I came across this board while trying to research hormones/perimenopause, and I am so grateful to have found a community of others possibly going through the same symptoms as me.
I have no idea where to even start here and I apologize in advance if this becomes too lengthy.
I am a 36 yo SAHM raising 2 young boys, one of which has autism. It is very stressful and draining most of the time and that is what I thought I was experiencing.
I belong to a message board of Labrador Retriever owners and I was first approached a couple of weeks ago by a fellow member who had been reading some of my posts on my health, especially my mental health and after exchanging PM's about perimenopause and her swearing by progesterone cream, I was thinking, "yeah, ok. not really interested in another fad." She generously mailed me a book by Dr. Lee called "What your doctor may not tell you about premenopause", and after reading that book in record time I was on board and felt like the book had been written especially for me. (ok, that does sound a little egotistical, huh?
Now I will backtrack a little to my medical history. I have a complicated endocrine/gyn history. I went through infertility treatment with both of my boys, going through the shots and IUI. My reproductive endocrinologist diagnosed me with PCOS, endometriosis, insulin resistance, hypothyroidism, I don't ovulate, blah, blah, blah. I also have severe IBS, GERD and asthma. After my last pregnancy I developed hypertension and have had it under control since then with meds.
About 1.5-3 years ago I underwent an endometrial ablation and tubal ligation from the severe bleeding I experienced. In fact my periods were so heavy, I had become anemic. I was disappointed that I still had periods after the surgery and they were still fairly heavy, although not nearly to the extent they had been prior.
My obgyn also put me on BCP, Yasmin 28 to help with PCOS, specifically help with losing weight. She had informed me that alot of women with PCOS had tremendous success with losing weight and keeping hormones in check.
While I love my obgyn and she saw me through a high risk pregnancy, she has become increasingly difficult to get into see in between annual pap's for issues like yeast infections that wouldn't go away, UTI's, etc. I called her about 8 months ago when my sex drive completely died. She ordered a blood test to check some hormones which came back within normal range. She recommended I stay on the BCP's and gave me a 'script for Estrace to help with the sex drive, dryness, pain, etc. I tried it for a couple of weeks and I noticed a rash I started developing on my face, so discontinued it.
I have increasingly been feeling worse in every area of my overall health. I never put these symptoms together that they could be explained due to a hormone imbalance/perimenopause.
I went to see a psychiatrist 2 weeks ago for medication management to help with the increased anxiety/rage/severe mood swings I've been experiencing. I really was pretty insistent on not going on antidepressants, since I wasn't really depressed & since I had been on them after the birth of my 1st child for PPD and they made me gain 30 lbs. I am a smoker though and one of my biggest reasons for seeing him was getting help with quitting smoking. I get severely depressed whenever I quit and did agree to try a VERY, VERY low dose of Zoloft and happily took the low dose of Xanax for my anxiety since I was more comfortable taking something as needed.
Less than 1 week later, I read Dr. Lee's book and started looking at all of my symptoms as possibly a myriad of symptoms to one thing....my hormones!!!!
That day, I quit the Yasmin BCP's and the Zoloft (which I had only been on for 1 wk)
I made an appointment, which I had today with a NP at a new OBYN clinic. I really, really liked her and went in telling her I wanted to take more of a natural approach and wasn't interested in a hyster/removing my ovaries, wasn't interested in synthetic hormone's, etc. She was very on board with my plan and sent me to a pharmacist to get a saliva hormone test. She said even if the test come back within range, it doesn't mean we can't still treat the symptoms. I go back this Thursday for an ultrasound b/c I've been having lots of pain, certain they are ovarian cysts.
I had told her that I had ordered some Pro-Gest and she was very on board with me starting that immediately and is fairly convinced I am perimenopausal based on my symptoms. She said as soon as I do the hormone test, I can start using the cream. She doesn't recommend me starting the Estrace back, until we have the results though in case I am estrogen dominant.
Here's one of my questions and I am kinda confused about this. I essentially haven't had a period for almost a year, or have I? I'm confused about that. I haven't had to wear a tampon or even a panty liner in all that time. If I'm lucky, every month (and sometimes I skip completely, haven't really been monitoring it), I go to the bathroom and wipe and there is a little, tiny bit of blood. Next time, there won't be any. Then perhaps later in the day, a little tiny bit again, and that's it!!!!! Maybe about 5-7 days later (like this morning), when I wiped there was a tiny bit of brown, like the end of a period.
So, am I having periods? Are they irregular? Is it just considered spotting? What? I am supposed to do this saliva test on day 19-21 of my cycle if I am still having them. Wondering if I should wait til day 19 of the first spot of blood? I quit taking the BCP's on that day, which I guess would be day 1, and I am only on day 7 now, if it should even be considered. Waiting another week to week in a half would probably be recommended from the standpoint of ensuring the BCP's are completely out of my system to get a clearer, more accurate hormone level, too, right?
Have any of you had the symptoms of perimenopause and it be something entirely different?
The symptoms I've been having are:
no sex drive
basically no periods (although I can still cramp)
dry skin with rashes
irritability/rage/massive mood swings
night sweats (although that hasn't been every night)
Extreme PMS symptoms
breasts feel heavy and sore certain days of the month
I am tired ALL the time. No amount of caffeine helps.
I feel impaired almost all the time, like I've been drinking, which I don't. My mind doesn't feel clear, I am lightheaded and I'm tired like a couple of drinks will make me feel.
vaginal dryness
pain during sex
pain in the ovaries/ovarian cysts
anxiety that is just getting worse every day. Leading to panic attacks
becoming teary, b/c I don't understand why I feel this way, how to help myself
headaches several, several times a day. I call them my functional headaches. They are severe, but they are nagging and don't last too long.
bloating (with severe diarrahea, sulphur burps, gas, although this could just be my IBS)
ok, that is all for now. I have exhausted myself just typing this out.
My family and I are planning our dream vacation to Disney World at the end of April. I don't think I'll be able to go if I feel like this then. I am hoping to get control of this and am really looking forward to starting the Pro-Gest, putting alot of optimism it will make me feel better.
Anything else I should be reading, talking to my NP about in the meantime?
Thanks for reading this if you got this far. I am so sorry it was so long. While it's comforting there are women out there who are going through this, I don't wish this on any woman in the world. Wanted to add, my mother went through menopause early too. She is now 54 and has been post menopausal for about 8-9 years now.
I really look forward to hearing from any of you.
