This is a letter to my wife ,Trying to express my self.
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I’m sorry it’s taking so long to understand how you feel because my feelings get in the way. The conversion starts out a about you and I turn it around to me.
I told you that it would take me time and I understand now that you do and have always loved me but now its time to love your self, the beautiful girl on the outside and, inside you are.
I know it’s hard to tell me how you feel because you don’t really know you’re self. All I can do is lend you a ear when you need to talk (about you). And give support when you need to escape from it all.
I will always be a little jealous, but that’s my soft side. However I can also be a strong, supporting, and trusting husband. I know that’s what you need now.

We have had many amazing kisses but the one you gave me last night out side when you were on the phone made me realize that know matter where your mind is your heart is with me.

In love with you my wife, Live Laugh Love, Your husband.-----

Her response was "I have the best husband in the world, Thanks baby for my beautiful note."
And that was that.
I know things are going to take a lot of work and time, and I didn't expect this to be the magic cure.

But how do I get my head to think, what my heart feels???

grillm8,

Welcome. Many kudo's for your lovely letter to your wife. You seem to understand the need to be supportive and loving to her. No passage in life is easy. I think the answer to your question is "Time", it will take time to understand things from the heart to the mind. Marriage is hard work isn't it??? It makes us grow in ways that are necessary to earn those gray hairs. The wisdom!

An example I have is that my husband has suffered with REAL depression. I have never had a case of real depression and didn't seem to understand all the changes and moods that he was feeling and going through. It took a lot of "time" for me to "get it". I read books, I talked with him, and I thought a lot about it, and finally I began to understand, and with that I changed how I interacted with him, it made it so much better for him and in the end, it made our marriage better.

Anyway, thanks for sharing.

Juliann

Thanks Juliann for your thoughts.

Well I cant speed up time and she not at the point to talk about it because of my feelings of never impending doom of what is going on.
Her body is getting ready to stop the baby cycle who needs to talk to the big one your married to.

Great, now I need her support to give her support.---- THANK YOU GOD, YOU AND I ARE GOING TO TALK WHEN I GET UP THERE!

I guess that is why I am here to get a feel of what is going on, AND SUPPORT!!

Your head may never think what your heart feels....so chose only to listen to your heart.

I know KISS, keep it simple stupid.
Don't over analyze everything.
She tells me that she is in love with me, and that I am her foundation, And"just love me"!