I am just curious if we all feel this feelings,

1. Like we are dying

2. Like we are going to have a heart attack

3. Like we are nothing but a bowl of swet

4. Gas gas gas

5.uneasy

6.nervous

7.anxiety

8.like we are going out of our minds?

just wondering if these are normal symptoms and if most women have them all.


Also does anyone have there period stop for a day and then start back up? what causes thet?

Yes!!!! to at least most of the above questions! Especially the "feeling like I am dying"..."having a heart attack"...very anxious, nervous, uneasy..... it has been so much worse for me this week. I am wondering if I didn't ovulate this month and my estrogen level was way down even though I had a period? I don't understand all that goes on in these perimenopausal bodies of ours, except that it can make us crazy in the mind at times! (at least in my mind!)

I haven't had my period stop or start, but I"m sure others have. Nothing is normal during this time of our lives dealing with our periods, etc...
Hang in there, you're not alone!
Sandy

DanaRae----I believe these symptoms are normal even though I don't feel normal during this time of my life. I share the same symptoms as you. I just went to the Gyno this week and explained my symptoms.....out of control anxiety, gloom and doom feelings, surprising panic attacks, head full of fear plus other symptoms. He told me that my symptoms are exactly the way peri/meno women feel during this dreadful time. He reassured me that feelings are "normal" and since I'm experiencing peri at a younger age (40 yrs. old and 4 1/2 years in peri) my symptoms are more severe. My gyno. pretty much blamed these symptoms on my low levels of estrogen. Maybe that's why you have these symptoms and experiencing period problems.

(((HUGS!!!)))
Denise

Yes, to all sweetie! In fact, the quesiotn about your period has been a feature of my period, even when it was regular, for many years. My period will appear to stop for about 24 hours or so. Then, again, I feel the PMS symptoms and it begins again for a couple more days. Freaky, huh?

Don't for a minute think you're alone in all that you're feeling. The worst part is feeling like you're th only one. That's why I'm so glad I found this site. All these symptoms have been kicking up with me a LOT in the past week or so. Want a simple suggestion or two?

Try some music or movies. Right now, I'm really enjoying Van Morrison's "Hymns to the Silence" and "The Philosopher's Stone." Mellow.

Movies? I tend to go old school too. "Auntie Mame" with Rosalind Russel is riotously funny as is "The Cheyenne Social Club with Jimmy Stewart and Henry Fonda.

Hope this message finds you better. I'll pray for you, honey. Tha always helps too!

Me too, me three and me four... This experience is second to none. Truly I thank the good lord for this site. I had absolutely no idea that peri/meno had the potential to be like this. I expected a few hot flashes and periods stopped.....voila, all done. HA!! Some do have that luxury and many of us don't, I of course fall in the latter group. Someone posted a link to an article and basically said "that apparently more well adjusted women who had better childhoods and good self esteem didn't suffer as much as some of us who didn't or don't".. I am paraphrasing and interpreting but that is kind of what I got from that. I would say I THOUGHT I was a strong person, did have a bad childhood with some bad experiences, suffered my share of low self esteem in adulthood but ended up on the other side doing pretty darn well. Who knows, there are always theories of one sort or another. I like some of elidia's suggestions. I love to watch TVland stuff, Golden Girls especially I Love Lucy. Things that are light and funny. I did watch Saturday Night Fever yesterday and it made me wistful, happy and sad all at the same time. It brought me back to a time when I was young and full of life and loved me some disco dancing, lol. I was good too. Me and John Travolta what a pair, lol.... Try and find the good stuff in your life. You will still have moments when nothing will seem right and I guess we have to find a way to make peace with it. I suppose as you have these symptoms time and time again, maybe you fear them less cause you can see even though you feel like you are dying, you are still here albeit kicking and screaming (probably not out loud, or maybe sometimes out loud, lol) My main thing is I don't want my husband to disconnect from me. He is a gem but how much Debbi (no offense to any Debbi's on the site, lol) Downer can a guy take. I have told him this could be a few years of this nonsense and WHEN I get to the other side of this still standing I will make it up to him every which way I can. I hope that IOU will do for now. I am so lucky that he just allows me to be, I know he is puzzled half the time, but he let's me do whatever I need to do in order to get through this. For that gift I am truly grateful!! Hang in there.

Oh yes, me too!! Every one of these

Michugana - I love what you said to your husband. I totally understand that nagging feeling that my husband is going to just get sick of my symptoms, sick of my intensity, and throw in the towel, or detach from me. I have explained to him and read to him a bit about peri, and I have told him that no matter what craziness a particular day might bring, I am taking resonsibility for my health, I am putting supports in place and I will come out alright in the end.

Now I've got to convince myself that I'm gonna make it through!!!!

Big hugs to all,

Cynthia

Yeah, me too. I talk a good game (well, I really don't talk that good of a game). The intensity of things just started for me this year when periods became erratic so this is all new to me. I am hoping as this moves forward I will be become familiar with the symptoms and realize I'm still here and not freak out as much. I'm already sick of the Xanax, I think I am getting side effects from it even though they really work well for me. Ativan makes me nauseous. Klonopin is okay, not as quick acting as Xanax, a bit mellower but seems to last longer. I swear I never thought I would be going down the med road. I just checked in with my hubbie again. He likes to josh with me on my look (or lack thereof) and decided he is going to join me in this "Year of the Frump", we are both gonna just let it all hang out so to speak, lol. It is his way of showing allegience to me I guess. That's fine with me, my hubbie is a cutie and I look like a zombie from the Michael Jackson (RIP) video "Thriller" except there is absolutely nothing thrilling about the way I look. At least we can both look crappy until I (or rather my hormones) decide I can climb out of this hole. I am curious to see what Dr. Reiss has in store for me and what my blood work indicates. Though regardless of blood work it doesn't take a rocket scientist to know what is going on with me and most of us here. I hate blood work results they scare me. H@ll what doesn't scare me these days. I bet many women end up becoming druggies or alchies about this time in life. Sometimes I swear if I could find something that would keep me in a semi zonked out state until this passes I might consider it and then go to rehab to detox, lol. I wouldn't but I sure know how you could get to that place. Not feeling comfortable in your own skin is the worse feeling in the world. Cynthia you sound like you got it handled in the best way you can. I am sure your hubbie will stand by you, he also may appear puzzled now and again but h@ll so are we, lol.

P.S. My husband promises he still adores me and I told him I would just sedate myself for a few years, he could throw food at me in my cave (my bedroom) (he said don't mind the chunks in the food, it's just a little xanax, lol) I said at least he would have a little peace and quiet.... and after all is said and done he promises to visit me everyday in rehab... but hey one thing at a time....

I'm glad you have your husband. Mine walked away even before I knew what was happening to me. I experience all of the stuff listed, and one other thing I deal with that I hate is the lonliness. One person I try to talk with about this time during this time is God. That does seems to help, if I keep it up. Also, I am thankful for PS!

I feel that way too!!!!

yes, yes and yes to all of them!!!!

Yes, I feel like all of those except not too sweaty or gassy. It's been 15 months since my last period.

Hi DanaRae,
Oh honey, I have all the symptoms you listed and a few more on top. Lets add Chronic stupid ridiculous slammin fatigue along with loss of balance, joints that feel like they are crusted and rusted, (heck, I can't even wear a pair of high heels anymore !) Heat intolerance, cold intolerance, visual disturbances and a fuse so short I end up saying many things I regret. Oh and lets add a bottomed out ferritten level and exercise intolerance. Actually, I am pretty much intolerant to anything anymore!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hugs Debra

I'm sorry that your hubbie didn't have the cajones to stand by you even before all of this hit. I know lonliness can be overwhelming. Especially, when you aren't really cultivating friendships so much, meaning at least for me I just don't have the energy. Fortunately I have many good friends (I have had for years) who are there and check in with me but understand that I am a bit flakey these days. I am just honest with them because they deserve that and because it takes stress off of me. I don't pretend to be or feel anything other than what I am feeling. They have iives so it all works out. I have one friend who will call me and say OK woman time to get your tush up and out even if it's just for lunch. Sometimes that actually works, lol. My sister who is a born again Christian but isn't preachy or pushy just told me today that I should give this over to God. I tend to believe her. Even though sometimes I think what did I do so bad to piss God off, I realize that as always he is taking care of me. I was a single Mom 5 years ago, living paycheck to paycheck in a little apartment, in the escrow biz (and we all know how the RE market has gone), I did okay and was proud of myself. All I know if I was going through this then I swear I am not sure what would have happened. But here I am today married to a wonderful man, in a lovely home and the ability to take some time off if I need to (not forever of course) to deal with some of this peri stuff. I am grateful for that, God is with me, I just know it. I am sure I have posted this on many postings. But, even in the midst of my most miserable moment I try to remember how graced I am by this, by his gift of keeping my son and myself safe with a roof over our head and a loving husband/stepfather keeping things going. I know so many woman going through personal struggles in addition to peri/meno and there but for the grace of God go I. They are forging ahead, there are so many truly strong women on this site. They are amazing. I know that the women are here for you Woman and I hope you have some good friends that you can reach out to for a real hug or for some support. I think we as woman who perceived ourselves as strong and self reliant feel guilty and ashamed that we cannot deal with all of the emotions that overwhelm us. This is not something we did, it is something happening to us. That said, we will have to dig deep into our reserves (I personally don't have that many reserves left) and find our to the other side.

Thank you for your encouraging words. I'm thankful for my friends, and that one special friend who also tells me when "enough is enough" it is just that........enough is enough. I guess after 25 years of marriage, and he decides to walk away without even a chance, it can sometimes be a little painful. But regardless of that, I have to keep encouraging myself, and realize that one day it will be alright.

You are so welcome. It is wonderful to have our friends isn't it? A stupid cliche saying is "time heals all wounds and wounds all heals", lol. 25 years is a long time and I can't even imagine how difficult processing everything has been for you. All the hormones that we need to carry us through crisis's are depleted making everything even MORE. Not that there are enough hormones in the world that can make what happened to you any easier to deal with. It is true though that take each day as it comes and somehow we do get through these difficult days don't we??

Take care,
Mich

Yep that about sums it up

Wow, Thanks all for the replies. I appreciate all the feed back., I made an Appointment with a Ob for tomorrow. Maybe I will get some answers and some help. I am so ready to feel normal if there is such a thing.

Yes..I have all of those symptoms. Plus some other digestive upsets. And headaches too.
I don't often talk to God but I do talk to my Grandmothers who passed away a long time ago. I find it helps me to think they are watching over me and trying to tell me it's OK.

I hope you are doing better today. And I am feeling so fortunate to have found this site.

Maura