I've been really stressed out lately because my husband and I are trying to make a very important decision about something affecting our future. I'm questioning the whole thing in my mind because I'm just not real sure I should be making any major decisions right now. I feel like my mind is not strong enough to face what might be the wrong decision. We've always made major decisions together, but he's always trusted me to have that FINAL WORD. I just don't know anymore and I don't want him to think I'm losing my mind. How do I look strong emotionally when I clearly don't feel that way anymore?

I know well, the abyss you speak of...( I felt like I had lost my mind )

I've been is stand-still mode for three years ...only surfacing for re-entry into life (full enchilada)recently..

Take your time, defer to your husband decisions temporarily, if that what you need...

Keeping up appearances did not work in my case... I HAD to ask for help, and plain avoid making decisions if I could..

If you do not feel like you can make a cognative decision right now, DON'T! I am the same way and refuse to do it! Maybe now is the time in your life where you need to trust your husband with all your heart that he will make the right choice. If you star is burnt out at the moment (and arn't all of ours?) this is surely your husbands time to shine!

Thank you both for your answers. It gives me a lot to think about. I feel like I just want to be in the "background" of life.

You are so right LaLa...sometimes you have to defer to other people. In my case, my parents have been life savers for me! It's funny how they say don't make life changing decisions when you are depressed, etc., but if that is your life then you obviously have no choice unless you can trust someone else!


Best Wishes,

TJ

I am so with you!!! We are buying a house and I used to sell New Homes for 12 years and I feel I have to
take the back seat. I have always had an opinion and pretty much told my husband what I thought we
should do. I now let my husband make all the decisions and feel that I am only existing. I look at my
calendar every day to see what I need to do for my Kids (teenagers) and then just try to stay on track.
I used to go shopping, get a coffee, clean my house, buy some plants, talk to friends and now I think
about guilt feelings of the past, think how I'm going to feel if I plan something, and just wonder if I'm
ever going to feel strong again and like my old self. Do any of you feel this way? I used to be so happy
go lucky.

I am so grateful to have found this site!

Kim