I first started having issues with this internal jolting after my last miscarriage and it went away a little and I didnt notice anything until recently I am jolting again and it gives me a weird balance problem like I feel like Im in an elevator but Im not. I am starting to get very depressed and wonder if I can be a good mom while going through this. My baby is due in dec and I am so scared. I have even considered giving her up for adoption because I just dont see how Im going to be able to take care of a newborn and endure this at the same time. I know that my stress and anxiety make it worse but this is rediculous, Ive had anxiety for years and never this!!!!

Dear sevilicious, I know your feeling really scared and bewildered right now. I had a miscarriage at 39 that sent me into a tailspin. My dad almost died of a septic infection and we both ended up in the hospital just a few doors down from each other. I was trying like heck to hold it all together. I went through the start of a deep depression after that miscarriage and caring for my dad was so frightening, with all the dangerous meds I had to switch his hicks cathedar in his chest. I went on AD's and about 4 months later, I got pregnant again. It was the toughest pregnancy, I was sick everyday until I delivered. But the delivery was absolutely beautiful and peaceful and short. Only 5 hours! My little man is now 8 and the highlight of my life. He has been worth every illness I could have endured. You will be able to take care of your baby wonderfully. Expect the very best. I was so sure I would not have the energy or that I would fail somehow as an older mom. I feel like a better mom now than I did while raising my other 3 in my 20's. I too had anxiety for years and going through peri just tipped me upside down. Plus, I know exactly what you are talking about when you say your balance feels like an elevator. I would and still get that occasionally so bad, it would feel like I was hurling towards the ground swiftly without warning. It sent shivers down my back with fear. I somehow always came out of it and so will you. Keep looking up friend. There will always be someone here who has walked the path before you who can shed some light on the twists, turns and pitfalls. It's a comfort to know that they have made it through intact and you can use that fact to give you hope that you too will arrive safely, maybe a little disheveled, but in one piece. Debra

god will never give you more than you can handle, please beleive that.... i too had an unplanned child only 11 mo apart from each other ,didnt think id servive but is today 27 yrs old and the greastest joy.....just dig down deep and pull out all what god knows you have ...you will be fine....

If you are pregnant right now then your problems are related to that and surely not menopause? The internal jolting is something I also have sometimes and it is related to a sudden drop in blood pressure. Nothing to worry about and I would think in your case related to the pregnancy.
I had terrible pregnancies and always was an anxiety sufferer like you so I was terrified before my first baby was born that I wouldn't be able to cope.
I needn't have worried.I actually felt fantastic after all three of mine -no post natal depression or mood swings. I think I know the reason why-breast feeding! It creates all sorts of feel good hormones and is the best anti-anxiety, anti-depressant I have ever known.
I would recommend you do it if you are able. It made me feel mellow, relaxed and joyus. It was the best time of my life!
I even managed it after my last birth which was an emergency caesarian-I was determined because I knew I would feel great and I did!
Congratulations on your pregnancy-it is wonderful to be having a baby. When it is born you will be a different person and your focus will change I am sure.

Good luck and DONT WORRY ! You will cope.

janet c

Thank you so much, its hard to keep hope sometimes but you have definitely made my day

Oh sevilicious...sorry to see your having a hard time. I guess really your problem causing these sensations is you hormones through being pregnant. Also your anxiety is caused by hormones. You can take antidepressants while your pregnant. Have you been to see a doctor yet, tell them how you feel and what is happening to you. How old are you, do you have other kids and also do you have family and friends you can rely on. Or do you have help in your local hospital, some one to talk to?

You WILL be a good Mum your thoughts are putting doubts in your mind. You can always come here pop into chat and see if some one is there to talk to. Take care choco.

Dear 'sevilicious'
It is those hormones again!Pregnancy,like Menopause,can make us feel worried and anxious.
Try talking to your Gyno.Obs about your fears as you may suffer Post Partum Depression after the birth so best to be prepared beforehand as there is so much help available.I am not trying to scare you but just making sure that your Doctor is fully aware of your feelings
Congratulations on the pregnancy
Hope all goes well
If you have good friends and family please share your feelings with them.
And come back here to visit
We are all behind you.
God Bless
Elizabeth

My daughter just had her first baby last week and I swear I have post pardum depression. I had it with my 2nd child 18yrs ago. I'm so close to her I feel like I had the baby. But any way I got help back then. You should talk to your doctor now about your fears and anxiety. I know it's easier said than done, trust me I've been there. You can take AD's while pregnant and would help after baby is born. Do you have alot of family support? That helps alot.
Well hang in there hun we are all here for you...
(((((char)))))

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If I could do it, so you can you. You are never alone as long as PS and the sisters are here. Remember that!!!! You will be a great mother!

Hugs to you,
Jeaninne

Congrats! ...and they are in order. If you ask many mothers and grandmothers, you will find that the baby that they did not want or was afraid to have turned out to be the most precious person in their lives. Although they did not know it for a long time.

After my 2nd baby, I was in a car wreck. For over a year, I had headaches. I would wake up crying. Since nothing gave me relief, I finally learned to live with the pain. I decided to have another baby, anyway. It was so strange, but with the extra hormones in my body, my body gradually healed. Pregnancy causes your body to work in overdrive. (although you might not feel like it!) Your bones, joints, & etc. repair themselves. Perhaps your hormones & etc. will correct themselves, too? My great-grandmother told me that if you want to stay young, you should keep having children. She knew something that we don't.

Perhaps you are worrying too much? Adoptions is a great option, but it will leave you wondering about your child every day for the rest of your life. Even if you are young, you could be dealing with hormonal problems. My niece who is only 17 is E. dominant. She is now using a small amount of Progesterone and is doing great.

It sound like your hormones have been out of balance. Correct this and they symptoms will go away.

I bet you will be a wonderful Mommy. Just think about all of the women who have severe problems and have raised outstanding kids. Best wishes...

Why don't you talk with someone close or even to your doctor if he/she is wonderful.

Shebee

You poor dear,
I too had extreme anxiety and every anxiety symptom known to man when I was pregnant because I lost my first at 22 weeks and felt like I was living in the middle of a nightmare. When the 2nd pregnancy test came back positive I burst into tears and threw the little stick as hard as i could across the room. I did NOT see how I was going to cope.

Well - I'm now going thru peri and I have the most beautiful, loving 20 year old daughter. From the moment she was placed in my arms I felt such a surge of love and protectiveness - I won't say I lost my anxiety completely after having her - but it got a LOT better and yes I also believe breastfeeding helped so much. It does release so many "feel good" hormones - plus if you can do it the bonding is amazing.

YOU WILL BE FINE. I actually saw a very good psychiatrist 4 times during the prenancy and I can say that really really helped - just having somebody listen and understand was amazing. If you can do that I'd recommend it.

Thinking of you and KNOWING you will be fine. Someone else said "God never gives us more than we can handle" and I believe that's spot on. The road may seem impossible but it's not - somehow you get through it and then the rewards come. God bless and please yell out if I can help you at all - even if you just need to vent.

With love,
Susan in Australia.

Just want to chime in quickly here. With regards to taking AD's while pregnant. I saw on TV a lawsuit (don't know if there is any merit or truth to it) about having been pregnant and having taken Paxil. I'm sure your Dr. if you so choose to go that route would know which AD would be safe to take while pregnant. Just wanted to put that out there. I think all the comments from the wise women are great and I am sure gave you some comfort that you will get through this and be a terrific mother. Have faith and reach out for help if you need it. Take care, Mich

Hi there...I was just checking to see how you are doing.
Shebee