Am I the only one who when things are bad in a meno way plus the stresses of life of course tend to target their spouse? I'm fine with the kids and others but want to shred my husband. I am so violent emotionally towards him right now (yessss...including fear, insecurities and jealousy) that I told him I hated him to his face this morning. I know I don't. Last night I laid in bed wanting out of everything including life ( I apologized to God for it to!). I was doing so much better then BAM! All the meno madness is back! I feel like I am slowly going insane and am almost ready to commit myself!

Hello? Nobody home today?

i guess from the huge showing of responses, you ARE the only one... just kidding!!! count me in! my hub told me the other day that he was tired of me being so short with him. we were standing in the middle of the grocery store and you could've knocked me over with a feather with his outburst (the conversation got worse from there but i'll spare you the details)! these hormones are so whacked out right now! hang in there, lady! i'm told it'll get better!!

(((hugs)))
gyz

No I do the same ..don't feel bad.

There are times when I daydream about him having an "accident" and me having him cremated. In my dreams, I don't want to spend a lot of money for a funeral and I get rid of EVERYTHING that reminds me of him. Then I feel this huge sense of relief. A feeling of freedom like I've never known. And then I'm finally happy and can go on with my life.

On days like this, I don't want to see him, hear him, smell him, or even think about him. And this morning has been one of those days so far.

NO Ladybugs, you're NOT ALONE at all...................

Whew! Thought there for a min I WAS going crazy! I "feel" most times nowadays that my life would be better if he were not in it.....simpler maybe. I know it's not true, it's just lately I want him away away AWAY from me and find myself telling him over and over to just "leave me alone!" I also agitated ALL the time emotionally like somebody is just dancing on my spine, I can't seem to calm down and I cry a lot the last few days. Crazy huh?

Dear'Texasgirl"
Yes a nice little accident,Agatha Christie style,followed by a cheap and cheerful funeral sounds about right.
Husbands can be so annoying and we are at this time in our lives when we no longer want to pamper or listen to every moan and groan.
I think that is why women,roughly in our age group,if they get divorced tend not to re-marry as much as divorced men.Our days of washing socks,and always losing one,as well as cooking are no longer high on our agenda.
Yesterday my husband asked me if there were scales at the place where I go for Yoga as he felt he should gently advise me that I am getting a bit too full!I was too shocked to answer but felt so upset inside that I started to diet.

Thank God I have some great women friends and my own life.

All the Best
Elizabeth

Dear'ladybugs'
Actually I was out most of the day so only just read your post.
You are definitely one hundred per cent not alone.If you read my reply to Texas Girl you will know my feelings too!
Am fairly sure I could live very well on my own as the older I get the more independent I feel,and the less I feel like tending to all his needs. and petty complaints.

On many occasions he has made me feel so anxious that I have had to down a Xananx when I know he is on his way home
What a ridiculous way to live!

Anyway there are some fairly good days too.
So hope you will feel better knowing you are not alone!

Best Wishes
Elizabeth

Oh Ladybugs.......

Are you the only one ???????? I don't think so my dear. Most likely there isnt anymore room on the bus!!!!!!!

Dee

No, you're not alone....we always hurt the ones we love most at this time in our lives. But be kind, because he might too be hurting as well and might be trying to come to terms with the fact that he can't do anything to help. Men find that tough. I take all my frustration out on my hubby too ....despite what I just said!! Try to keep cheerful and don't harbour dark thoughts. They can 'get to you' otherwise. You're not alone. Love and hugs Antique

I don't want my husband to leave me alone. Because who would I scream at and be mean to then?

Dear'kenc'
Love that answer!
Thanks for making me laugh
Elizabeth