All was well in the end.

Wedding was this past weekend, and thanks to all of you who helped me keep my cool throughout. It was tough.

It was absolutely beautiful, all of it.

Got through the rest of the planning without any interaction whatsoever with my daughter's mil. When she was so ugly to me the last time we talked, with her insistence of she didn't wanna talk to me, why did she have to talk to me, over and over again. I told her then, she didn't have to, and we got to the conclusion without my having to talk to her anymore, somehow. Unfortunate that things had to get so testy.

But we were able to get it all done, and it was a wonderful success. Daughter and her new dh, on their honeymoon cruise, as we speak.

The rehearsal dinner (yawn), was b-o-r-i-n-g. No organization whatsoever to it. The food was scrumptuous, I'll say that much. But it just wasn't very festive and fun.

The wedding though, was absolutely beautiful. The reception, was a blast. I think almost everyone there, including the groom's family, was out on the dance floor at one time or the other. Everyone said they had a great time, that it was wonderful. Even my daughter's mil, who had ........... (see above) ............when we last had any dialogue at all, was ugly in her insistence that she didn't wanna talk to me. Even she, in the end, came up to me, and told me what a beautiful job I'd done with the reception, that it was so nice, so much more than she'd ever imagined, and that she'd never seen anything like it. I wanted to ask her "what kind of reception have you seen then?!?!?!?!". I've been to a few receptions in my lifetime, and always the variation has been from the basic church hall reception of cake/punch/mints, nothing much for music, entertainment, all the way to a full course *served* meal with a full open bar, and a band or dj, and everything in between.

My daughter's was a buffet dinner, and a limited bar, with a dj. As I said the mil's comment of ".............I've just never seen anything like it". I wanted to ask her, "what is you've seen then, if not a reception like this?!?!?!?". Maybe now she has some clue what it is I was trying to do, especially, if she's never "seen anything like it".

But, very gracious of her, if I do say so.

I wish I could say I'd been as gracious at conclusion of the rehearsal dinner, and complimented her, but I did not. Feel bad about not having done so. But truthfully, it was soooooooooooo b-o-r-i-n-g. No toasts, no fun and frivolity. Just the opening blessing delivered by the groom's g'father (which was very very good), and the rest was just dinner, and that was that. Nothing more.

I guess I could've just gritted my teeth and said it though, and I didn't.

So I feel bad for that. But at least his mother was gracious enough to have complimented us on the job we did with the wedding and reception.

The groom's g'mother (who I've always thought a lot of), must've hugged me, about 6 or 7 times that night, and told me how wonderful it all was, that she was so happy with it all. And this was the mil's mom.

So, in the end, all was well. They are now married, and it's behind us. Thankfully.

Doaker,

Wow.....I'm so happy for you. Now you have some beautiful memories of your daughter's wedding and that's a precious thing! I'm glad you were able to keep your cool with the mil and hopefully it will be the foundation for the future. What a relief it must be that everything went so well....congratulations!

DianaJJ

Doaker,
I've been following this stressful saga of yours and actually breathed a sigh of relief after reading this post. Guess I got so caught up in the whole thing. But I'm very glad things went so well and so smoothly in the end. It must be a huge load off your shoulders.

So now what will you do with all your spare time? LOL

Yay!!!

Now we wait for you guys to become co-grandmas!!!lol,I am glad for you and your daughter.GOD-bless

Ok, whoever said "now we wait for us to become grandmas", I am in NO HURRY.

Do you know that my daughter's mil has pushed for that, sooner rather than later. And it's my daughter, who had the good sense (so far anyway) to respond to that, "oh ya know, it'll be enough for both of us to adjust to being married people, starting our careers, saving some money, I think kids can wait".

Dang. It's supposed to be the "elders" imparting that wisdom to the young ones. NOT the other way around. Good for her, (hopefully she'll keep those goals, for a while anyway).

As to what I'll do with my spare time now, it is interesting. There has been more than once that I am sure I'm supposed to be calling one of the vendors to confirm, or checking this item or that item, etc., in the last few days. I have a good book to read, and I'll start on that soon. I had hoped to be able to just "escape" for a long weekend with dh, in the next few weeks. But I really can't. I have utilized all my vacation time I had, from work, ....... what I had left anyway, ............ with the wedding. So I don't have anymore time off until June, when I am allotted this next year's time off. And though I "would" just ask for the time without pay, just a couple of days, for a long weekend, ............ where I work, that isn't an option. You either take the time off you are allotted or you don't take time off, period. And if you have no time off left on the books, then, you work. Period.

Once I get a second wind, daughter's bedroom remodel is on the agenda. She is moved out now, married, has her own place. And so I'm eager to turn that into a "guest" bedroom. Right now, no $$$$, and no energy.

I could sure use just a decompress weekend away. But doesn't look like that will occur. Not right away.