Hello,
I have been in the very worst of peri since last September. It has escalated my anxiety and panic over my children. If my children go anywhere, I immediately need to text them and everytime I think about them being somewhere I start to let my mind wander and go into panic mode. I have always been a bit of a worrier and have been overprotective but now I am over the top. I do not like them to go places without me. I worry so much that I can barely function. I know in my mind that I am being ridiculous but for whatever reason continue to worry about them way to much. They are 17 and 14 (boys).
I wish I could let them go without my extreme panic. I worry that something is going to happen no matter what they are doing. It is like gloom and doom until they return. I cannot sleep if they are away.Does anyone else suffer from this?

ABSOLUTELY.
I worry about them constantly.
I too have to text them when they are not with me.
If I hear a siren and either of them are out somewhere, I will not rest until I have contacted them, to make sure they are ok and not the ones needing the ambulance I just heard!!

Back in Feb when my Peri symptons really started freaking me out, the anxiety over health and my children escalated. It was at this time the 17 year old wanted to go to an all night party, (all sorts of scary situations were flying through my mind). However he went, and I can honestly say I cried and shook all night until I heard from him the next morning - when he called and asked if I would fetch him. He was over an hours drive away and I literally flew to get to him!!

We have 3 boys aged 21, 17, and 11 and I worry about them all in different degrees.

I know I have to let them grow and be independent - and I do - but inside I am full of worry and fear.

Just to let you know you are not alone in how you feel.

(((BIG HUGS))) Take Care

Jackie

the mothers worry gene does not close down when they are 18- mine are over 25 and still give me lots to worry bout, only differance is they really dont listen to me now....the only thing you can do is pray, cause once they walk out that door its out of your hands.... good luck... oh and when they have kids it starts all over....

That's EXACTLY right!!!!!

Oh Yeah! I do the same thing with my 17 year old son and almost 13 year old daughter. If son is 1 minute late I start to text/call, and heaven help him if he doesn't answer. Peri has definately made it worse, I literally pace around the house until he gets home....

Oh yes definatley relate.

My mobile rang the other day with my Daughters nursery on screen,nearly fainted and a million things flashed through my mind before I had even answered it...

Could hardly hear what they were saying as the blood was rushing through my head and my heart thumping so loud...

As I managed to compose myself all they basically wanted to know was as they were having a "Guide dog"in that day was my Daughter allergic to animals and did they have permission to let her stroke it???

I then spent the rest of the day worrying the Dog may bite her.............

Boy can I agree and relate to this!

Oh yes, mine is 27 and been on his own since he was 21 and he is more of a worry than ever. Or I make it into more of a worry. I suspect it's the latter, but I can't seem to stop.

Hi KIm,

I just got your private message, and yes it does get better.
I came here a long time ago -
yes, one of the 'ol timers. I started posted in 2003 I think.
Then I got better, then I came back to help return that help to others.

Now I'm going through other health stuff ( not meno) so I don't have the time I would like to jump
in and help, but hopefully one day. :-) Fortunately there are some great and smart ladies here with Big Hearts,
Hang in there!

HUGS,
Mary Beth

Ditto: My eldest son was later than usual coming in last night - I text him, called him, left messages - no reply!! I was frantic, pacing round the house until he arrived. I have always been a worrier but since Peri it is most definately worse.

I used to be like this all the time when my son was a teenager. I found it does ease however, he's 23 now. You just have to let go eventually and trust that they know how to keep themselves safe (all that 'drilling' them on doing things safely when they were younger hopefully takes root in their minds). I do find it's easier now he's in his twenties. The older he gets, the more of a responsible attitude he seems to have. Teenagers do have to be protected from themselves to an extent I think - they're hungry for new things but have no personal experience from which to develop wisdom - so I see anxiety over teenagers as a normal thing for parents. Eventually however, I think that you have to grant that they're adults and leave the living of their lives up to them.

Of course, it probably helps that I'm post meno now and no longer in the phase of suffering hormonal anxiety! I think older children separate gradually emotionally, even as they go through their twenties. The more they do independently and handle well, the more you see you can trust them and the more you can adjust your own attitude.

Yes!!!! I needed to read these messages to know I'm not alone with my own excessive worry/panic...except mine is also depression at the moment too. I am so worried about my youngest daughter driving to school everyday starting next week, my oldest may be moving far away for a few months, my youngest also has severe food allergies...just so many different things I'm worried about at the moment and can't seem to find the peace I need. I'm a Christian, "supposedly" trust in God, but yet I am still in panic-mode. I hope it's just the hormones and will pass in time. How are yall dealing with all this and even functioning? I don't feel like doing anything, but that doesn't help my mood either. I've read that estrogen is like a tranquilizer in the brain, works like an anti-depressant (I take Prozac already)...so this withdrawal of estrogen is really causing us mental strain, especially for those of us who have always been "worriers" in the first place. I had a mini-breakdown yesterday when my husband criticized me (whether it was needed or not)...and couldn't get over it...still mad at him today.... I'm thankful for these boards!

Kim -

I was very tired when I saw your messages in my inbox last night - and I was in the middle of my work day.
So I may have just sounded like a meno Fog Girl! I didn't mean to! XXOO

I wanted to add that yes, although many ladies here could attest to the fact that nearing the end of peri,
I was so full of energy, that I was always so busy, and they asked could I bottle it!
- the same is still true, DESPITE
the fact that I am now on antihistamines for an allergic condition.
It does get better.
I think for some, the anxiety is the last to go - unless you keep trying everything you can thing of.
I swore up and down to the Drs that I tried and tried and could not stay awake on antihistamines.
They gave me the usual about antihistamines - give it time you will have to get use to it. I didn't believe it at all.
Well it was true - first off, I *had to be on the meds - I am allergic to ME - a weird condition.
Second, I DID get used to the high doses, although it took about a month, I'm back to being full of energy except at night.
Then I sleep like a log.

The reason I can't really make use of all my energy, is some other stuff. Age and life related, but not meno
- Like I moved - and have some newly diagnosed
medical stuff - like a herniated disc ( back injury) and paralyzed leg, so I can't get out and walk and such.

Which part were you wondering if it goes away?

I do admit one thing that so many of the Gals here nearing the end of peri have talked about.
It was AWFUL for years, then slowly better and awesome for me, then winding down peri, I got a little cranky,
then I went 8-9 months with no period, but then had a period about 2-3 weeks ago ( I never wrote it down - on no!)
But I cannot gauge tired or anything right now, I just moved and I have some serious health problems non-meno).
If and when I get those addressed I might be able to sort it all out - about if I feel better now.
I'm too worried to really be able to live more than a day at a time....
My stuff is a hemophilia thing, A Breast Surgery issue, and several genetic disorders. - Affecting joints, blood, allergies, and much more,
and some are similar to peri symptoms, but my bloodwork and labs show I have some other stuff too.

I wish I could be more helpful about the ending. My periods stopped 4 times in the last 5 years -
all of them to do with deaths of people close to me, most of them violent deaths. So I really cannot say.
Just that it impacted my body and yeah, I did go to a Shrink about it. Thankfully I am fine in the head.
( although I joke that I don't believe it) .

I'm tired today. from being up until 4am working with my husband on medical records. So I'm sorry if I am not as focused
as I sometimes am - we just got around to coffee just now!

I do hope you are ok,
and you can write me here or leave me a message by clicking my Name, then My Profile - there is a section where people leave
each other messages over in the margins. I don't always get to checking private messages, and they fill up.

Wishing you well and HUGS,
Mary Beth

i m going through it right now my sons don't live with me but i am constantly on yahoo messnger bothering them lol My one son has been having partial seizures which came out of nowhere and i am always checking up on him probably thinks i am nuts lol. Don't feel bad we love our kids and never gonna change that.

You are just a worry wart.....You need a job...and guess what I need a maid...you are hired.. ticket is in the mail...Lol

[quote name='scooterfroogie' date='Aug 3 2009, 06:49 PM' post='301608']
You are just a worry wart.....You need a job...and guess what I need a maid...you are hired.. ticket is in the mail...Lol

Hey funny girl, I would be a great maid... And you are right I need a job!!I wish you lived here and I would do all your laundry and make you great cinnamon rolls.

I'll move there if you'll be my maid!! and i LOVE cinnamon rolls!