, and WE WILL MAKE TO THE OTHER SIDE OF IT, ALL IN ONE PIECE AND WITH MORE PEACE!!!
God.s Blessings to all,
Joyd

I agree that it must be some kind of cruel joke for a woman to start going through these changes when she still has children at home. Actually, when I started having my worst symptoms, which came out of the blue, I spent most of my time crying, either from terrible anxiety or depression. I've worked full time my kids entire lives (they are now 20, 12, and 9) The kids have been very understanding, although they just can't seem to get the "helping around the house" part. I'm the one who feels so terrible because they want so badly to spend time with me, but I just don't feel like doing anything. We can't even watch movies together because my emotions are so out of control, even a children's movie can start me crying. We've managed to find some TV shows that we can all watch together, though, so at least that's something.

Now, trying to explain to my husband that I can barely stand to be touched, much less be intimate. . .that's the BIG problem!! He understands everything else, but not the problems with sex.

Ang