So a little background---I am the 'go to guy' in my family----brothers, sister, father, husband, kids-----you get the pic. Anyway, normally i don't mind, but with the hormone mess---I can't take another phone call from somebody who needs my help or advice!!!!!! In my head I am screaming 'LEAVE ME THE HE** ALONE', while i listen patiently. Today is a day when the minute i woke up i felt like a witch. Come into work wanted to do my time and go home---and the boss comes in like LITTLE MISS SUNSHINE times ten!! Had to hear all about her perfect kids and wonderful life!! If I don't type this---all the evil things in my head may come out of my mouth! So thank you for allowing me this forum.

Have a lovely day!

Hi crazymom, I can so relate with you -- I feel this way most of the time as I work with a person who is so self-centered, and only talks about her perfect husband and perfect kids and I just want to vomit! I just keep quiet and it builds inside ready to explode, but I somehow keep it there. I am also the "go to" person in my family and I know exactly what you mean 'LEAVE ME ALONE' is in my head a lot of the times!

Hope you have a better day, mine is just beginning

Hugs, Barb

Dear
crazymom18'

Have encountered a few'Sunshines' in my time and believe me as the sun sets ,as it will one day,they will not be quite so maddeningly up-beat.

Beat her up while she is walking to the car park!

Glad you got it out of your system!

Good Wishes
Elizabeth

Barb
With you too!It must be nice to be perfect whilst the rest of us mere mortals are so flawed.Tell her that she brings such light into your darkness but as it is so dazzingly bright perhaps she could discuss her 'perfection'with others

Enjoy your day!

Warmest Wishes
Elizabeth

Thank you for all your words!!! So happy to realize that I am not the only one! Forgot to mention that I finally fell asleep---then hubby wakes me cause I was snoring (I don't snore!!!) COULDN'T FALL BACK ASLEEP!! Think that may have something to do with this mornings attitude?!

Starting to feel a bit better!

Ugggh. I had a friend from eons ago and her life became like that. So "perfect". "Perfect" kids, "Perfect" husband, "Perfect" home, everything just so perfect. We kind of went our separate ways. As I couldn't take it anymore. I was living a life of a financial struggle and a daughter with *completely out of control* mental illness (oldest). It was sad for me, to have to be around her. What must life be like, where everything is so wonderful, when my world was pretty much helter-skelter, and in shambles, most of the time.

Last I heard she and her dh, who owned a biz, and has lost it in this economy, are divorcing. Her "perfect" son married someone, she cannot stand. The other "perfect" child, can't seem to get through school. Her world has fallen apart.

As much as one might think it'd be easy to sit back and be smug watching it all fall around her. I don't. I feel terrible for her. But ............ from a distance. We haven't re-established the closeness we once had.

As another poster here said, it will come crumbling down, that perfect world. But it's sad to watch.

I literally laughed out loud when I read this!!

Sorry crazymom!! Hang in there!! ((((((((((crazymom))))))))))))

Hope you feel better soon!!

crazymom,maybe your boss needs to go to the Dr. and get this prescription.....LOL

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jd4tugPM83c

I know the feeling very well!!

I drive a school bus and it was not that long ago that I had another driver flag me down, waving her finger at me!!!!

I had gone around her bus on the bus ramp because we had fumes coming from the heater and making us ALL sick and I wanted these children OFF the bus before everyone started throwing up!!

This woman proceeded to tell me NOT TO EVER DO THAT AGAIN!!!

I didnt' explain anything to her at that time. I could see that she would not have cared one way or another. She was MAD because I WENT AROUND HER!!

Wanna guess how long it took her to do the EXACT same thing????

Yea, you're right!!! Not very long at all!! What a hypocrit!!!

This woman has continually tried to push me around! Her bus is lined up BEHIND mine and if my kids are not all boarded and ready to go when SHE is ready, she tries pushing me!! Not literally, but she eases forward to try to get me to go!!

I am not sitting there because I need to do my nails!!!

I have children who get on the wrong bus and children who should be on my bus who are not!!

I cannot tell you the number of times I have wanted to go claw her eyes out!!

But.............because I am bigger than that and I refuse to stoop to her level, I see her as the person she is and then I refuse to give her another moments thought............until now that is!! hehehe

And I have some wonderful medd to keep me from going totally NUTS over something so totally stupid!!









OMG!!!!! THIS IS GREAT!!!!

I THINK MY SISTER COULD USE THIS!!!

HEHEHE

And what kind of meds are these?I think i need some.....

Moonlight,

I take the lowest dose of Celexa and Ativan, which I hardly ever need since the Celexa kicked in.

I suffered for a very long time, refusing the meds and when I could do it no longer and decided to "give in." I then decided that I will never go off of them, if it means going back to the way it was before.

I am so much more at peace with myself and everyone else around me.

And I am NOT a zombie!

Doaker

I have seen this with a PERFECT friend, too.
No one has it all. If they think they do, I think
they might be missing out or not looking at it.
I agree with everything you just said.
-MB

I read this and I went...OMG..I'm not alone...I also had a friend who had a "perfect" life-we were the same age.....but of course peri never affected her because she had the perfect diet and perfect relationship with God-who told her what to eat, what supplements to take and even where her keys were when she lost them.... (I'm not kidding) she got her belly button pierced.....wears teenage fashions and a bikini and is a social butterfly...I'm chunky, would never show my belly button in public, have to wear women's clothes because I can't fit into anything else...I stay home all weekends in my PJ's with the shades drawn.....yeah...she could never relate to my life after peri came into it.....I felt like a total failure compared to her....so...we also went our separate ways

ROTFLMAO!!!

that's awsome!

Glad to know I'm not the only middle aged woman throwing temper tantrums like a 2 year old!! I work in a resort hotel & somedays it's all I can do to be civil,much less hospitable!! Makes it hard to be a part of the hospitality industry!! I'm pretty sure I need progesterone therapy before I get fired or sent to anger management class! Hang in there

yeah, those happy campers are out there and love to brag just to make us feel worse, what goes around comes around, i always say!
loved the utube report..........i thought it was a joke at first!

Dear 'boohoo'
My sister in law is one of Those-A very Happy Campers-!Sailed through Menopause,not even a need to wipe a drew drop from her un-wrinkled brow!Lots of holidays and meals organised down to the last lettuce leaf!
Personally,I think people like that should be banned from mixing with us common folk,we might upset their equilibrium with our Panic Attacks,Messy Cupboards and sticky kitchen floors.I can attest with all honesty to having the afore mentioned.
At least we feel and that is what counts
Must cut my toe-nails!They have that curved inward look.If only I could find my contact lenses or old eye glasses!

Stay happy
Elizabeth

How 'Perfectly' boring!
Imagine even God is on her side!
You are not the failure,my dear .She is.It is all so perfectly phony and one day her bikini will not fit,her face will sag and the piercing will erode and cause gangerene-just kidding!
Personally I think all us normal,flawed people will be ok. and at least we have each other.

Warm Wishes
Totally flawed and loving it!
Elizabeth

Hello All....New to the board , but not to the feelings that you all have. I got on here tonight because I had a major meltdown walking the dogs( one of the dogs escape from my daughter and the woman my loving Golden went up to sniff made a rude comment) and I want to know if Iam crazy or if this is part of perimenopause. I cry all the time, sweat all the time esp at night, bloated all the time, forgetful all the time, no want sex all the time, dont want to socialize at all, and can explode on demand.....Now tell me who wants to be around that....I am constantly apoligizing to my hubby of 20 years, but this is Miserable......how are we suppose to get throught this? Oh and period time is like stand up and things fall out if you know what I mean...I mean what the heck is that????? Is is Diaper time....ugh! Sorry to Vent.....but please this is awful.

Sheryl

Dear 'Yukongurl42'
Welcome to the Forum
You will have a great time here sharing information and getting all sorts of great tips to help you through.Golden Retrievers are beautiful loving dogs and I bet yours is a lot better looking than that silly woman.What's wrong with a little sniff?
No you were not being oversensitive.She over-reacted
However,the other symptoms you mention sound like you have joined the Menopausal crowd.Yes it can be miserable but remember there is a lot of help available to make your transition easier.
The trouble is most of us never knew a thing about Menopause.Just thought periods ended and that was that!Well I had a rude awakening.
Try to get a full Gyno. check up and see where you stand hormonally plus a Thyroid workout.Then you can discuss with your Doctor how to make life more bearable.
You have taken the first step in coming here.
This Site has a way of saving our sanity and knowing that we are not alone.
So hope to see you around

Warm Wishes
Elizabeth

Thanks Elizabeth for responding.....I have a dr. appt tomorrow and it is time for the gyno checkup. Both drs. have checked the hormone level last year and say its normal. My thyroid is normal, well normal with Synthroid, I just had it tested. So I am really stuck as to what I do know. I read that Black Cohosh helps with night sweats so I am taking that. I am more concerned with my emotional state than anything. Not sleeping is not helping. I just seem to fly off, if someone says something anything remotely negative. Thank god I am unemployed right now, or I think I would be fired. I am thankful for this board, my mom is not very supportive and my husband thinks I am nuts half the time. I am really worried Iam in for miserable days ahead.....Sheryl

Dear 'Sheryl'
Just wanted to say that Hormones can test 'normal' at one time and not at another as they are fluctuating.
My husband always thinks I am nuts but as he is too,who cares?
It is possible that Bio. Hormonal treatment may help or HRT.I take Trisequens Forte.It is good.
When I told my Mother-she is 84-about HRT,she said I wish you would stop using drugs!If you are not careful you will wind up like that silly Amy Winehouse!It was no use arguing.
She claimed she had a large glass of whiskey every night before she slept,told my father to keep well away and used a large fan to cool down with.

Anyway stay in touch
Elizabeth

Exactly, I told one of my bosses (big mistake) about some very bad news I had just received, so she would understand if I was a bit quiet that day ... she gave me a weird look and then yelled out CARPE DIEM (sieze the day in latin) .... and rose her fist in the air in a shaking salute. I realized that nobody really cares - and the Little Miss Sunshine's of the world can be total vomit-material when you are not feeling receptive to every wonderful detail ... I mean if people only knew what we were thinking, they would run screaming. I also love the people who say "no really, tell me what is wrong" and then their eyes start to roll back in their head, and they interject as soon as possible with what THEY think ... or with a story about what THEY went through.