I have felt the rage before at the grocery store, in traffic, etc. I tell people exactly what is on my mind without tact alot more than I used to but yesterday, OH Boy!!!

I was driving through my neighborhood about 20 mph, rounded the corner just before my street and there were a bunch (15) boys playing basketball in the street. They are there everyday and this is not a problem because they have no where else to play in our neighborhood.

The problem I have is these boys will not move when there is a car coming until you are right on top of them. Yesterday, I was pissy already and when I approached them they just looked at me and stayed in the street. So being the nicest person I know , I hopped my gas pedal a little to let them know to move. Well..........

There was a woman out there and she made the mistake of saying "Slow the F**K down right now". I slammed on my brakes, backed up to her, opened my door and said do we have a problem. She furthered her mistake and said yes we do! She said I was speeding around those kids.

I let her have it verbally but wanted so bad to hit her that my daughter kept saying, Mom get back in the car!!! It must have been the look on my face or something because she stopped talking suddenly and said we have no problem and I will make sure these boys get out of the street when a car is coming.

On one hand, it felt good to yell at someone but on the other, I am ashamed that I took pleasure in scaring the **** out of someone who does not even know me.

Hugs to you all,
Jeaninne

I know exactly how you feel when I drive around my neighborhood and the "brats" are in the street playing whatever and do not move an inch even when a car is coming towards them! What did their parents teach them, to be rude? First, they shouldn't be playing in the middle of a street, that is what parks are for. I bet it felt good to yell and get it out, sometimes I wish I could do that too!

Hugs, Barb

Yes, I've had this look on my face before too. Maybe when you are feeling more cordial, apologize for your anger but explain to her how frustrating it is to wait on them rather than them dispersing for travelers as they should.

(((Hugs)))

I agree, they should have moved!They seen you coming!!That urkes me when a kid sees a car coming and they are like 'what are you gonna do hit me'?

I no what you mean about speaking your mind. I do that alot more these days. I have spent years getting ran over by people, taking whatever they dish out to me.

We have neighbors that we have gotten along with ever since we have lived here. All of a sudden the neighbors kids are teens and turn into snots. The youngest was saying things he shouldn't say to little girls or any girl or anyone for that matter. He would just bug her, when she was playing in our fenced yard. I called the police & the chief answered. Told me the boy wasn't doing anything wrong. I said well, if you think it's okay for teen boys to call little girls B** then you are nothing but an A** and hung up on him. We dealt with this boy thru 2 summers. He would ride tire to tire and bug my daughter when she was riding her bike. I talked to grandma because mom was never home. Then she cursed me out and told me my daughter needed to learn how to deal with boys. Then the next time, I talked to the mom, the boy said my daughter was bugging him too. I was like WELL, she is trying to do whatever she can to stick up to a teenage boy???It was supposed to stop and it didn't. Then they were in the back yard throwing firecrackers in our pool, while the kids were swimming. Firecrackers hit my daughter on her back while going off. I had her dig the soggy firecrackers out of the pool. I marched over to the house & the mom was getting ready to come outside. I said 'i came here to see if your kids would like their firecrackers back' she was like 'huh'?I told her what they did. And she accused my kids of throwing fireworks at her car. I was like that is bullcrap and you no it. I told her if my kids got hurt because of them shooting fireworks at them I would be P**. She said same goes for my car. She told me to get vines off of her fence. I told her I wasn't doing a thing for her!She said 'we would see her in court' like she was trying to scare me. I turned around and told her 'take me to court, i dare you' 'i didn't plant those vines'. I made her studder HAHAHA. Her dog kept getting out of the backyard, animal control would just throw it back in the fence. Then someone else on the block complained and he actually did something about it. She told the guy that she seen me rip a fence panel off of her fence & that is why the dog was getting out. We didn't get along with each other and that is why I am complaining. I said ok, well, maybe I will get a big dog and let it run all over the neighborhood & see how she likes it P** all over her brand new car!!!!Why would I rip a fence panel off of her fence?That is ridiculous!Ended up the dog getting shot with a tranq gun because the officer had to keep coming out & they got rid of the dog, i think they finally started to get tickets for it?

I went to city hall and complained about the chief last summer. I wrote a big speech about the boy & how things went for the past 2 summers and no one wanting to do anything about it. They blamed me for not going to the mom first. I was like OMG, I was afraid that the mom would talk to me like the grandma did. It doesn't matter he was doing something that the police could have called juvenille about. I went to a lawyer and found out I could have pressed charges. He could've been charged with stalking and/or something else, I can't remember. I didn't press charges and now regret it, but?We don't look at each other or speak to one another. And that is just fine with me!

But, for that lady yelling at you & not knowing what she was talking about is ridiculous. If you were going to hit them, you wouldn't have stopped HAHA.

Amber

Amber, I totally can relate to what you are going through. We have neighbors who both work all hours and leave their kids home alone and they are constantly in the street and in our yard and they are just obnoxious. Most of the time they don't get home until late and those kids are out in the dark and you can't even see them when you drive by. My son will not have anything to do with them thank goodness! I am hoping their 1 year lease which is up in June is NOT extended and they go on their merry way:)

I know where you are coming from and sometimes this scares me. I often participate in road rage once in a while and after it is over, I think to myself that one of these days I will get shot by someone. People are just so angry when driving and South Florida, specifically Miami, was at one time #1 for road rage, not sure if it still is. I live close to Miami and it is just about the same. I just thought of your post as I just got into it with some lady who got snotty at me (as if it was my fault) and being that anger and irritation is one of my main perimenopause symptoms, I cannot hold it in. Needles to say some "F" words were thrown at each other. It seems worse when I pick my son up from school as that area is such a damn mess when school lets out. Anyone notice moms having it out when driving to pick up their kids? And, also the kids who walk home just walks in the street and takes their freeking time. Sheeessshhh. Wish I was on a nice quiet little island somewhere.

I can relate, believe me. So many times I’ve said and done things over the past couple of years that I would have called “crazy” if I had seen someone else do the same. Sometimes rationality just flies out the window, and when I look back, I can’t believe it was ME who said that!

I saw this news article the other day, and it illustrates how far this can really go. The article mentions that the woman was bipolar, but seeing her age, I have to wonder how much of an influence her hormones played in this deadly drama.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-10...ent-flames.html

That pic of the 'woman' on the right is not a woman, that is a man dressed as a woman. Is it a transvestite or transsexual? In any case, the person has obviously got some deep-seated anger.

The woman on the left is the person whose car was rammed. The MAN on the right is the person who tried unsuccessfully to pull the victim from her burning car.

The poor woman who “lost it” and died in the fire is not pictured.

This is a sad story, anyway you look at it.

OH! LOL! I thought it was a previous pic of the woman who rammed the car.

Back when I was a senior in high school I was driving home one day, and as usual a group of neighborhood boys were playing ball in the street, and as usual they barely moved from the middle of the road to let me pass. So for the one and only time I didn't slow down for them, and I drove in a straight line, so that I passed one of them at about 30 mph with about 14 inches between us. I still remember the look on his face as I went past, and I still remember that after that day they got out of my way! Not sure I'd have the guts to try that now - I'm a little wiser .

Well...um...last fall (when I was probably peaking into my perimenopausal experience) my husband & I returned home from bike ride & the door from his truck hit my leg. It didn't really hurt, but some big big rage frothed up within me & I reared back & kicked kicked kicked that door, screaming obscenity all the while... My husband had a very nervous look on his face, but sweet guy that he is....he said nothing, just quietly put things away while I zipped around like a tornado, & not a little tornado but an F5 or more...

And this is not the only tale of my nasty meno self. I am at least proud to say that I try to limit my raging to yelling by myself in my car. The things I have said in my empty car would make a sailor blush. Many sailors....

Good for you, Jeaninne. Just reading your experience gave ME satisfaction. I'm so sick of brats these days having no clue. Have you seen the movie Gran Torino? Man, love it!

Yesterday, I had a rare episode of road rage (my daughter was in the car with me). I was on a main road, turning left onto another main road (so I was in a turning lane). I had a green (but NOT a green arrow)(which had already turned off by the time I'd arrived at the light). There was an oncoming car getting ready to turn right onto the same road I was getting ready to turn left onto. So I waited a bit. Waited for that car to go ahead before I made my turn. As I understood it THAT car had the right of way. It made sense. Well, this big A$$h.... BOX TRUCK behind me in the turning lane HONKED at me to go, trying to tell me what to do. Well this REALLY LIT MY FUSE. I felt this SURGE of adrenalin well up inside me, so I gestured stupidly and ineffectively out the window back at the truck, then I peeled out, turning left at about 90 miles an hour (slight exaggeration), against my own wishes. Then I sped for about the next 5 miiles zooming in and out of traffic trying to lose the truck (which I kept seeing not too far behind me). I was SHAKING I was so mad. I was FUMING. Felt a little Thelma and Louise-ish, yet I didn't say a word. My daughter kept saying, "mom, aren't you going a little fast?" she was a little scared. But I was in full control. My heart was pounding and I could have killed someone. If I had wanted to. But I also felt a little paranoid that the truck was trying to catch me and report me.

Bottom line: I'm SO SICK of A$$h....s trying to tell me WHAT to do and WHEN to do it. 99% of the time I'm too nice and I don't stick up for myself.

I never honk at people to make their decisions. I think it's the height of rudenss and it's asking for a fight.

It took me a few hours to calm down, then I felt emotionally exhausted. I hadn't felt so angry in a long time; in a way it was intoxicating but I also scared myself.

I'm thinking maybe perimeno has a BRIGHT side in that it can open up a new mode of self-expression and assertion which might be appreciated by people like me (who've always had difficulty expressing anger (or even recognizing it), and keep these feelings locked up inside too often.

Well done Stitch

Been there BUT not done it........... YET