Well I would be with my ten year old but to me thats like being alone My problem is that I want to go to uk in june to see my mother who i haven't seen in three years, to begin with it was going to be me, the 10 year old and my 19 year old going but now she says she doesn't want to go I'mtrying to put a brave face on and make out I can still go but inside I'm feeling sick and panic striken! It not just the flying bit but the going through customs the whole thing really, know it nothing to worry know it easy but still doesn't help I can imagine myself just running out of airport. Think i will have to beg my daughter to change her mind. I just feel so stupid and ashamed of myself that I just can not do something other people don't even think about

Hi shirlann,

Please don't feel stupid and ashamed. A wise counselor once told me, "Feelings are like tissues; use them and throw them away."

Your mom will be waiting there for you, I assume, excited and happy and your daughter will be seeing grandma. Try to think of that of what you are giving each of them. The airport is English, so all the signs will be readable and you'll just go from one check point to the next. You will be fine. And hopefully, have a wonderful trip full of good memories for all of you.

Good luck and happy flying!

I am in the exact same situation as you..! I would like to fly up North to see my family, it has been too long. They are terrified to fly, bu so am I! I would be going with my son who is 12..so it will be like flying alone. I am terrified too. But, I think for me I have been procrastinating for so long and coming up with the all the things that could go wrong, I have worked myself into a tither..yikes!

But...I am going to go. Because I miss my family terribly and time is so short, you know? You will be safe, maybe you could get some xanax or something from your doctor? That is what I am doing, Ihave to..or I will have a panic attack. I already forwarned my parents, I may be in a little "stupor" when you first see..but as long as it keeps me sane?!

I hope you go and see your family, you will do just fine..it is just our minds playing the fear game with us.

Take Care,

Sunny~

I've had to cancel trips due to having terrible anxiety and worry. It's not just about being scared to fly (although that's a big part of it), it was the overwhelmed feelings I would get just thinking about packing, trying to get to the airport on time, the hassle when you get there, the increased chance these days of delayed or canceled flights. And at the worst of it, when I had my health anxiety and had heart palps and other strange symptoms, I was terrified I would die while I was gone or have episodes on the plane. I worried about what could happen when I got there, you name it, I worried about it.

I have to fly to Mass next week to see my mom, and I'm trying not to think about it, but I am far better now than I was just last year since starting the estrogen and thyroid. Now I'm just afraid to fly but I've always had that.

Two years ago we had scheduled our fist trip to Disney World so 12 yo DS could experience it. That morning I almost went to the ER, my bp had spiked, my heart palps were awful, and the anxiety was through the roof. I was terrified to go on the trip, but DS was so looking forward to it that I was determined not to wreck it for him, so I just decided that I would make myself go and if I died on the way from the heart issue, then oh well. As it turned out even though I had a couple of episodes while there and was somewhat anxious, it wasn't as bad as I had envisioned.

So just refuse to let your mind dwell on your anxieties and don't think of all the 'what ifs' like I did. Just tell yourself it will all be fine, you will be fine, and you will enjoy yourself.

Shirlann,

I am in the same boat.(actually a boat may be better!!!)

I have a flight booked to go to the UK (7 hour flight from Washington DC) with my 8 year old daughter in July, and I am already panicking....I dread being on the plane and the feeling of being 'trapped'...that I may pass out or have a heart attack or a huge panic attack and die.

I went back at Christmas, but my husband was there too....mind you, that didn't really help!!

I used to be a travel agent AND LOVED to travel and fly before I had my daughter.....I really don't know why I am so terrified of it now.

One thing I did do before and during my flights was to meditate (I have been learning the art since November) and some EFT (tapping on certain meridian points, see website www.emofree.com)...the meditation did seem to calm me somewhat, but the EFT I did in the 'loo' - didn't want anyone to see the bizarre tapping! - at the airport
before the return 8 hour flight, REALLY calmed me and I did not panic once!

Of course I am still extremely anxious again about flying 'on my own' with my daughter, so am going to keep meditating and doing the EFT, hopefully it will have the same effect!!!

Keep your mind busy also....get a good book, a sudoku or some kind of mind game to keep you occupied and if you do get the panic during the flight try and distract yourself by striking up a conversation with someone or simply tell yourself 'this is all in my mind and I am NOT my mind'.

Wish we could travel together......2 loonies in the bin!!!

Caz

that b good! Thanks for replies am going do all you say I know things are always worse in my head

all you girls, you'll be fine!!! if you have trouble sleeping on planes, take along some tylenol p.m. or something similar. it really helps for the long distance trips--just make sure you take it early in the flight, so you aren't too drowsy going through customs and whatnot.

much luck all!
just pretend that we're all in the plane together! now that's frightening!

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(((angel)))

I understand your anxiety. I had such bad anxiety last month, I was afraid to drive across town, which is so UNLIKE me. I am excited to read that someone else is using EFT and meditation! During the past few months, these techniques have helped me get through several "overwhelming" commitments (work and family events that wouldn't have caused anxiety a year ago). EFT and BWT (brainwave entrainment / meditation) seem to also help me manage heart palpitations and tremors. I'm still learning, but so glad to find something I can do to help myself... it's like a "place" I can go when meno make me feel that I can't go anywhere... Power Surge is a place like that too. Thanks for your posts. Love your sense of humor!

Solatido

Just to say had nice holiday everything went fine

Thats funny, I was going to say...why don't you two get together and make the flight together. Your kids can hang out and you two can hang on to each other!!